1 Technique To GUARANTEE You Will NEVER Be Rejected By Women Leigh (LoGun) Approaching Women 46 Comments I’ve seen quite a few emails from other dating companies recently giving out FOOLPROOF methods for eliminating the possibility of a woman EVER rejecting you. Frankly, they’re all shit. So, to make sure you get the right information rather than some voodoo magic trick to hypnotise women into becoming your dirty sex slaves… …I thought I’d give you the truth about how to avoid rejection from women. So here it is: The 1 technique that will guarantee that you will NEVER be rejected by a woman again, is: Never talk to a woman again. Seriously. That’s the only way. There’s no other way. If you plan on talking to any women over the course of your life, eventually, you’re going to meet one who isn’t attracted to you. There’s no set of lines, routines, techniques, structures, methods, or tactics that will prevent a woman from saying ‘No.’ None. Anyone who says there is a magic formula for avoiding rejection is trying to sell you snake oil. There is no way of avoiding the eventual “Sorry but I don’t like you in that way” because the array of reasons that women have for not being attracted to you is so vast and infinitely complex that you can’t help but missing some woman’s criteria at some point. Here’s a list of reasons that my very beautiful and very close group of female friends have told me way they’ve rejected guys in the past: – He was too confident – He wasn’t confident enough – I didn’t like his shoes – He was drinking the same drink that my ex boyfriend used to drink – I’d just eaten cheese cake and felt fat – I saw him talking to this bitch I new from high school earlier that night – I was too attracted to him and didn’t trust myself around him There’s no logic to it. There’s no rationalise. There’s no 5 steps that will guarantee you that she’ll be grinding in your lap at the end of the night. Women are human beings. They all have individual desires, experiences, emotions, and feelings. They’re complex creatures that have their own agendas and own plans and if you don’t fit in with them, they’re not going to want to be with you. Sorry to be the one to break it to you but it’s the way of the world. This doesn’t just work for women. This 1 foolproof technique can be transferred to ANY area of your life. If you want to avoid rejection at work, quit your job. If you want to avoid rejection by your friends, cut them all off and never speak to them again. If you want to avoid rejection by your family, tell them all you’ve become a monk and move to another country. Foolproof! To avoid all kinds of rejection, stop chasing your dreams, never state your opinion, don’t stand up for what you believe in, hide your true feelings, never pursue your passions, lock yourself in a room, and never speak to anyone, ever again. It’s the only way. Sure, your life will be frustrating, painful, unfulfilling, unrewarding, lonely, boring, and unsatisfying, but at least you’ll never have to risk being rejected. If you ever plan on living a life that is remotely rewarding, happy, and free, you have to face the possibility that someone, somewhere, is eventually going to disagree with you and reject you. Becoming free, open, happy, and confident, doesn’t happen when you learn to avoid rejection. It happens when you become OK with the idea of rejection and live your life, despite what other people think. So, if you’re fighting the evils of rejection, you have two options here: 1. Lock yourself inside your bedroom and never come out. Don’t talk to anyone, don’t do anything you love, don’t pursue your dreams, and DEFINITELY don’t flirt and play with beautiful women. 2. Become comfortable with the idea that you will eventually be rejected and do what you want anyway. Stop letting the possibility of rejection prevent you from living the life you want and live a rich and fulfilling life. Which one sounds like a better option to you? If you want to be able to live your life, on your terms, doing what you love, without worrying about what other people might think of you, but don’t knwo where to start… …get your answers in your free copy of Seduction Community Sucks. It’ll show you the one thing preventing you from being free, open, powerful, and confident and how you can start to deal with it immediately. Get your free copy from the right hand side of this page >>>>> Join over 25,000 subcribersDownload your FREE copy of Seduction Community Sucks now and get in-field videos, subscriber-only articles, and exclusive podcasts delivered directly to your inbox If you're ready to become the kind of Man that attracts confident and in-demand women without trying, then I have a gift to start you on that journey. Seduction Community Sucks is your 159 page kick-start