Buy Yourself a Hooker Instead of Taking Women on Dates

The age old question of who should pay on a date or in a relationship, the man or the woman? Most people would agree that the man should pay but this becomes a problem when the man pays too much. He opens up his wallet hoping that at the end of the night the woman will open up her pants. Often he is shut down and better off buying a hooker instead.

Paying on Dates

It’s silly to think that the amount of money you throw down on a date will determine whether or not you are getting lucky tonight but is it really?

Most men are complete schmucks when it comes to women. This forces women to settle on many levels for men who just don’t get it. If almost all the men women meet don’t make them feel any sort of attraction why not go for the best looking or the ones with the most money?

This is exactly what I (and I’m sure you would too) would do if all the women I met were extremely boring or needy. If all of them used the same pickup line or complimented me way too much I would go for the best looking ones.

The problem men will face when coughing up the loot on dates is that there will always be someone with more money than you and thus a bigger better deal. There will always be other men with larger wallets and you just can’t compete.

I recently got an email from a reader telling me about this date he went on with a girl. He spent over 350$ for the night and didn’t even get a good night kiss. He sent her a box of chocolates a couple days later and didn’t even get a simple thank you. Rough.

A lot of men try to impress women by taking them out to a fancy restaurant and spending a lot of money. Often they spend beyond their means in an attempt to get some action from the girl. It’s a big mistake that men never seem to catch onto.

They spend all of this money and don’t even get a good night kiss. The money would be better spent buying a hooker instead. At least with the hooker you are guaranteed to get laid.

There is nothing wrong with paying but it’s downright stupid to think paying will actually get you laid. You aren’t impressing anyone. This will send a clear message to the woman that you are very needy because you look for her approval by trying to impress her.

If you want to pay for dinner, fine but do it because you want to and not because you think you will get something in return. Don’t give to get because more often than not you will end up with nothing in return.

If it’s part of your normal life to go out to restaurants and eat fancy food then it’s ok to include her in your mission. But if it’s not part of your normal life than your plans will fall apart very quickly.

Spoiled women to avoid

Believe it or not there are women out there that will take full advantage of your generosity. They know that there will be no future relationship between you two so they use you to get a free meal. They agree to your date in order to get a couple of free drinks and dinner at a fancy restaurant. Often they will call it an early night and then go out with a guy they are really attracted to.

Women aren’t entirely to blame for this because it wasn’t like she pulled a gun out and forced you to take her to a nice restaurant. You are a player in this game as well.

There are many signs of a spoiled woman that you should be aware of. First thing you need to do is to stop thinking about getting laid and start having standards. If you are desperate for female company and will take anything you can get women will pick up on this. Spoiled women will be able to spot you from a mile away because you are an ideal target.

While there are many signs of a spoiled woman the biggest sign is that she is a taker and not a giver. If you meet her out at a club or bar and one of the first few things she says to you is can you buy me a drink? She’s a taker.

Takers are just that, they take and they take. Women (and men) who take from you will offer very little value in return for what you give.

Avoid these ‘buy me a drink’ woman as if they were the plague. No good can come out of dating women like this and you will be sorry in the end. You will end up paying for it in more ways than one.

Some women will actually make a game out of getting free drinks. They will leave the house with no money in order to see if they can drink for free for the night. This is only made possible by men like you.

Some times you don’t meet them in a club or bar and will be unable to tell if she’s a taker or not right away. In this case there are two things that you can do:

1. When the check comes just stare at her. If she makes no attempt what so ever to offer to pay then she’s a taker.

2. Take her to some place that involves little to no money. If you are a ‘cheap date’ and she becomes annoyed or disappointed by this then she’s a taker.

Taker in relationships

I was out eating the other day when I overheard two girls talking. One wanted to get something really expensive and she said oh well, I’ll just have my boyfriend buy it. He should buy it anyways and just laughed. No he shouldn’t because men are not ATM’s.

It’s nice to give to others but it becomes an issue when they expect you to give and start making demands. Would your girlfriend be upset if you suddenly stopped spoiling her? How would she react if you told her no when she asked for something? If she gets extremely upset and throws a temper tantrum then she is a spoiled woman who is a taker.


The Keepers

It’s not about being cheap in life, it’s about finding women who don’t let money determine another persons value. The problem with dating spoiled women is that money can easily come and go. What happens if you lose your job and suddenly you find yourself dead broke? Will she still stick around?

The women to look for are the ones who will offer to pay even if you decide to pay for the meal. The ones to date are the ones who will still like you regardless of how much you spend on them. The ones to keep in your life are the ones who don’t need it but truly appreciate it when you do spoil them.

