Can Asian Guys Attract White Girls? Leigh (LoGun) Attract Women 230 Comments (DISCLAIMER: I’m half Chinese and this is written tongue in cheek. So before you call me racist, have a laugh and learn something that could change your life) I realise that your slanted little eyes and off-yellow skin makes it difficult for anyone to love you… But is it true that it’s ESPECIALLY hard for you to attract white women? Even impossible? If you’re anything like most Asian guys, you probably believe it is. Somewhere through your childhood, you had some bad expereince where a white woman turned you down, VICIOUSLY stomped all over your heart and you’ve been scarred from that moment onwards. Your close group of yellow brothers banded around you in defiant support of the devastation and pain inflicted upon you with comforting words like: “It couldn’t be helped. White women just don’t like Asian guys…” “It’s not you, it’s the colour of your skin.” “That will teach you for thinking you could get a round-eye!” And from there, your life long limiting belief was formed. Now, I could sit here and tell you a thousand times over that your limited ability to date a white woman has NOTHING to do with the colour of your skin and EVERYTHING to do with the fact that you simply don’t help her feel empowered, free, loved, beautiful, and appreciated… …but that’s not going to do anyone any good. Your beliefs are formed with evidence and they’re only going to be changed with evidence. So, instead of trying to convince you of fact that white women do actually date yellow men, I’m just going to show you a video. It’s a video of a Chinaman who dated a WHITE San Deigo Chargers Cheerleader. As you’re watching it, pay very close attention to the kind of Man he is and have a guess of how he makes women feel. You might realise exactly why you’re not attracting white women and what you need to change. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hRIdc3tZm_A Crap. They’ve made the video private. So, instead, here’s a video of a hot, white girl saying why she prefers to date Asian dudes. And here’s a ‘girl next door’ saying that she dated a white guy for a year and a half. And what about this girl? Interested in dating this beautiful, famous, white girl? Well, unfortunately, she’s taken already by an ASIAN GUY. Impossible as it may sound, here’s the proof: So stop the excuses and get your shit together. It’s not because you’re Asian, it’s simply because of the kind of Man you’re being around white women. If you want to find the one thing you need to change to start becoming naturally attractive to White (and any other colour) women… …get your free copy Seduction Community Sucks from the top of this page. In it, you’ll learn the one thing preventing you from effortlessly attracting women and how to change it for good. P.S. I’ve only ever dated white women (not racial thing, just happened that way) and my girlfriend of three years is white. Go figure… Join over 25,000 subcribersDownload your FREE copy of Seduction Community Sucks now and get in-field videos, subscriber-only articles, and exclusive podcasts delivered directly to your inbox If you're ready to become the kind of Man that attracts confident and in-demand women without trying, then I have a gift to start you on that journey. Seduction Community Sucks is your 159 page kick-start to becoming the kind of Man that makes women go weak at the knees. Get your FREE copy, as well as access to other subscriber-only articles, podcasts, and video footage, now. Get your FREE ebook, hidden articles, in-field videos, and exclusive podcasts here: 230 Responses Sean June 1, 2012 HUUUUUUUGGGGE ARTICLE FOR ME DUDE! As an indian(Yes we’re considered asian too suck it) this has been my belief to hell sometimes even now. This makes me realize that I gotta really figure out and determine what I want to do and how I want to live my life and ruthlessly go after it. Thanks man. Any advice on where to go from here? Reply Leigh (LoGun) June 1, 2012 Great to hear it hit a chord with you. Where to go? Finish Get Real first and you’ll have your answer. Reply TruthBeTold February 28, 2015 You might be considered Asian geographically, but in real life you are considered just “Indian”. Dark skinned South Asians from India are not considered to be the same group as East Easians like the Chinese, Japanese, Koreans, Malaysians, etc. Having said that, the dynamic which makes Asian men unattractive to white women does not apply to Indians. Many white women find Indians extremely attractive. Hate to say it guys, but it is your penis size. Indians have even smaller willies than East Asians. And all Asians are generally much smaller than black and white guys who both can easily get white women. Reply mike May 20, 2015 You’re just an insecure little twat. Obviously you have no real extensive experiences with women. How the hell do you know what each man packs? Grow up kid. Seldom women care about size. For most its not important what matters most is personality, confidence, physical attraction then later trust and security. Elle February 19, 2016 I guess you could think of a man as “that useless object on the other end of a penis” or that a “willie” is an appendage attached to a man. If you’re of the latter persuasion then you’ll agree that a man’s worth (or sexual performance) is not measured by the size of his member anymore than s woman’s worth (or performance) is measured by the size of her rack. Wow whoever gave us the global penis ‘statistics’ is either a medical anthropologist or has REEEALLY been around. Then again maybe your stats are a result of you not having gotten around at all. Unless (whoever you are) you date prepubescent boys you are waaaay off base. To each her own but what a burden it must be to single out men to date or in your case to bed, based on something you probably gleaned off of Wikipedia. However may I suggest visiting an adult toy store (in which case you can probably disregard all of the following) and/or consult s plastic surgeon to see if in fact it’s you who needs an (downsize) adjustment; consult a shrink to find out if you’re a nympho, relocate to wherever it is you seem to think you’ll find genital nervava, get tested regularly, get really good health insurance, or try to develop a personality. Whatever you choose be sure to procure a plethora of plus-size prophylactics. Harry February 21, 2016 You are contradicting yourself. You say that many white women find Indians attractive and yet you are saying the willies are smaller than Asians. Haroon August 16, 2016 Actually I am Asian and have lots of white women who been with white and black and say my penis size better than both ? dAT BOII gIF February 3, 2017 you are actually wrong and that not actualy truth lol searched up on like 30 different sites and asians evolved and asians aint small ass people who just dont do anything. Also, White women dont find indians attractive. Plus, why do some of my family members who are asian and male date white people? And who cares about willies and other stuff. TALK SOME SENSE INTO THIS KID WHO IS RACIST AND IS BEING AN ASSHOLE TO ASIANS. PROBABLY JUST SAD THAT YOU DONT HAVE A DATE RIGHT?!!!!! Poettesse June 18, 2017 It’s not the SIZE of the magic wand that matters to women; it’s the skill of the magician who wields it. That said, I admit that I am not at all attracted to dark-skinned men. I think what brought this prejudice on was when I grew up, left home and began my career. When I would walk to work, a group of Hispanic and Black construction workers hanging out a convenience store I had to pass would yell at me things such as “Hey, baby, is the hair on your pussy as red as the hair on your head?” and “Hey, baby,” (grabbing their dicks through their pants) “do you like black/brown meat?” I worked with a man who would stand beside me, behind my desk, rubbing his penis through his slacks. On occasion he would make remarks about his ‘long dong,’ or ask if I swallowed.’ A few years later when internet chatrooms became wildly popular, I’d enter–say, a literary or horses enthusiasts chatroom. Often, before even having a chance to say hello, I’d be bomarded with unsolicited private meaasges from Rashan or Abdullah or Mohammad, demanding “Turn on you camera” or “Send me you naked pic.” That’s why I’m not attracted to dark-skinned men J June 24, 2017 Poettesse, well not all dark skinned men are like that. I think culturally, they tend to be more aggressive because they’re culture sees women not as equal, it’s about control. There aren’t many asians living in the U.S. and I think if you’re the majority in your country, you feel like you can get away with anything, look at idiot Trump. Bruce Wayne July 27, 2015 You aren’t Asian you brown turd. Reply Dk August 17, 2016 Haroon, we’ll said. I have the same experience, im asian and never really had an issue with size from all different types of women. I’m an Asian American not sure if the makes a difference but life’s good on my side. Not Really May 19, 2016 Indians and Pakistanis are Asian technically, but when western people say “Asian” they mean east Asian like from Japan, China, Korea, Vietnam, Malaysia, etc. Not India or Pakistan. Reply Juffus Huffus October 25, 2016 That girl got yellow fever! Reply Koanic June 1, 2012 That R unpossible! Reply Marcos June 1, 2012 Damn, he has a very positive outlook about life!! Thank you for sharing this Leigh!! It makes me feel empowered and dissapointed at the same time. And this is because it encourages me to work more on the things that I love and also makes me feel stupid for all the time that I waste complaining about “silly” things Reply Leigh (LoGun) June 2, 2012 My pleasure mate. It’s fine to feel disappointed. It’s fine to feel like you’ve wasted time. But when you do, just allow that disappointment to drive you further and push you harder to overcome your challenges. And it’s great you picked up on the attitude. Every single Asian guy I’ve met who claims that it’s not possible for them to pick up white women, has been submissive, fragile, and dependent. Every single one I’ve met with a beautiful white girlfriend has been independent, strong, and positive. Funny that… Reply John October 12, 2016 Hey, this article shone a new light on white girls for me , however, in the defense of the “weak” Asian Guys I have something to say. I have had bad experiences with