to becoming the kind of Man that makes women go weak at the knees. Get your FREE copy, as well as access to other subscriber-only articles, podcasts, and video footage, now. Get your FREE ebook, hidden articles, in-field videos, and exclusive podcasts here: 46 Responses Josef April 16, 2012 Exactly!!!! thats was what I thought to!! And really, how cares the rejection of someone, cuold be a girl, a boss, anybody, when you do always what you want and follow your own heart :-D!!!!!!! Reply DJ Fuji April 16, 2012 HAHAHAHA I was REALLY HOPING you’d say that. Kudos to you for keeping it real. In martial arts we have a similar rule. Anyone who says they’ve never lost a fight… hasn’t been in one. Reply Leigh (LoGun) April 16, 2012 Haha. I love it. I’ll keep that one in mind. Glad to hear there’s more guys out there who’re on the same page. Reply Josef April 16, 2012 In my case is all thanks to you Leigh!!! Reply Chandan April 16, 2012 perfect solution. At least somebody is there who doesn’t fake it until he makes it.Keep going ahead. Reply Leir April 17, 2012 So, I understand the concept of “There’s no way to avoid rejection.” But still, how can someone reach this level of acceptance? Does that mean that I should get rejected until it becomes no big deal for me? This question hammers my mind. I understand that we can’t avoid rejection but it still seems a big deal to me. Reply Leigh (LoGun) April 17, 2012 Great question mate. And one that will take more than a quick comment to answer. I’ll put something together soon and post it up. L. Reply Mark December 28, 2016 Its the same as you can’t make anyone like you. Why a person likes or dislikes you has nothing to do with you !!! Make this change. A person will like or dislike you entirely based on their perspective of life, past history, biases, you name it. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU. Do not take any of it personal because it isn’t. Reply Markus April 17, 2012 You hit it right on the spot with this one. And I love the martial arts quote as well Fuji. Great stuff. Reply Damnd April 17, 2012 What’s the deal with being rejected?It strengthens the spirit and helps you grow by learning what was missing. If the answer you ever get is always in the positive, it’ll only confirm your superstitions Reply The Asian Casanova April 17, 2012 Good shit. I was really curious if you were actually going to provide some retarded “secret.” Good stuff. Reply Someone April 17, 2012 It’s amazing how different kinds of rejection worry us. – Rejection at work? LoL no, if I got fired I’d throw a party and get another, better job. – Rejection by some of my friends? I have more. Being able to freely express myself is more important, if I can’t, what’s the point? – Rejection by my family? They’re more worried about losing me than the other way around, at least I could spend a week without seeing them. – Rejection by any of my close female friends after I flirt with them? It’s super fun, who cares? They never hate you for it if you stick to your guns. – Rejection by a bunch of strangers seeing me do something outside of social norm? OH GOD NO!! *hides in a corner crying* Makes no fucking sense. Reply Leigh (LoGun) April 17, 2012 Haha… It’s funny how the peoples opinions you value the most are the ones you don’t know and will probably never see again. Interesting. For me, I was being terrified of being rejected by everyone so you’re doing better than I was. Reply EvAd December 10, 2012 This is a true fact. That is all. Reply Life Tips December 10, 2012 Descent tip. Reply Edouard Tahmizian February 8, 2013 You can still avoid rejection if you realise after flirting with her and asking her questions, she isnt flirting with you or asking you some questions about yourself (aka actually interested in you). Many times girls will be really friendly with guys and carry on a conversation yet not really be in to him, which is often mistaken as sexual interest. But if shes giving you her undivided attention, asking a lot of questions about you and not just respoding to something you say first (as well as playing around with you) then almost all the time (if not all the time) she would at least be down for a date. Reply Leigh (LoGun) February 8, 2013 You could. Or you could live a life that means you’re happy and fulfilled, regardless of if she rejects you and not worry about it. Reply Edouard Tahmizian February 8, 2013 Well thats impossible for me since I’ve been rejected about 90% of the time by women for 7 or so years no matter what I do, or whatever mindset I have. It also doesnt help that I’m 5’4, have ADD, ADHD, OCD, and depression. Even medications I take do diddly-squat. Leigh (LoGun) February 9, 2013 From the limited amount you’ve written here, I would suggest that the fact that