These types of women are givers who will contribute a lot to your life. These women will give and give and make you desire to give back to them. Not because you are obligated but because you generally want to give.

To recap, go for women who enjoy your company and not your wallet. Raise your standards to avoid these spoiled women. And if you still believe that paying for a meal will get you laid you are better off buying a hooker instead.

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8 Responses

  1. Prisqua

    Personally I think a man should pay on a first date (call me old fashion…) but there is no need for a first date to be expensive, especially on a first date. A simple coffee/tea, milkshake, ice-cream is way enough on a first date. You don’t even need to go to a coffee shop really: a couple of times I met for a walk on the beach (30 minutes or less…), which was enough for me to decide there would be no second date… Another time the guy decided to do a picnic, which was lovely too.
    Paying for an expensive meal is not necessary and will not show who you are. Sending a gift is useless unless you know for sure something is going to happen and you have been on several dates…
    How much you spend is not what a first date is all about, unless of course you are dealing with a gold digger, then that is a complete different story! 😉

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  2. Dana

    If you believe the purpose of a date is sex, you’re below many women’s standards. If you think getting a hooker is an appropriate alternative, you’re not meant for the dating pool… You’ve hit bottom.

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    • Dima

      “If you believe the purpose of a date is sex” Dana….I feel little uncomfortable to tell you this….but the reason men and women attracted to each other is because sexual attraction…now I know that in our culture sex is considered as being a bad thing, maybe because of religion, but it’s not the point, the point is sexual shame, now this “puppy” is going to destroy any connection with the opposite sex no time, now, of course not all are dating just for sex, but sex (and I mean good sex) is an important part, there can be no relationships without it, and of course if you want just sex, there is no point to enter a relationship…so in conclusion, social stereotypes maybe sound good on the surface…but it’s all to it, they just sound good.

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      • bb

        What you wrote did not address what she said. You just used what she wrote to go off on a canned speech about religion, and you didn’t even make sense about that.

        “….but the reason men and women attracted to each other is because sexual attraction”

        This does not invalidate what she said. In a world where men and women are dating due to sexual attraction, a women does not owe a man sex just because he pays. That is not the purpose of a date- even if they are sexually attracted .

        “now I know that in our culture sex is considered as being a bad thing, maybe because of religion, but it’s not the point, the point is sexual shame”

        No, the point is dating and who pays, try to keep up. In our culture, sex is not considered bad or wrong, in fact, we have the most sexually saturated culture out there. Sex is everywhere all the time. What people object to is that sex should be expected and that paying for dates is the same as paying for hookers. That dating and prostitution have the same goal and that if a woman is looking for more than just sex, and if she wants to build a real relationship first then she’s spoiled or seeing some other guy on the side. That’s horrible and if Christianity prevents people from seeing that as a good thing, then that just proves how great it is.

        “now this “puppy” is going to destroy any connection with the opposite sex no time, now, of course not all are dating just for sex, but sex (and I mean good sex) is an important part, there can be no relationships without it, and of course if you want just sex, there is no point to enter a relationship…so in conclusion, social stereotypes maybe sound good on the surface…but it’s all to it, they just sound good.”

        Ok, this part doesn’t even make sense but I’ll to address the point you are trying to make. YOU and YOU alone are the one who is dealing in stereotypes. The fact that women don’t pay and don’t have sex just because a man paid for something will not destroy any connection between the sexes. How can it when that’s the way it has always been? If it was going to destroy anything, it would have done it in the 1950’s when no woman paid for any date. And, please, don’t say things were different back then. They were, but not about this! Women in foreign countries aren’t going to pay either. This is basic manners, whether you like it or not.

  3. Dima

    “What you wrote did not address what she said”….yes it did, more on that later…
    “You just used what she wrote to go off on a canned speech about religion”
    you call one sentence “maybe because of religion” a “canned speech”….OK
    “No, the point is dating and who pays, try to keep up”….sorry to tell you, but you are the one who lagging behind, I moved the discussion on the subject of “purpose”, and not who pays…
    This does not invalidate what she said…yes it does, let’s take an imaginary scenario : Dana meets Tom, for the sake of the argument let’s say Tom knows that he will never have sex with Dana, will Tom invites Dana on a date ? of course not. will Tom try to create long term relationship with Dana ? obviously not. sure, Dana doesn’t owe to have sex with every guy she have been on a date with, BUT, if Dana goes on a date with someone, the prospect of sex should exist, sure, she can change her mind, but she should feel at least a little attraction, otherwise she should reject the offer, this shows honesty and respect for the other person. now, if Dana goes on dates with guys, knowing for advance that she will never gonna sleep with them, then Dana just using them to pass the time.