white girls who are racist as I was the only Asian in this group and people singled me out for being Smart and the white girls in that area didnt like Smart people. Additionally, I find that asian guys with hot white girlfriends tend to be condescending to those without (like me!), To say the least! I now understand that race doesn’t matter but in so, must oint out that it is sometimes, not usually, but sometimes can be the white girl’s fault. I know what most I said makes no sense but I’m just trying to say not all asian guys who have given up on white girls are weak-willed, they may have had an experience with an extremely racist community , like me, although im probably all those bad emotions too. Rac June 7, 2012 It was an incredible article, Leigh! And for other guys that are shorter than others, they can get beautiful women too. Being small is not a bad thing neither. Reply Leigh (LoGun) June 7, 2012 Glad to hear you enjoyed it. You’re right. Short guys can attract women. Fat guys can attract women. Guys with big ears can attract women. Any physical appearance has the ability to make women feel safe, secure, appreciated, and excited. It all comes down to what kind of Man you are. Reply Bruce May 22, 2016 I believe some women are just attracted or interested in Asian men because some of us Asian men can and do some other men generally can’t or won’t do for women and with women … Doruk May 7, 2013 Hey Leigh the link is broken. Can you fix it? Everybody needs to get inspired now or then ^^ Reply admin May 7, 2013 They made the video private so I’ve found you another one. Not as impressive as the last one but still does the job. Reply Mark July 24, 2013 This article is well-written but really ignores the elephant in the room. Yes, white girls are attracted to guys who empower them, blah, blah, but looking Asian is certainly a handicap. In other words, an asian dude needs to not only make them feel good, the girl has to feel SO good that she doesn’t mind the fact she’s not physically attracted to him. This is the same argument for many fat unattractive white guys who get girls. Personal experience: The pretty white girls I’ve seen who actually prefer white guys, are the ones who love how asians spend more money on girls. Reply Acacia August 29, 2015 Asian guys can be attractive! I’m a 23 year old woman. I’m white, I think I’m reasonably pretty and I’m extremely attracted to Asian guys. I’m the one insecure about it – I never see an Asian guy dating a white girl – but there aren’t many Asian guys were I live so that could be why. You guys have the most beautiful, dark hair. Man that gets me…. You could reasonably say my entire sexual orientation = Asian. I don’t want your “money”, I’m not glamoured by Korean dramas, I’m attracted to Asian guys because your features make me want you. You don’t even have to be a model. Even “average” Asian guys are leagues more attractive than “average” white guys, if that’s our taste. Pleassssse don’t discourage other Asian guys from asking us out! Reply m September 4, 2015 Great! Although, girls like yourself are very very rare. Richi October 3, 2015 Thank you acacia… iam asian men, and i feel the same just like you feel, also want a western wife… good word Carl October 22, 2015 Thanks for your comment, Acacia. <3 James November 20, 2015 So, what part of the US are you? I mean here in jersey, jersey women seem so different Bruce May 10, 2016 Someone like you sure deserve to be happy by some nice Asian man. Dating sure may not be easy for us some but keeping Hope like the way you do actually give Asian man (I am middle age Asian) many of Hope. Don’t listen too much of others, follow your true feeling. John October 12, 2016 I agree with the part about the fat unattractive part which the article has ignored. But, I think that acacia has made a good point from her personal experience about Asian, however it is different for everyone, maybe she is just part of a minority, I don’t know John November 25, 2016 I’m asian can I date you? Ben May 8, 2017 Acacia, how do i contact you ? i have a big surprise for you BS KOK June 18, 2017 Well say , I am Asian I think the tendency on racism in America or white ppl domitating countries have the reclining trend than in the past , the word for attraction is varying from person to person , due to the traditional customs no doubt white mostly will choose white , notwithstanding with the fact nowadays , this trend has slighly changed due to the world is more opened to all the ppl in different countries because the technology has narrowed down the gap in understanding about other races . Onigirigirl March 27, 2016 That is not true at all! I’m a white girl who loves the way Asian guys look. So do a lot of my other white girls friends, we dig the look dude. Reply John October 12, 2016 There tend to be more extremely ugly Asian Guys who complain and are unattractive (me??) This should not affect the direction of the article as they are just the minority. This is just directed at Asian Guys who have a minute chance, not those who have to work so extremely hard just to look normal. Also, I know this is a generalisation but asians generally work harder than Caucasians which makes them seem like “tryhards” or “too serious” it’s not just the looks that prevent Asian Guys, it’s their work ethic too. I understand I am just generalising. Gary November 25, 2016 Can I date you? I want to date white girls only Capn Legs August 8, 2013 Hey, so apparently we’re all just being dumb about this… One of my friends showed this to me, and I couldn’t help but to laugh at the irony. I am in fact a white girl that finds asian guys very attractive. The thing is… Every time I try to talk to an asian guy, I feel like they just are not interested in any way possible! It bums me out a little… This actually makes me laugh at just how you guys are kind of feeling my pain here.. Oh the irony.. Well just know that if you want a girl, you’re going to have to man up and show interest. I’m pretty confident about myself, but when a guy I show interest in doesn’t even acknowledge me… Ouch ha so yeah, I would LOVE for an asian guy to actually show interest back at me.. No need to be shy, give it a shot;) Reply Kevin July 8, 2015 You find Asian guys attractive? I’m and asian male and I’ve never had a problem attracting white girls- it both attitude and looks that get the job done. Reply Richi October 3, 2015 Why we dont Start to approach white girl coz we thought you would not like or date us…so thats why we give that reaction, insecure feeling of rejection. Reply John October 12, 2016 Some people have been rejected many times, like me. It is understandable that I am probably everything bad that has been said in this article but sometimes it is the white girls’ fault as the majority tend to dislike Asians although YES the minority shown in this article love the personality and , sometes, even the looks, but in the ed, white culture dominates and so, so do white guys! KhajiitSicario June 8, 2016 I know the feeling, I’m in the same boat. Anytime I try to talk to an Asian guy I’m interested in, they always look at me like I’m a ditsy airhead (Possibly because I’m blonde), and just kinda blow me off. It’s honestly hard for me to find an Asian guy that’s interested in me that’s not just hoping for a hookup. I’d like a genuine connection, and it’s nearly impossible for me to find any that show interest in me. I know I’m probably rambling, and I apologise, but I just want to stress the importance of showing interest in a girl. It can really make all the difference in the world. Reply Bruce June 12, 2016 I would love to meet woman that truely and sincerely interested in me for sure… Because I sure will give her my 100% attention… Woman like that are so sweet because rare to find…. Gary November 25, 2016 Im interested! Send me a message Reply jeanne November 29, 2014 I love this arrival and I am thinking I might share it on my fb. I dated a Chinese man and I never felt more loved. But his parents ruined it. They came to visit. I never seen him again. But he ruined me for any white guy after him. White guys are rude and very weak minded. Keep it up guys. We are out here. And we maybe right for each other. JB Reply Leigh November 30, 2014 Amazing Jeanne. Please do share it. It would be so good for more Asians guys to realise this. Thanks for sharing. Reply John October 12, 2016 White Guys are rude and weak-minded,however, Asians are being encouraged by popular culture to do the same as they often see hot white guys dating hot white girls. Gary November 25, 2016 Message me! I’m asian! Hehe Reply Tak December 23, 2014 I attract all race of females. most Asian guys don’t even like white girls for one they are bigger than most Asian guys, two you can’t bring that home to your parents without them shaking their heads. The simple logic is this, it’s not nor your white or Asian. it’s a matter of the two person. do they love each other . Reply Natalie January 9, 2015 I totally believe this haha. Ok so I’m not asian, I am white, (a white girl) I was actually on this websites to check to see if I would have a chance with my japanese crush. I hope so! White girls do think asian men are attractive! Reply Gary November 25, 2016 Can I date you?? I will probably be attracted to you. I love white girls. Send me a message Reply stacy February 16, 2015 Hi I am a white girl. I have dated both white and asian men. I have always felt asian men were my type. I still do. I dated white men mostly because I find most asians did not like white girls. Lol because I couldent find an interested asian man. It took my whole life to find them but I dated two asian men happiest I ever was. I LOVE ASIAN MEN. AND I NEED ONE NOW. I REALLY WORSHIP YOU. this is no joke its heartfelt. You are the most handsome men on earth! I will always feel this way. Xo Reply Kevin July 8, 2015 I’m a tall dark handsome Asian male- any takers? Reply Mike July 22, 2015 That’s great, you must be one out of a million that walked by me like I’m invisible. Reply mike July 25, 2015 Blame yourself for not having enough balls to approach them boy. Gary November 25, 2016 Message me asap! Lets have a date Reply Asianess July 21, 2017 Worship Asian man and they will worship you princess 😉 Reply Rocky March 21, 2015 From my experience, there is a huge wall for asian men to hurdle. A lot of white women