you blame your genetics and rely on external elements like medication to regulate your emotional and experiential state has more to do with your lack of success with women than any of those elements. But that’s jut me shooting from the hip here. I don’t know you and we’ve never met. It’s just what I’m seeing. Edouard Tahmizian February 9, 2013 Yeah, people who take medications for serious things like disorders or cancer are pussys…shame on those disabled people. “I don’t know you and we’ve never met. It’s just what I’m seeing.” You might want to get your eyes checked, since you clearly arent seeing ‘right’. Leigh (LoGun) February 9, 2013 Hey mate, It sounds like I offended you. I’m sorry if I did. It wasn’t my intention. I’ll try and clarify what I meant. My comment wasn’t about specifically about the medication. It was about the underlying attitude behind your comment. What I read from it was: There are external things in life that prevent me from having the kind of life I want. Hight, depression, adhd, etc… All these things that are in your way. Instead of working to be confident, free, expressive, and powerful despite these things, you’re allowing them to stop you having the life you want. And whilst I don’t know you, I’m going to guess that it’s this attitude, not these specific barriers that are getting you rejected 90% of the time. Is the girl of your dreams attracted to a guy who says “It’s not my fault…”? Is the girl of your dreams attracted to a guy who says “But I was born this way, I can’t help it”? Or do you think she’s more likely to be attracted to a guy who say “These are the cards I was dealt but who cares? I’m going be be happy, strong, powerful, confident, and free despite them”? That’s what I was getting at. I hope that makes more sense. Leigh Edouard Tahmizian February 9, 2013 Girls, or anyone for that matter, do not know what I say to myself internally. Besides, I have been rejected for my physical apperance, and having disorders does make things harder, irrespective of my opinion. You could argue that having those feelings could influence me to look unconfident or awkward, but simply having opinions does not influence other people. If I were a serial killer and great at hiding any emtional expresivness commonly associated with someone like that, how would an people that dont even know me assume I am one? Besides, you make it seem like its my fault that I can’t get through these disorders. Follwing your logic, a retarded person simply has to have the fortitude and application to not be clinically retarded. It doesnt work that way. Confidence is a double-edged sword. What if I had ‘100% confidence’ I could kick 10 professional boxers asses by myself with no assistance? The way you think of yourself has and never will be all it takes to get women. It takes more than that, and sometimes being very short is what makes the difference between being attractive or unattractive to women. Thats just the way it is. You can’t just wish confidence. That comes with results (exp:You feel confident you can drive a car well because you actually have, not because you had faith you could even before driving one). However, I have found things I have done wrong that clearly have contributed to me getting rejected almost everytime by women. 1)I ask a lot of waitress out (they get hit on a lot, are paid to be nice to you, are above my league most of the time). 2)I ask out too many women taller than me (height to most women is an instant deal breaker). 3)I have mistaken women being conversational and flirting with me as them liking me (as well as giving me their number). When I text or call a lot of them back, they either arent interested in hanging out, or make up all these bullshit excusses why they cant go out. Its VERY hard for me to figure out if a women likes me (for real) because they are very hard to read. If I could figure out the fakes from those who are actually sexually interested in me, that would help a ton…really. Leigh (LoGun) February 10, 2013 Hey mate, Thanks for all the extra information. There’s a lot in there I would love to talk about. But before I do, I just had a quick question for you to make sure that we’re all working towards the same goal here. Is your situation with women something that you’d like to change or are you happy with it the way it is? Even if changing your situation meant opening up to look at your situation in a different light and then putting in some real work to make the changes you need to make? I’m happy to work with you and help you, but I just want to make sure that energy is going in the right direction. Leigh Leigh (LoGun) February 10, 2013 Oh, and PS. I put an article up about how to read women’s minds here: http://www.attractioninstitute.org/how-to-know-what-women-want