    “Ok, this part doesn’t even make sense”….on average, 80 percent of problems in a relationship caused by dissatisfaction from sex, the other percent are due to different worldviews (how the relationship should be, who needs to do what) so I hope that now it make sense for you…

    “And, please, don’t say things were different back then”…yes I will, back then it was considered that only men want sex, women were considered to be non sexual, a woman who showed her sexuality was considered a slut, the guy was expected to do all the work “because only he wants sex”.
    when a book called “my secret garden” by Nancy Friday was released in 1973 that described women’s sexual fantasies, it created a outrage across the nation, because, up to this point sex was considerate something that women give to men, but they themselves don’t need it.

    “Women in foreign countries aren’t going to pay either” in Europe it is very common that the first date is shared by both (50/50).

    “This is basic manners” of course it is, but also the fact that you appreciate what the other person is doing…and you not taking it for granted…because if you do, than you are, as the post said, a taker.

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  4. Kevin

    Come now people.
    If you are saying that the ONLY reason a man and a woman can ever be attracted to each other is sex (or likewise), then can you please explain to me why do certain couples not break up after sex, why are most marriages still going on;
    after the orgasm, when sexual satisfaction has been reached, why then do certain people still want to keep meeting the other person?
    Possibility of future sex?
    I don’t think so – after the orgasm (especially for men) you get tired of sex, the same way that if you’re hungry and eat a lavish, sumptuous meal then you don’t desire food anymore.
    It’s because there is something deeper going on there.
    Something that is there even after the orgasm has taken place. After sexual satisfaction has been reached.
    And you know, certain people do get tired of the other person after sex. But that just shows that sex was the ONLY thing holding them together. E.g. One night stands, and also those situations where one sleeps with the other and never contacts or meets with them again.
    I know, I know, sex plays a huge role in relationships, I agree.
    But it’s not the only thing. There is deeper level stuff too.
    I mean if it’s JUST the sex, sooner or later (at least in my experience) you grow tired of each other.
    Sex is important, but not everything.
    That’s all I wanted to say.
    Thank You.

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    • Dima

      “If you are saying that the ONLY reason a man and a woman can ever be attracted to each other is sex (or likewise), then can you please explain to me why do certain couples not break up after sex, why are most marriages still going on;”
      Very good observation, first of all, I never said that only sex is the reason that woman and man are together, I did say that problems in sex are causing most of the problems. second of all, I don’t care that people stay together, what I am interested is how much happy and fulfilled the feel from the relationship.
      “after the orgasm, when sexual satisfaction has been reached” another good observation, there are different levels of sex, the highest levels is what I call “personal sex”, or “sex of the soul”, it is when you completely forget yourself and become “one” with the other person…it is even often been confused with love…it is a feeling like flying (and no, no narcotics, you fully present and aware).
      “It’s because there is something deeper going on there”….I don’t think of it in terms like “deeper” it is just different needs and desires, someone want a person that understands him, someone want not only sex, but also a good friend, true friend, and someone wants to have fun….there is nothing “deeper” different people want different things (and it is also changes with time).
      “And you know, certain people do get tired of the other person after sex. But that just shows that sex was the ONLY thing holding them together. E.g. One night stands” you’re right again, it is true that some people united only with sex, and that is OK, if that what those people want. I will go even further, if those are their true desires (to want ONLY sex) they should NOT look for any serious relationship.
      “I know, sex plays a huge role in relationships, I agree. But it’s not the only thing.” of course not, but like I said, it changes from person to person, depending on his or hers desires. there are also such a thing as true love where sex is not a factor AT ALL…BUT, most people are not on this level, this is the highest level that can be between women and men, it takes years to develop, in this level EGO is not present AT ALL, for example, if my girl comes to me and says that she wants sex with two men, I would be happy to fulfill her desire, she trusts me 200% to tell me her desire, and that I would not judge her and vise versa. also me and my girlfriend have the same passions in life, and we don’t need to talk to each other, we FEEL each other, our “inner worlds” are one….OK this is just imaginary example, but it based on real people real relationship, how much people on this level ? very, very few….and obviously it can’t be the reason for meeting someone on the first date !!!! in fact what I suggested is that the first level of attraction that can be between women and men is sexual attraction (or “love from the first sight”, but it is not real love, and I don’t want to explain this concept here) the first base of long term relationship is sex, if this base is good, the second base, true friendship could be build on top of it (but it depends on how much the two have similar worldviews).
      there is another scenario, what I call “playing relationship”, two people are together just because it is socially acceptable, that’s all. there are no emotions between them, they are together just because “social status”, that’s all.
      Very good observations Kevin, Thank You.

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