are attracted to the fashion statement/life style of the boots/truck/cowboy. Not trying to be racist but it’s the reality. I am completely open to dating outside my race. Guess it depends on your geographical location. Best of luck. Reply KaliBeebe May 1, 2015 Hell yeah they can! I LOVE Asians. I’m highly attracted to them. Reply Kevin July 8, 2015 Let’s talk- attractive white girl + attractive Asian male = attractive couple! Reply Leigh July 8, 2015 You guys would have beautiful babies… Gary November 25, 2016 Im asian looking for a white girl. Message me if your interested Reply mike May 20, 2015 There a plenty of Asian American guys who are with white women so don’t believe the negative hype. For example according to the US census 1 out of 3 American born East Asian guys especially Korean and Japanese descent are married to white women. And this figure would be higher if we weren’t so picky unlike other male races we don’t date classless uneducated trash. We have high standards from the pairings I have seen. Reply tuk May 25, 2015 western men have the lowest and classless taste for women. in my thailand, western men generally walk with the dark skinned prostitute class insulted by the thai society. western men generally marry divorced women, not virgin ones despite unmarried thai women over married ones because thailnad is a land of surplus women. this is because men of caucasian race becomes unattractive in our world due to their strange body. but western men still deny this fact but dare to act big but in fact can get nothing but trash women from thai toilets. Reply tuk May 25, 2015 the english term “yellow” is a limited use within the territory of USA and Europe but cannot be applied in thailand. in fact, northern asians have the same light skin as that of caucasian races. the light skin of northern east asians is apparently more delicate than that of caucasian race. the thai term “white people or white guys or white men” means both northern asians (white thais, chinese, japanese, korean) and caucasian people. and the thai term “farang” specifically means caucasian people with blue eyes and blond hair who have the same skin color as white northern asians. in my thailand, my thai men are seldomly interested in western women. the foreign women who attract the eyes of our thai men are mostly northern east asian women (chinese, korean, japanese). Reply Tiffany May 31, 2015 Im a white girl from USA can i just fart on you guys ? Reply Mike June 4, 2015 How bout if Asian guys fart on you? Reply Loner June 8, 2015 I didn’t know white girls like asian dudes, I wonder where most of them live? Reply John October 12, 2016 IKR HAHA Billy June 24, 2015 It’s always the low self esteem Asian guys that are attracted to white females. Truth is, a lot of white females are big as in fat. What can a little man do with a big white woman? lol. Some Asian guys are just trying to date them to show off to their white friends or prove it to themselves that they can do it(Self approval) they don’t take rejection too well lol. just be happy for whoever you find as a soul mate. We ain’t getting any younger. it’s a waste of time cashing. Reply Sarah July 3, 2015 Are you kidding me?!! There is a vast stereotype that is attributed to Asian women about being either excruciatingly tiny, or excruciatingly fat. In my experience, fatness seems to abound in Asian women. Fat, rotund Asian women are very, very common. For whatever reason. It’s one extreme or the other. Tiny or obese. Reply Danny May 26, 2017 Say whaaaa? You are a butt hurt troll. Black guys like fat white girls. I have never seen an Asian dude with a fat white girl. Matter of fact most white girls I’ve seen with Asian girls tend to be normal to slim and pretty. I’ve been with probably over 15 attractive white girls and 3 latinas before I got married. So your insecure ass don’t know what you are talking about. My wife is a gorgeous white woman. Before me she never dated a Korean guy. I ‘ m not too bad on the eyes either you know tall and pretty fit.Lol ! Reply Sarah July 3, 2015 I am white. Whether that is a positive or negative in this world, I know not. But I do know that, as a white woman, I’ve struggled with this issue, and cannot resolve it. But what I can resolve, unfortunately, is that Asian men are not attractive to me. If that makes me an impossibly monstrous creature, so be it. If that makes me evil, or intolerant, or sub-human, I cannot help it. I am not attracted to Asian men. Reply Rocky July 6, 2015 Are you saying asian guys are not attracted to you so you are not attracted to them? Or are you saying even if they were you aren’t. Reply kang July 11, 2015 you’re probably one of those white women. Reply Bruce October 20, 2016 I don’t see anything wrong with you knowing like and dislike. You can be friend doesn’t have to have any feeling anyway….be yourself….thats what matter the most….and thank you for your honesty. Reply Kevin July 8, 2015 I don’t like white women. Reply J August 3, 2015 I don’t know mate, those girls on those youtube channels who claim they like asian lads, I don’t think they would just date any asian guy. Reply John October 12, 2016 Agreed, they are just making the community feel better sometimes. Reply Jade June 23, 2017 Its funny… I am a white blonde hair blue eyed girl who could have had any guy in my school EXCEPT for the one I wanted who happened to be an Asian guy. (Chinese) he always said he was only attracted to asian women :'( March August 6, 2015 I love white girl!!! Reply shay August 30, 2015 Some asian men are very g=hot t=== the ones that a=have grown beyond 5’2″ and ar at least 5’10” height and a bit solid no glasses and talk good english think bruce and jackie chan xoxo Reply m September 4, 2015 That’s probably less than 1% Reply Jessica Pierson September 23, 2015 Girlfriend I love Reply Elle November 1, 2015 I think Asian men are gorgeous but they seem to want to date only blond women and alas, I’m a white-skinned, very dark haired Celtic lass. Reply oh November 3, 2015 @Elle, I doubt asian guys care if you are attractive. Also, my first crush was with a blonde haired girl so I think it has to do with experiences growing up. Reply dk December 10, 2015 I am Viet and French 5’10” and i love celtic women, matter of fact my wife is Irish and French. When i was single I love all women and i never had a problem dating all nationalities without sterotrype. Love the midwest, tons of ladies love asian american guys there, tip for my asian brothers. Reply James Aquino December 11, 2015 I’m tired of all the stereotype the american media had portrayed the asian men-it’s sickening to the point that it makes us look weak and frail, when in fact we aren’t. I agree there are a lot of asian men out there that look scrawny or nerdy, but there are asian men too that do care about their appearances-just like there are fat, skinny, and ugly people of different races. Anyhow, the media refuses to make asian men equal to that of the other men. John October 12, 2016 In Reply to James Aquino, This articles intends to address the ugly Asian Guys who have low self-esteem like me. You are being very condescending by saying “There are actually Asian Guys who care about their appearances” as if that makes ugly Asians feel better. The whole point of this discussion is for A: white girls making Asian men feel better B: troll posts or C: ugly Asians like me complaining more Gary November 25, 2016 Il date you, i dont care if your not blonde Reply Sadat December 14, 2015 Like to have better sex Reply AP January 11, 2016 Just would like to add that as a white woman, I always thought Asian men were very handsome. Love the contrast with the hair and skin and of course the eyes. All my friends growing up in Europe were Asian too, mostly Chinese and Japanese. So please don’t think that white women don’t like Asian men, we DO! Just have to find the right people of both races and it all works out perfectly! Greeting from Toronto, Canada!:) Reply Elle February 12, 2016 Asian guys? Wow, good lookin’! But as a pale Celtic lass with very dark hair I’ve found that Asian men seem to be interested only inwomen with blond hair. Reply Gary November 25, 2016 Im interested in you, will you go out with me? Im not a nerd though. Im just asian Reply Elle February 12, 2016 To all: sorry about the repeat from Nov 1 and @oh, I enjoyed your response. (@James Aquino: The stereotype is definitely changing. So many gorgeous & determined Asian male-actors have and are accomplishing that. Bruce Lee (What a babe!!) had a lot to do with that. He got fed up with the derogatory, prejudicial Asian stereotype so made the remainder of his movies in Hong Kong before he tragically left us. Ironically he and his films are more popular here in the US than ever and I don’t see that slowing down anytime soon. Who can watch a Jackie Chan or Jet Li movie without recalling the incomparable, highly respected and very much loved Bruce Lee? I think those stereotypes will soon be a thing of the past. By the by I suggest that anyone who thinks Asian men are any less masculine than any other man on the face of the earth read about the Triads. No, no! I’m not suggesting that every Asian man belongs to an Asian ‘mafia’ but it certainly will give anyone in doubt a different perspective to consider. I highly recommend, The Dragon Syndicate regarding this specific topic. Rock on you beautiful Asian men! 