DJ Fuji February 9, 2013 Edouard, LoGun isn’t saying that medication is for pussies. He’s saying that you’re blaming your problems on external events or things. There’s a very strong correlation between that habit and people who are not successful. The problem I see is that you’re focused on being a victim and on why you can’t do things as opposed to looking for solutions or ways in which you CAN. If you focus on the problems and obstacles rather than the solutions, then that’s all you’ll see and that’s all you’ll find — problems and obstacles. I was in much the same position you were in… the only advantage I had was that I focused on solutions and not problems. And that made all the difference. Edouard Tahmizian February 10, 2013 Well up to now I’ve basically done the best I could do as far as attracting women, and nothing has worked. Yeah, I’m willing to change if what you say actually gets me in a relationship with women. Doing all these complex things you read about in The Mystery Method and Pandoras Box is just ridic…its way to much information to process, and few can get it all done effectively, not to mention there is no way to tell if it was the method you implemented or if its just your confidence level or other things. The last couple of girls I have been talking to were ones I’ve had the most confidence with and pretty much got everything done smoothly and ‘right’. However, most of the time the girl says she is down to hang out, gives me her number, yet never calls or texts me back, or says shes too bussy. I clearly don’t understand women who would go to the extent to consistantly lie to you and gadly give you their contact information when they have no interest in you sexually. Women complain about being sexually harrased, hit on by a bunch of rude guys, and guys not understaning them, but taking into account the above, all they are doing is provoking that kind of behavior from men. The whole point of communication is to convey youre intentions through action. Women need to take a Logic 101 course for dummies. It’s just fucking ridic…I also like how they think men are a bunch or perverts for starting at the ass or breats, yet when they see guys like David Beckham they do the same thing. Most women are a bunch of fucking sexist hypocrits. On one had they are tierd of all these guys not ‘getting’ them, on the other hand they do diddly-squat to get across they don’t like a guy (unless they really dont like one). What they have to do to get men takes little to no effrot. What most men have to do to get women is dedicate their LIVES (aka years of reasearch and 300 page books) to getting what they could get in 1 night. Something is CLEARLY wrong here. Edouard Tahmizian February 10, 2013 I should note that, in general, the above doesnt pertain to very attractive men (physically). They get women pretty easily. I have seen examples of this many times in life. Leigh (LoGun) February 10, 2013 Ok, excellent mate. That’s a great place to start. I’m going to email you something so we can keep this comment thread on track. I’ll send it through now. atheos March 5, 2015 couldn’t have said it better. I will tell my friend, who is extremely afraid of rejection to visit this site. he just wont -at least- try to talk to a chick and most girls which is like 8/10 say he is good looking, I just don’t understand. Thank you man I think I also needed to hear this. (no homo but) I love you 4 saying that. long live Liegh (LoGun). Reply Denice February 14, 2016 Who ever wrote this is an idiot. Plan and simple idiot. He should never ever write again . Just saying. He’s way too bitter. Reply alvert May 23, 2016 I think the best way to avoid being rejected, is to be yourself, and be encouraged to talk with the person and be a little creative. Reply Paul August 18, 2016 I never approach women because many assume all men are rapists and will call the police / press charges if a guy so much as says ‘hi’. This happens a lot in America and case law is very much on women’s side. Rejection is one thing… risking reputation / career / community just by being friendly to another human being is another and it’s not worth it. Reply Derrick November 12, 2016 I have never read so much bs in all my life. As male 5’3″ constantly being told how damn good looking I am then being told or rejected because of height. I had one beautiful woman who was like 5’9″ and told me she was addicted to hi heels and how would that work and I said lying down shouldn’t be a problem and as she and i stood up she looked down and bent over and said you are good looking you are just to fucking short for me gave a kiss and left. Reply Arthur January 8, 2017 “Eventually, you’re going to meet one who isn’t attracted to you.” Since no woman is ever (or has ever been, or ever