😉 Reply James Aquino February 13, 2016 Hey Elle, thanks for the compliment 🙂 I’m West Coast myself but live in New Jersey now and I notice here that asian men are not as popular like guidos and Italian men. I used to live in japan for 4 years being military and I’ve dated mostly japanese women in the past and almost got married to one til things got complicated. I’ve dated a few white girls but I guess havent met the right one because the few I’ve dated I’ve noticed a plethora of ignorance, but not saying all white girls are like that but the few I’ve dated were. I’m glad there are white girls that like asian guys, I need to find someone like you Elle lol. Reply Elle February 16, 2016 There’s a coincidence! I’m a west coast beach-girl and I also previously lived in various Asian countries. I’m familiar with the ‘Italian Stallion’ obsession of many women and I bet Italian men even get tired of these over-the-top myths with the most predominant probably being that every single man of Italian ethnicity is in the Mafia, ha! Regarding the stereotyping of Asians excuse my ignorance but is there a smaller Asian demographic in the eastern ((US) where you live relative to the west? Because the fewer a particular (ethnically diverse) presence means less contact which naturally leads to the dreaded ethnic stereotype. Whenever the opportunity arises I try to (politely) ‘educate’ people when they voice negative stereotypes, as I hope others would do for me. In my wildest dreams I never expected to one day be interpreting an Asian language for a living and in all fairness if not for that I too might have bought into some of the ridiculous Asian stereotypes that prevail. However I did grow up in a heavily and wonderfully Asian-populated area and it never occurred to me to make a distinction between my ethnicity and that of my friends of Asian, African, Latino, Filipino, and other ethnic origins. We went to the same schools, did the same things, socialized outside of school and were equally obnoxious to our teachers and parents as teenagers. Becoming an interpreter made me acutely aware that one’s ethnic origin has nothing to do with culture or nationality. Ethnicity is biological, culture is learned and nationality is chosen (though sadly, the latter isn’t true for everyone). Despite all that, the most important thing I’ve learned is that ultimately we all, are more alike than we will ever be different. You said you’ve dated some seriously dingy white woman -that’s funny. 😀 its ironic. I’ve witnessed more (conceived) cultural differences and misunderstandings in my own country than I did living abroad. Overseas the ‘differences’ are “in your face” obvious so we go to great lengths to establish similarities so we can find a way to communicate meaningfully and enjoy our bonds as human beings rather than as ‘ethnicities’ or nationalities. I’m seeing a (gorgeous) man who is Japanese (born and raised) but lives, works and owns property here. I don’t know if he has American citizenship and I couldn’t care less. He has a great sense of humor and is personable,mfun, intelligent and kind. Am I dating him just because he’s Asian? Of course not! That’s just a plus. 😉 Chester February 21, 2016 @Elle, I think there is a lot of resentment for asians in the states still because of the past historical reasons from wars and stuff and it’s tiring to see stereotypes of asian men like ken jeong acting like an idiot. Reply Elle February 23, 2016 @Chester. Hi Chester. You bring up an excellent , and very important point!! I totally agree. It’s sad but true. ?People? like Kim Song-un doesn’t reflect well on his race or on human beings in general. He’s a 3rd generation psycho starting with his Gramp’s (Kim Song-Il) brutal dictatorship after WW2 and the (huge mistake) of dividing Korea. That said I know, and I hope millions of other people see him not as a reflection on Asians or Asian men but for the evil excuse of a creature that he is. He’s never known anything but privilege and power in his despicable life. As for eg., Mao Zedong (pinyon spelling) and Ho Chi Min and the like I hope people see them too for what they became; cruel dictators who just happened to be Asian. Let me tell you, Mao Zedong’s wife (of the infamous Gang of Four) was no slouch when it came to ‘evil’ either! My point is that I pray people are smart enough to know that these evil people soooo do not represent their race and that cruelty and evil deeds are not exclusive to Asian people. All races had and have their own Kim Song-uns, Mao Zedongs and other evil dictators. The N. Korean Kim dynasty of evil, Mao and their fellow demons are in good company with equally infamous ‘rulers’ of every race on earth like, Mussolini, Hitlar, Stalin, Desmond Tutu and more. But yes, sadly there are still people who associate all Asians with atrocities of the the Vietnam Nam war, N. Korea, and Communist China. My Asians friends hate it, my non-Asian friends and I dismiss it as the ignorance that it is. You made a very good point!! James February 17, 2016 Wow, thanks for the comments Elle, glad you’re with an Asian guy, but like you said, it doesn’t really matter about race-though that’s an opinion I don’t whole hardheartedly believe in; I noticed that non-asian women who had plenty of time to immerse themselves in other cultures tend to be attracted to those cultures. Normal women who’s stayed at their comfort zones tend to stay within their boundaries and if something different came along, they either ignore it or may have a slight curiosity towards it. It really just depends on the culture immersion people have experienced. Women who talk to me and want to know me, have experienced having asian friends or being interested with the culture at some point. But I’m confident, I guess I just need to work on my approach. Reply Elle February 21, 2016 For now I just want to say that good lookin’-is-gooood lookin’, and women know when they see a good lookin’ dude, no matter what his race. And I want to ‘2nd’ something that a lady recently posted. That is, that there are a lot of (Caucasian) women who are attracted to Asian men but Asian men don’t know it! IMHO when a man assumes that a certain ‘type’ of woman isn’t attracted to him because of his race, skin color, or whatever, then he most likely won’t try to get her attention in turn, making him appear disinterested and unapproachable, then creates an ongoing, negative dynamic that limits the possibilities for everyone involved. That said, it does take courage to approach someone even to just strike up a conversation, not to mention asking them out, especially of course if we believe they’re prejudiced, afraid or plain disinterested because we’re the ‘wrong’ race, hair color or any other such reason. None of us want to be rejected for any reason. But that’s where I believe that we have to know the fact that we are all worthwhile with or without ANYONE’s approval. Dismiss those who are ignorant and arrogant enough to think for a nano second that we need to “measure up” for ‘their’ approval’. People like the latter have to be crazy-insecure to think like that to begin with. Based on what you’ve said you sound like a great guy and no doubt gooood lookin’ :). Any woman who’s so shallow as to cross you off her ‘list’ fur to your ethnicity isn’t worth your time. As I said before I agree that a lot of Asian men are unaware that most white women are just as attracted to them as we are to any other race. Just be the great guy that you seem to be and don’t change yourself to fit into someone else’s idea of what’s “attractive” or not. That said, do yourself a favor and the next time you run into a woman (Caucasian or otherwise) that you’d like to take out, talk to her. If she responds, ask her out. You don’t have to stick to dinner and movies! Walk, skate, see an art exhibit, browse in s book store or just get coffee (or tea ?) and talk. Whatever you do, please don’t just assume it’s ur ethnicity if a woman doesn’t go out with you. “There are lots of fish in the sea” and remember, single women outnumber single men -everywhere (except China -mainland) so the odds are in your favor. And I want s full report!! ? Reply James Aquino February 22, 2016 Thanks for the uplifting comments, Leigh. I’m dating a white girl right now and it started off well. She was impressed that I had the cahones to sing in a sports bar on a Saturday night karaoke without being drunk haha. So I’m going to take more time to be with her and treat her better than her last guy, and so far she’s happy which makes me happy. But you’re right, ignorant people who limits themselves in their small bubble are missing out. John October 12, 2016 The problem is not that asian men think they are uglier. It is because the majority of them focus on hard work not looks and thus LOOK uglier. You rant on about how you find Asian men attractive but I seriously doubt you’d find people that look like me attractive, not even joking, it seems like asians seem to care the least about their looks aor are extremely rude, imo. Jess February 18, 2016 Hey! I found this article way late but thanks for using my video as an example! Sincerely, jessica (jinsain1) Reply Elle February 23, 2016 @James Aquino: The Feb 21, 2016 “good lookin’ is gooood lookin'” comment is mine. This is the 2nd time 1 of my comments has the name ‘Leigh’ (??). No big thing but wanted you to know James :). Either way I 2nd what ‘Leigh’ (ha) says. So you’re giving us white gals another chance, good!! ? Seriously though, I hope you and this lass hit it off and whatever happens, that you remain friends. Good show chap! ? Reply Brianna March 13, 2016 I am a white girl and I have to say, I have a habit of only wanting to date Asian guys. I’m not sure what exactly it is, but I tend to find them very attractive, and the guys I tend to meet are absolute sweethearts. I’ve seen my share of fit ones, scrawny ones, tall ones, short ones, I really don’t mind. I just tend to meet cool ones. Reply J March 16, 2016 Yeah, not many girls in my area I see seem to be interested in asian guys unless if he is wealthy and has status and somewhat attractive. Most of the interracial couples I see are white men with asian women, very rarely asian men with white women. For some reason there’s a lot more negative asian stereotypes about asian guys compared to white guys or black guys when it comes to sexual attraction, and I don’t know if it’s because from media influence or women are a lot more picky. Reply Elle June 12, 2016 @J True. Many wealthy men buy ‘eye candy-arm trophies’ with their money and many beautiful women ‘buy’ wealthy men with their beauty and sexuality. I have friends who won’t even look at a man unless he’s ‘worth’ a 7-digit figure. $$! For them, wealth takes priority over substance. More power to’um. Your post made me consider why Asians in general are stereotyped. Having lived, worked, etc. in at least a-dozens Asian countries, it occurs to me (duh) that from the time we start school (USA), Latin America is really about the only non-US culture we’re required to study leaving us to interpret Asian culture only in relation to restauranters, laundry businesses and martial arts, (and objectifying Asian women). Asian and every other culture werecompletely excluded from the curriculum. Fortunately that’s been changing in public schools. And with the shift in Eco Politics in particular, as Asian countries grow more powerful economically, they’re expanding globally , more Asian people are traveling, and more Americans are studying Asian language and culture and traveling to Asian countries. Starting with WW2 the US has been at war with 1 major Asian country or another: Japan, Korea, Vietnam Nam, and mainland China wasn’t too fond of us after we pulled out our military support during WW2. We were all “enemies” for generations and we’ve (all countries involved) really just begun to heal, fortunately. There’s still a lot of political instability within many Asian countries and very fragil political ties with the US. So Americans have had relatively little interaction with Asians and don’t yet understand their cultures beyond stereotypes -and many people tend to fear and/or avoid what they don’t understand. Be patient, educate people just by being who you are, and trust that things are changing for the better. ? Gary November 25, 2016 I tend to like you too. Lets go out! Reply Johnny December 1, 2016 This aint a…dating site. J April 9, 2016 I wish someday there would be a cool asian pop icon again in America like Bruce Lee and Brandon Lee…makes me sad Hollywood filmmakers are not trying at all. Reply Victoria May 19, 2016 I looked into this website after I learned that it is a lot more common to have AWWM then AMWW. I wondered why that is? I am a young Caucasian female and I’ve recently been hit on by a lot of Asian men. This happened after I relocated, due to college, to an area with more Asians while where I used to live there weren’t really any Asians. I’d always assumed that Asians preferred to date each other due to culture similarities and parents’ views. I realize that while this is still true for many they’re are also many who like to date non-Asians. Also, I realize now that many Asian men have this false belief that attractive Caucasian females will not date them. There are some Caucasian girls who won’t, often the racist ones so really no loss, but there are many Caucasian girls who don’t discriminate. In my opinion many Caucasian girls may simply feel Asians wouldn’t like them because they aren’t Asian. If you happen to like a pretty Caucasian girl I recommend you get to know her and then let her know you like her. Once you get to know her you can determine if she is open minded. Also, I know it’s sexist but a lot of Caucasian girls simply think that the guy has to be the one to initiative. Reply Victoria May 19, 2016 *take the initiative Also, I think there are attractive people from every race. Reply J May 24, 2016 You’re right Victoria, men have to be men and initiate but there are a lot of jealous people out there and will block and asian men are an easy target since they’re more reserved and…aren’t a threat…a lot of guys have blocked me because I’m so short and non threatening. My friend who is Chinese is shorter than me, he’s only 5’1″ and…depressed a lot. I’m a little taller than him but…both of us don’t have a chance. Reply Victoria June 6, 2016 First off, if you honestly think you have no chance then you really have no chance. In saying this I mean you’ll probably come off as desperate to the girl. Girls don’t like when any guy, regardless of his race, comes off as desperate. And, I’m not going to lie to you but a lot of girls want a guy to be taller than them or at least their height. I’m assuming you are 5’2 then? I’m 5’3 and I’m slightly below the average height for a white girl. I personally wouldn’t care if a guy was two inches shorter than me but some girls still would if they really like heels. Although, if you guys like girls who are really tall though it’s probably not going to work out. Honestly, I’d recommend going for girls close to your height, give or take a few inches. Another interesting thing to note though is some white girls prefer Asian men so they are probably less fixated on height. They tend to like Asian culture things like anime, kpop, bubba tea, cosplay, martial arts and so on. The prettiest girl in my school liked modern japanese fashion and dated an Asian guy. A lot of these girls are nice and cute but some are too obsessive so just ignore those ones. Honestly though you’re going to find a few crazies in every group. Also, how do people block you? P.S-My best friend is 5’4 but I’ve had three girls, and one boy, in just one year annoy me with questions about him because they had a crush on him. So, some girls don’t care as much about height. J June 8, 2016 Victoria, I’m 5′ 4″ and sometimes feel embarrassed by it because the guy is supposed to be taller then that girl for protection. Reply Bruce June 8, 2016 Height is just perception and I think it is just opportunity to test out own insecurity. I am 5’6 Asian man and have female friend that is 6′ tall. She doesn’t mind me height as long as I don’t mind hers. If you worry about height, then you just miss your chance to get to know or date that person. It’s hard decision to make but don’t miss your chance because of it. I enjoy your feed back Victoria. I agree with what you said above. Victoria June 8, 2016 Thanks Bruce, I agree with you too. J, the idea that a guy has to be taller than the girl he’s dating is honestly just a social construct put on us. Honestly, a couple of inches in height aren’t a reflection of a guy’s ability to protect a girl. It’s just like the negative stereotypes about Asian American males that were originally spread by Caucasian males to dissuade Caucasian females from dating Chinese Americans. Thankfully in the modern world individuals living in diverse environments, as I have, and introduction to other media online are less effected. Yes, there are girls who are still stuck in these stereotypes, as they don’t know any better, but with everyday more and more are becoming open minded. Still, the best way to make someone less effected by stereotypes they have of you is becoming friends or more with them. I’d recommend starting up a friendly conversation. I mean even if it doesn’t work out with that person it could with someone you meet through her. I became friends with an Asian guy recently who interjected into a conversation I was having with a girl in my class. Now, he and I are still friends and I don’t even know the girl anymore. Life is funny like that. You never know if the girl you like might end up liking you back in the future after getting to know you. However, the chances are significantly higher if you say hello rather than do nothing because you think you have no chance. Personally I don’t like when people immediately hit on me though. I prefer to be asked out by people who became friends with me first. It shows me he cares about my personality and my company, instead of just my appearance. I know a lot of other girls feel this way too. I’m sure I’m not the only female who will politely reject every stranger who asks me out but always warmly welcomes new friends. The key J is to go out and start friendly conversations. 🙂 This will open doors for you that you can utilize with a good eye, you get from socializing, for social cues, subtle flirting and what that particular person likes in a partner. We’re all humans, before culture or race. J June 9, 2016 @Bruce and Victoria, I agree height shouldn’t matter but most women (regardless of her ethnicity) can’t help themselves with tall men nor can most men (regardless of his ethnicity) help themselves with attractive women. I think this is wired in our DNA for survival. Reply J June 9, 2016 The bottom line is, if women were to pick out her man at a social event or some social gathering with lots of guys, she will most likely choose the tall confident guy compared to short confident guy. Growing up, I was never asked to hang out with girls, my best friend who is white and almost 6′ (and he’s more shy than I am), had girlfriends growing up. I never had a girlfriend (just some school friends). I’m not that bad looking either and I’m nice and tolerant with everyone…though I think I was too nice, I would give money to my friends and stuff. And I’m not saying I didn’t have any female friends growing up, I did have some close female friends but they already had a boyfriend. Some of my female friends did try to hook me up, though I had no interest in any of those girls that my friends were trying to hook me up with, we had absolutely nothing in common. I feel the older I get, the more I don’t want to take shit from anyone. I’m 40 years old and I’m tired. Bruce June 9, 2016 Why height is so big deal to you? Some women wants sincerely nice but one of kind guy…. So are you going to pass dating woman if she is 6’2 drop dead beautiful person? Or just because she is bigger than you? If you rely everything on height then you will miss all good things that are happening in between. Enjoy time you have with every woman because feeling may grow from there… Even you may think or feel she isn’t totally interested in you…. I mean look at Victoria.. How many woman do you meet someone like her in daily life? Reply J June 9, 2016 @Bruce, no, I’m not saying height is important for me, but a lot of women do have problems with men’s height. They also tend to stay with their ethnicity more than men do. Reply J June 9, 2016 @Bruce, I don’t really have a problem with women being taller than me but women have problems with men shorter than her. Also, women tend to stay within her ethnicity more than men do. Evan Marc Katz did a study about women rejecting men on dating sites because of their height, he also saw a pattern with women staying with her own ethnicity while the men didn’t really care. Reply Bruce June 9, 2016 We only need to find those who accept is, enjoy being with us. Why worry too much of some others anyway? Many are nice in general but I’d they are not attracted to is Asian man then that’s clue to keep moving I think. J June 9, 2016 @Bruce, I’m not worried…there’s just a lot of things going against us asian guys like our movie industry, which doesn’t help. Reply Bruce June 9, 2016 Let’s say… There is one pretty and lovely flower side of street. And many people are walking by…. Do you think, people are the problem or just flower isn’t pretty or beautiful enough? How often do you stop and think, “this is pretty , how beautiful..” To me, you are saying moving and this and that is the reason why people are not interested in Asian man. But if you can’t appreciate some pretty flower, flower can’t talk to you either. When we ignore something so little but blaming other or something , just isn’t fair I believe J June 10, 2016 Well, I think there already is an unfair disadvantage for asian men especially with media representation. Stereotypes from media representation about asian men seems one sided and I’m not the only that feels this way. Also, for some reason, stereotypes about asian guys like being too shy, can’t speak the language, too small penis etc just won’t go away. Think about this too, if we didn’t have preferences with dating, there wound’t be websites and asian PUA’s helping asian guys with confident training. It is what it is. I don’t think most non asian women know much about asian guys because of the small demographics. Reply Bruce June 10, 2016 Ok… Then what do you normally do to make change to all that? J June 11, 2016 @Bruce, what do I do to change it? Nothing. Do nothing. Since most Americans are white…let white people decide, it’s their country mostly. Elle June 10, 2016 Excellent point. Allow yourself to be confident. Take Tom Cruise for an example. Not only is he not tall, every woman I’ve seen him date or marry (except for Peneope Cruz) is taller than him! And none of these women are with him because of his money; they too are very wealthy. Cruise is confident. Women respond to confidence. Trust me. More importantly, trust yourself. 