could be) attracted to me in the first place, this is purely academic for me. I talk to lots of women and don’t get ‘rejected’ by any of them, but nothing ever happens. I have lots of woman friends, but at 36 am still a virgin (and never even been kissed), so the logical conclusion is that no woman is sexually attracted to me – even though I am very sexually attracted to several women. Nothing I can do – I’m just meant to be this way I guess. Reply DJ Fuji January 10, 2017 Arthur, Totally understand your logic there, and I feel for ya, but the central issue here is that you’re assuming that attraction happens automatically for everyone — without any effort. And that’s just not correct. That’s a bit like saying that I (who at 5’4″, am the shortest dating coach in the industry) suck at basketball and never practice and have never won a league basketball game so it’s just “meant to be” that I will never win at basketball because that’s just who I am. It has nothing to do with “who i am”. It has EVERYTHING to do with I’M NOT PRACTICING BASKETBALL. I can’t expect to win at basketball without practicing. That’s not how skill development works. You’re not a virgin because there’s something wrong with you. You’re a virgin because your social and dating skills are underdeveloped or neglected (or both) and you haven’t put in the time to learn them. So don’t lose hope — you CAN do something about it. You just have to want it bad enough to work at it. Reply Arthur May 21, 2017 I see your point – but this is still academic for me. It’s clear that I’m just about as unappealing as a guy could be to women at a sexual level, and that no amount of work could change this fact. I put over a decade of diligent work into trying to change this, but never got a single date. So, one day, I stopped asking altogether – I’m just through with constant rejection – that’s it. Over ten years is enough. Some of us are born with the mark of Cain, so to speak, and so are doomed to be alone forever. DJ Fuji May 24, 2017 Arthur, I’ve coached thousands of students over the last decade, and if there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that a lack of results ALWAYS ties back to either practicing incorrectly or not practicing enough. I have NEVER EVER had a student who couldn’t achieve results… as long as he was willing to put in the work. You’ve put “ten years” into this, but are you doing the RIGHT ACTIONS? If not, 10 years of the wrong actions will invariably get you the WRONG results. Short of severe mental handicaps, I’ve never seen someone who is hopeless, assuming they’re willing to put in the work. The chances are astronomically low that you are an exception to that rule. When someone comes to me with a good work ethic, it changes from being a matter of IF they will succeed and becomes a matter of WHEN. The problems youre experiencing invariably come down to either effort or direction/training (or both). Assuming that it’s some god-given curse is a weak excuse made by weak men who would rather throw pity parties than stand up and do something about it. Your ability to succeed is entirely in your hands, Arthur. You just need to make up your mind to go after it. Jules August 6, 2017 I’ll never sexually attract a woman because I can’t socialize – that’s my problem. There may well be lots women who would enthusiastically go on a date and have a relationship with me, but I’ll never know it because I just can’t ask them out. People’s advice – in person and online – Is always the same: ‘just get out more’. The fact is though, I do go out – but I can’t meet anyone if I can’t express what I want to women I’m attracted to. Friends tell me I have so much to say and so much to offer, and that I just need to be more confident. I am confident (and successful) in other areas of my life, but that makes no difference if I can’t show that to women. They say I need to talk to women just as people to get to know them, so I talk to them like I’m talking to any other friend – and end up getting friend zoned every time. As soon as a woman says we’re friends, I know nothing will happen. I have absolutely no problem meeting women and talking to them – I just can’t express sexual intent – I’m just not able to do it no matter what. No one seems to understand what guys like me go through – it’s torture. People think it’s so easy, and maybe it is – for them – because they are sexually attractive and are capable of showing it. I am neither of those things. Sadly there are many men like me – we’re the ones who are – and are doomed to remain chronically single. Reply Mark September 12, 2017 I do not see how talking to a barista at Starbuck’s or a waitress at a restaurant will help me overcome my overwhelming inability to approach women I’m attracted to. Of course these employees in device industry positions will be pleasant – it’s their job! If I saw and recognized the same women on the street, I’d fully expect them to reject me immediately – if not run away from me – like every other woman would. A person’s workplace behaviour toward clients is not an indication of their personality or preferences. As a very shy and introverted guy, I never ask women out – and never will – because rejection is always guaranteed. I’m not scared of rejection – it’s for sure going to happen with every / any woman I might approach. Given this, I see no point in doing something which is 100% guaranteed to be doomed to failure. Reply NLD October 15, 2017 DJ Fuji, I’m curious: when you say “Short of severe mental handicaps, I’ve never seen someone who is hopeless, assuming they’re willing to put in the work”, does a Nonverbal Learning Disability fit that definition? Because it sure as hell feels like it does. I’m literally unable to pick up on things like body language and tone of voice (I joke about my sarcasm being flawless because no one can tell when I’m being sarcastic). Confidence is little more than an abstract concept to me, and quite frankly, a useless one…I’ve accomplished far more by allowing self-doubt to translate into meticulous attention to detail when planning anything important. I’ve literally never been both confident and effective; it’s literally a choice between one or the other (and I have to choose the latter for obvious reasons). Womankind’s standard response to my disability is “You’re attractive, but there’s also something seriously off about you”, and in my urgency to find a method of attracting the love of my life, I’ve even tried the “be honest and tell them upfront” route (because there’s a 90% chance I won’t get a first date, much less a third). Nothing works, and quite frankly, the only thing failure with women teaches me is how to fail even more miserably with women (and how to be so “overqualified when it comes to life that you fail to succeed, even when your skills are in demand.) I mainly included the above to give you some insight into what NLD is like, even with therapy to manage the feelings of depression and worthlessness (because holding down 2 jobs, pursuing an education in the field I want to work in, getting a manuscript picked up by a publisher, lifting regularly and freelance resume writing are literally not enough)…and didn’t even scratch the surface. Quite frankly, the guaranteed method of avoiding rejection is sounding like a godsend right now. Reply Robdeeznutz October 19, 2017 I know this doesn’t count as a “reply” but try this Find a beautiful women and tell her you are attracted to her – why you are attracted to her – and then tell her what I want to happen next Reply Adam January 15, 2018 I am already taking this step. At 33m ive never had a girlfriend and have always been rejected. Next step is to find out what is it about me that had led to rejections. Reply Krunal January 19, 2018 First of all, count your blessings. Next time you’re in text-flirt panic mode, just thank the stars that we’re hashtag blessed enough not to have grown up in a generation where you had to approach someone in a bar and be charming on the spot, all while looking right into the actual person’s eyes as they decide whether or not to reject you. I’m getting sweaty just thinking about it; it’s a wonder that the human race didn’t die off. Whisper a “thank you,” to your parents, take a deep breath, and follow these pointers. Reply Hector August 11, 2018 I never see a rejection as a rejection. I only see it as the other person not having the wisdom or understanding to find out who I really am. I can’t be rejected. Simply because I feel complete in myself already – I don’t need someone to make me whole. If somebody decides they don’t “like me” any more – good, run along, find someone else. I won’t miss you. Reply Allen August 12, 2018 There is no point in me approaching any woman (who fits any definition of attractive) because rejection would be guaranteed every time – and no woman ever approaches me either. This is because other guys are much more attractive than I ever could be. The fact is, women choose who they date from among many guys. This being the case, no woman would ever pick me when there are other guys out there. Reply Tom September 23, 2018 This approach works for me – I’ve never asked a woman out in my life because rejection would always be guaranteed. No woman could ever be interested in me so I’ve never given any woman the opportunity to reject me – why bother? Reply Leave a Reply Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published.CommentName* Email* Website Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. You can also subscribe without commenting.