🙂 Reply J June 11, 2016 @Elle, lol Tom Cruise is white though, he’s privileged no offense. I was talking to a friend of mine and we both agree that if Bruce Lee had lived, it’s doubtful he would’ve made it in Hollywood, he’s asian (even though he had some German ancestry). Enter The Dragon wasn’t Bruce Lee’s movie, it was Fred Weintraub. Also, Bruce Lee played mostly one dimensional characters in the U.S. movies and tv shows. I do have to admit though he did influence a lot and not many people know it. Before he died, he was working on a script called The Silent Flute (which was later changed to Circle of Iron and Kung Fu Panda animated movie paid homage to his story) besides Game of Death. His son Brandon who had more of a multi-dimensional character in the Crow movie might have been able to make it in Hollywood but Brandon looks mostly white so he can get away with it. @Bruce, I was just being realistic. Realistically speaking, most asians in the U.S. are respectful and keep to themselves and that’s not really a bad thing. There’s nothing wrong with being in your own circle of friends (even if everyone’s the same race). Most Americans of all races are not really ready to fully integrate yet, I hate to say that but it’s true. You can see it on the news, on blogs with posters making racist comments etc etc…it’s never going to end. John October 12, 2016 j is saying that he has had Problems with heightt in life and he is sick and tired of it!!! Reply Shoko M. June 10, 2016 I’m a white girl (hate this term but gonna use it anyway), and I believe asian guys are quite attractive to be perfectly honest. Some white men are also equally attractive but I feel like asian men take care of themselves more (asian men from asian countries at least). Reply Elle June 10, 2016 I (white gal) have dated Asian and Amerasian men and that stereotype just ‘ain’t’ true! You’re gorgeous, sexy, confident, wicked intelligent, and well, just plain hot. The media does influence (too many) people. These are sheeple who find it easier and ‘safer’ to let others tell them what to think and how to act F#*! the stereotypes and prove them wrong by just being the (gorgeous!) and wonderful person you are. Don’t even justify these ignorant, tired, worn out stereotypes by acknowledging them. Don’t let them define you -turn the tables and you’ll prove them wrong. Anyone with half a-brain will see these absurd images for what they are. And remember, the media can only influence those who allow themselves too be led. It truly is a choice. And people don’t realize that when they don’t consciously make their own choices, they’ve still made a choice. People who choose to let media strangers characterize humans and the world they live in rather what’s right in front of their eyes and in the flesh are either very young or just plain stupid. But don’t dismiss them. If they’re easily influenced by inanimate images, you can just as easily influence their thinking in a realistic and positive manner. Don’t give greedy, opportunistic, nameless, faceless, profit seeking propaganda machines the credit or power to doubt yourself. You’re the only one who can give them permission to diminish you in any manner. Look at THEM for what they are. They are not real, you. They are the figment of someone’s perverse imagination and they don’t actually exist in any legitimate manner; you do. They only have the power that you give them. Choose to diminish them with a dose of reality. Reply Bruce June 11, 2016 Yeah I agree… The best thing for us Asian man may be just to be totally opposite of stereotype. I mean we don’t have to prove anything but we can prove what others have hard time doing… Is just being …. Just ourselves…thank you Elle… You are sweet.. Many hugs to you! Reply Bruce June 11, 2016 Sure you/we can… You still haven’t changed your own perspective…. That’s something you can do… And it does works …. I do daily… Every day… Every moment …. Elle June 11, 2016 Good point. I find Asian men attractive precisely BECAUSE of their unique and wonderful ‘differences”. They don’t need to conform to some arbitrary standard of machismo. Most women (western hem) have been trying to attain the aryan, (blond hair, blue eyed, double D) Barbie doll standard of beauty to the point that it’s killing them, literally. Out of curiosity I went platinum blond a few years ago and while it was an interesting experience, everyone I know told me they were glad I returned to my natural color because the blond looked nice but my natural color was twice as nice. I agree. Blond (while definitely beautiful) just doesn’t compliment my skin tone, eye color, etc. it looks great on real blinds, ha! I met (although fewer and far between) men who are as ‘brunette-crazy’ as the ‘blond-crazy’ guys. But as we know, at the end of the day it always (usually) comes down to everything but what’s on the outside. I just aim at being the ‘best me’ possible in all sense of the word. I have very light skin, (not black) but very dark, waist length brown hair and green eyes -the antithesis of the aryan standard of female beauty. I don’t care. I keep my hair health and shiny and emphasize the contrast between my light skin and dark hair. And I do it for me. Life is too short and interesting to waste on worshipping at the alter of some arbitrary standard of “beauty”. Even many people who do fit the “”standard” for beauty or machismo are horribly insecure, especially if they used it to ‘buy’ their way through life. I believe they have a particularly difficult time in life when the ‘currency’ starts to run out. Even with cosmetic surgery in the end, gravity will triumph!! Yikes! Aaaaaall of that said, sorry! 😉 …I spent my adult life immersed in Asian culture because I’m an (Mandarin) interpreter, and I still learn something new and fascinating nearly every day. I think people of all races take their gifts for granted but can choose to reexamine these gifts if/when they look at them through the eyes of a completely objective ‘outsider’ who finds them fascinating. Finally (promise!) my profession has nothing to do with my attraction to Asian men. I’ve found them gorgeous for as long as I can remember. Rock on Asian dudes! Elle June 11, 2016 You bet, and you nailed it! You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. At a time when I was struggling with my own self image and worth I had a very dear and wise friend who pointed out that we are worthwhile with – or without ANYONE’S approval. I began to say it, think it and then to believe it. As someone pointed out we can only maintain these truths by working at it everyday. At first it’s challenging, then it’s 2nd nature. Think, believe, become. Positive ir negative we record our perceptions and beliefs, imprint upon our subconscious and just loop over and over 24/7. It feels silly at first but if we say, “I am worthwhile with or without anyone’s approval.”, just 1-time a-day we will begin to believe it. It’s not arrogance or conceit; it’s a truth. 2nd only to my spiritual faith, this sentence is the most powerful truth I have ever found in my life. The power of saying and/or thinking this simple sentence changed a lifetime of self doubt and insecurity for me. Unbelievable. John October 12, 2016 @Elle Often, the people with the least brains are the hottest White girls 🙁 From what I’ve seen hot white girls have been rejecting ugly Asian Guys mostly because they will lose Close friends ds for going out with said ugly Asian guy. It’s just how the world works. Maybe I’m just mega unlucky or maybe I’m doing something wrong. All I know is, ugly Asian men have a tough time, IMO AND FROM MY EXPERIENCE, in attracting hot white girls who are often racist, uncomfortable outside comfort zones etc etc, all which makes it harder for me, the ugly Asian guy. Reply Bruce October 15, 2016 What is exactly “hot guy”…some hot women are interesting in alpha male. Why stereotype women as much as you dislike when they do that to you anyway. The only person you can change is yourself. Being comfortable and confident sometime important to attract women. Like if you can make them laugh… that’s great quality to have. But that’s how I feel. Bruce June 11, 2016 Just by saying “never going to end”. I know you are keep putting yourself into those circle that you are hoping to change. If you are true realist then you need to work on something and anything. Your eyes may be open but you have to keep your heart open as well. Be a man all you can be, not just follow someone just because they say so… Reply Bruce June 11, 2016 Law of attraction. 🙂 Reply Elle June 11, 2016 Oops! @Bruce My “You bet. You nailed it!” response was to you. 😀 Reply Bruce June 11, 2016 Thank you Elle. I appreciate your advice and encouragement for all of us Asian men. You stay true to yourself and stay beautiful as you are. 🙂 Reply Elle June 12, 2016 @Bruce Likewise. 😉 And thank you for kind words. Elle June 12, 2016 @J Re: Tom Cruise. All you say is true. I think he is hugely talented and definitely earned his fame and fortune, but he was also well groomed and ‘handled’ and very carefully packaged and presented as the “boy next door”. Still, he didn’t let his height get in his way. He brought attention to everything but his height and so the latter wasn’t even a blimp on the reader screen. But I agree with you. There’s no getting around the fact that that in any country the “dominant” (referring exclusively to proportion) culture, race, etc. will inevitably marginalize the ‘non-dominant’. We’ve come along way in learning to live together but must continue to move forward towards unity. Reply Elle June 12, 2016 @J I wanted to add a thought about Bruce Lee. You know, I think Bruce Lee actually did make it in Hollywood. And correct me I’m wrong but didn’t a Hollywood agent actually go to Hong Kong (after he became an international star of course) and try to get Bruce Lee to come back? They made a huge mistake with Bruce and I believe they regretted it. Perhaps Bruce Lee became a legend because he DIDN’T let Hollywood exploit him. He called the shots and I believe, surpassed anything he would’ve found in Hollywood. He didn’t need Hollywood- they needed him. He’s had (and still has) more influence on Hollywood than it ever would’ve had on him. H-wood is still trying to emulate Bruce Lee and it just can’t quite succeed and it kills them that they can’t take a-shred of credit for his success. There’s no entertainment industry or border that could’ve stood in the way of the phenomena that was Bruce Lee. For the record, I don’t believe Bruce died of “natural causes” or that Brandon Lee’s death was an “accident. PS: Very interesting info about Enter the Dragon and Kung Fu Panda -haven’t seen the latter but will watch it now. Reply J June 15, 2016 @Elle, Bruce Lee never really made it in Hollywood, he died too soon. It wasn’t until the success of Enter the Dragon, he became famous in America. A lot of people wanted to take up martial arts from all over the U.S. because of that movie. Also, he forced himself to work in Hong Kong to be a star in Asia and he did end up being a star in Asia and eventually getting noticed in the U.S. Not to get off topic but I’d like to give my condolences to the families and friends of the victims killed in the Orlando massacre. Doesn’t make sense how the gunman was able to purchase a high powered fire arm when he was being monitored by FBI and he also has bi-polar….doesn’t make any sense, what a crappy world we live in. Reply Bruce June 15, 2016 Good point J… Regardless… We are all human being… Very nice of you thinking of people that way… Now you see… Those attitude just won’t appear as height or looks… If you know what I mean… Compassion is manly thing too… Some women loves when men can run tears too…. Believe it or not Jinsu June 25, 2016 Didn’t have time to read all the comments but don’t believe the white male dominated media. There are plenty of white women who are married to East Asian guys especially Korean and Japanese American guys. Just look at the US Census stats, 1 out 3 of those guys are married to white women, for those born or raised in America. I’m one of them. It’s usually the recent immigrants who are not assimilated who don’t date out. I also have two Korean American friends married to white women. We have the pretties kids. Wives are hot too. hahaha. Dont let the media perpetuate this lie. Reply J June 29, 2016 @Jinsu Nice story and you’re probably right about the US Census but I have a feeling those attractive white women were only interested in tall attractive asian guys (are your asian guy friends tall??)…either that or your asian friend’s self worth (like his status and wealth) is much much higher than hers. Also, probably those asian guys were in the right environment as well, unfortunately, not many asian guys like me are that lucky, and I’m not really in the right environment. I can’t really move either because I’m pretty successful. I’m a workaholic so I don’t really have time for dates. I did have more time when I was younger but I was never asked to hang out. Reply Owen July 5, 2016 Hey J, after writing the comment below, and I read your comment here, I feel a bit sorry for what you said here. You seem to be full of stereotypes those media you are talking about create in people’s mind. Remember, those stereotypes are not personal and it will quickly fill your mind if you don’t have much personal experience. If you already have a good job and all that, maybe you should focus on making yourself more interesting or just being yourself in general. It will increase your chance to go out with a white woman or at least you’ll be happier. My ex was not interested in tall, rich Asian guy, but she was really attractive. Owen July 4, 2016 Dating a white woman is nothing hard. The problem is the language barrier, not the race. Being an Asian makes me stand out more, it’s actually better. Now if only I can speak English like a native.. But then, most of the white women are unattractive and fat to my eyes. I mean, too big. I’m doomed for living in the states. Reply J July 5, 2016 @Owen, I notice there are quite a few chubby white women as well but there are quite a few chubby women of all races. Also, it’s not just the language barrier, asian women are doing just fine. It’s the media bias that constantly reinforces asian men as being undesirable and physically weak i.e. short, portly, nerdy, not really attractive. Some common popular characters like Charlie Chan, Mr. Yunioshi, Long Duk Dong, and even real life people like William Hung, Ken Jeong, and PSY are not really helping stereotypes…not at all. Reply Owen July 5, 2016 Hey J, When I say white women are fat(although I know it’s considered to be rude in the states, I do think they are fat and the society let them get away with it), it’s not just that I’m saying they are over weight. They literally have a bigger bone structure than most Asian men, including myself. I’m an average size for a Korean man and my ex was bigger than me, even though she was on the small side for a white girl. I’ve heard about the media and watched the movie Sixteen Candle and all that and I do believe those help forming an unsexy stereotype of Asian men, but because I personally think I’m so far away from those Asian men’s stereotype, I don’t worry about it that much. Still, because we Asian men have those stereotypes to get over to have a relationship with white women, we just have to try extra harder to be unique, to understand white culture, or to be attractive in general. But what’s the point of all that jazz? If you think about it, the motivation for a Asian man wanting to date a white woman is not that pretty. Plus, there are few white women who are really open minded to completely different culture and language, even though many of them believe they are well traveled and want to be boastful about it. I do have a lot of things to say on this matter, because dating a white woman in the past vastly shifted my life’s course. And now I want someone like Asian American, who understand and connect to my culture, but who are not a white woman at the same time. P.S. I missed the thing I wanted to say. See, I make this kinda mistakes and my argument gets poor when I have to talk in English. I don’t do this in my own language. Let me know if you want to understand the logic of why it happens. About the language barrier,.. yes everyone’s situation’s different. For me, Being short or nerdy doesn’t concern me. Many white women have shown me that they are interested, but I’m just frustrated I can’t handle things well because of my language barrier. And of course, I know there are other factors that play a role. Anyway… J July 6, 2016 You’re right, biologically, different ethnicities have different body structures, and if you know your roots it might help your family health history. This is why, it’s more common to see non asian men with asian women…seems to be promoted by the media. Although, this doesn’t apply to everyone, I have some east asian friends who are over 6′. Michelle Wie is tall and so are her parents. I think a lot of white girls are sort of afraid to date asian guys because of their short height. Reply J July 6, 2016 @Owen, I’m not saying I haven’t tried and I get noticed from time to time, people have said I have a nice looking face. I’m just short and a lot of my colleagues and my family members make fun of my short stature. Which is fine, I don’t mind short jokes and there are very few women of all races that will date short men like me. My job is alright, it’s not the best I could do, but I’m content for now. The only thing that’s missing is having the experience of being in a relationship, I never bothered with girls growing up since most girls I liked already had boyfriends and the girls I didn’t like were either mean girls who wanted to use me, nerdy girls, or girls who were grossly overweight. Reply Piper July 8, 2016 I’m a white woman who is very attracted to Asian men. Hopefully I can snag one of you up some day lol Don’t give up hope boys 😉 Reply Bruce July 8, 2016 I think it would be nice if this site offered some feature like some online dating site….. Just saying… Reply J July 10, 2016 @Piper, no there are a lot of guys regardless of his race that have given up (it isn’t just asian guys!) I have a lot of white friends and some black friends, and they can’t get dates either, they’re just average looks, works at service jobs. It’s probably safer you stick to your race, most people are not really ready and I think we’re all too fixated with race, look at the protests going on now. Reply Mark July 15, 2016 Asian men belongs to Asian women plain and simple some Asian guys just want to show off if they can get some blonde white girl. Why can’t you just go and date an Asian girl that’s the problem with Asian guys now adays, so what if white girls don’t like us then ok what’s the big deal? Reply J July 20, 2016 @Mark, no, not all asian americans are in an environment with other asians, where did you come up with that theory? The only other asian in my high school growing up was my brother. There were no other asians in my high school or in my town. Reply Mel July 30, 2016 Hi Mark, I understand what you are saying but it is really negative and quite offensive. Especially to myself when I am dating an Asian. I would be extremely upset if any friend, family member or stranger, disapproved or made comments about our relationship. This is just as offensive as saying that Caucasian men should be with Caucasian women. People want who they want and they can chase any girl they desire. Personality always wins in the end. Mel July 30, 2016 I am an Australian 24 year old woman with German ancestry and I have always been attracted to Asian men. Growing up I was originally interested in the Korean and Japanese culture as I played video games a lot and was fascinated with the romance that entailed in games such as Final Fantasy. I then travelled to Thailand and their culture also intrigued me as much as Japan and Korea. I now have been in a relationship with a half Filipino-half Australian for six years – although, when we travel around Asia, people believe he is Thai or Balinese so he does have a strong Asian look which is not traditionally the Filipino look. My love for the Asian culture could be due to the fact that Australian men tend to lack the confidence to show their true feelings towards women and are always trying to act masculine, so personally, I have always craved men that were a bit more feminine and in touch with their sensitive side. In addition, I have noticed how uncommon Asian men and Caucasian women are and when my boyfriend and I travel, we receive many stares and comments – all positive. However, I do feel in some cases in Australia, we have been looked at as a couple in a negative way more from the older generations who really did not grow up with a lot of interracial couples (referring to Australia’s 1900’s period). In summary, all of the Asian cultures vary so much but I do find similarities in their respect to women, their respect to their families and their general positive perspective on life. I do hope that we are helping others gain confidence that any human can find love with whom they desire, in the end, there is really no such thing as a ‘race’ – we are all the human race. Reply J August 3, 2016 @Mel, nice comment. One of the reasons why your experience with your asian boyfriend was negative in Australia (and probably some parts of the U.S. as well) is because Australia is white male dominated society and it’s like that in every country where if the guy is a minority (compared to a majority guy), you will always get negative experiences. I was with a female friend (she’s white and I’m east asian-american) and we’re just friends and not dating, but because my female friend is so attractive (and I’m not bad looking myself) we’ve gotten looks. One time when we were waiting in line for coffee, this old white guy looked at us in shock. Reply Bruce August 4, 2016 i think you need to stay focus on woman in front of you, instead of man beside/behind you…. J August 5, 2016 @Bruce, I wasn’t staring at him, he was staring at us in shock. He wasn’t like a really old guy, he was middle aged. A September 16, 2016 I keep reading that white women are attracted to asian men and yet on dating apps and websites like Tinder, OKCupid, POF, we never seem to get dates or even responses. Now you’ll say something like: “Those sites are superficial”. If white women are indeed attracted to asian men, why is it that we are having such a hard time on those services? Let’s be real here, very few white women like asian men, that is why we never approach because we know at the back of our minds that they don’t like us so why waste our time? I live in Toronto where it’s very diverse, but the women here are still very prejudice. Reply Brianna September 18, 2016 Actually, when I had tinder, I added a lot of Asian guys, since they were cute or downrifht handsome, and seemed to be good guys, but whenever I messaged then, they’d never message Mr back. It works both ways, really, and it kinda sucks. Reply anonymous September 18, 2016 No offense, they probably didn’t find you attractive then. Bruce September 18, 2016 Looks can fool us in many ways…. I have tried online dating site myself. I have made many long distance friends than actually meeting anyone. I think it’s better not to rush especially online because we can be anything we like to be behind computer… Brianna September 19, 2016 @Anonymous that wouldn’t explain why literally almost every other guy would message me back. That’s partly why I looked up if Asian guys even usually like white girls Reply anonymous September 20, 2016 @Brianna, online dating sites don’t really work. They only work with whatever effort you put into it. If there were things maybe in your profile he didn’t like, he probably just passed on it. I remember when I was younger and on dating sites, I ignored women who I didn’t have any common interest (or who I thought was really boring)…you may not have had a common interest with these Asian guys. No offense, just by being attracted to a guy’s looks seems kine of shallow, race has nothing to do with anything (although women seem to be more picky then men are when it comes to race). Reply Bruce September 20, 2016 It’s not so much about effort you put in making profile but how much and how well you represent yourself in profile does make difference. I have tried online dating myself which attracted many but very distant and many different type of women as well. Just by reading profile can’t really tell the whole thing of that person, partially possible , I think. Anonymous September 22, 2016 @Bruce, well yeah of course, and the more professional your profile looks, the better chances you have than not at all. A September 20, 2016 So let me take a little poll.. Women who responded or will be looking at this, where are you located? What city? Toronto is super diverse and has everything yet it feels so cold, unapproachable and need I say again prejudice. I’m pretty convinced that all the girls here want a tall white bearded guy. Man buns and tattoos are bonuses. Even my sisters aren’t into asian guys ffs. I’m not even a typical asian, my friend considers me white-washed, but I still do “asian” activities. I work in construction, drive a lifted Jeep (not trying to fit in, I just love them!), decently fit, only thing is I’m a little short, but I don’t display that in my profiles so it’s not that. Having said that, ladies even write in their bios that they don’t care about height. Maybe they’re lying??? Also, I’m not ugly, I just look a little mixed but I’m not. Reply Brianna September 20, 2016 I live in central new York, in a village where about 98% of us are white. Oddly enough, for being a tiny place, we are extremely accepting of at form of diversity. I moved about twenty minutes from there, where it is more diverse, and I love it. I’m just frustrated because the guys I’m interested in either don’t respond or just want hookups. The girls around me want asshats, and I’m surrounded by them (-_-). I’m awkward and geeky, I just want some one that will accept that and have fun with me. Reply Anonymous September 22, 2016 @Brianna, what do you mean by awkward? Like you wear really weird clothes or your hairstyle is really weird or something? There are beauty tips on youtube like Michelle Phan. Bruce September 22, 2016 Just be yourself. Be honest to yourself and with yourself. … There will be someone that will understand you regardless… Till then… Just wait A September 22, 2016 I’m tired of waiting. I’ve been waiting for the last several years. I’m 27 now, still with no girlfriend. I have to take action which I’ve been trying to do, because if I just sit around and wait, I’ll be more invisible than I already was. Reply Anonymous September 22, 2016 @A, I’m much older than you, never had a girlfriend, I’m not bad looking either. Just be around where there are a lot of people. I know it sucks not many girls in America are attracted to Asian men. Reply A September 22, 2016 Sometimes I feel like moving to Europe somewhere. I think it’s a little better there. vince September 28, 2016 Asian man here. read like half the comments, there is so much ignorance here that i’m losing faith in humanity. wtf is wrong with you people. wake the fuck up of course different women have different preferences, and many have racism still ingrained in their psyche. the latter fact, this thread makes obvious, with stupid generalizations coming from all kinds of people with different backgrounds, all equally idiots, or maybe just insecure people making excuses. stop making excuses, forget people who judge you for the color of your skin, and connect with people who love you for your soul, who and what you really are, which is way beyond any racial or cultural category. Reply John October 12, 2016 Some of us aren’t as lucky as you and cant find peod who love us for our soul!! Your comment is ignorant and generalised that all asian men that complain are just excuse makers but some actually try! They are just born ugly and feel like to be the self is nott to drastical ly change their looks Reply vince September 28, 2016 ok still not finished with the comments, they’re actually interesting, and it does get better as i keep reading. Thanks to Elle specifically, good to see a real person on here. Love! n stay up my asian and non asian peoples! Reply Asian4Life October 7, 2016 I am an Asian male and every white girl in the WHOLE world seems to just ignore me. I’m just that piece of dirt while other white boys are getting it all. I think some of these comments were males imitating as females to boost your self-esteem, but let’s face it. Asians just aren’t attractive. I have had so may bad experiences, it’s just so hard to believe now. I’ll have to move to Asia just to find a girl “suitable” for me. I have not met one white girl that has told me that other white girls like Asian men. I don’t look like the “Asian-Stereotype” and my friends even tell me I could be a white male if my face was a little adjusted. There has just been that statement that white women shouldn’t like Asian men, and it’s being passed down from generation to generation. I’m lucky enough just to get a white girl to talk to me. I have so many white males talk to me. Heck, most of my friends are white. I just don’t believe it and never will. Give up my Asian brothers… Reply Leigh October 11, 2016 From what I’m reading here, you’ve made a number of significant logical leaps. First of all, you’ve assumed that the reason white women are ignoring you is because you’re Asian. And secondly, you’ve assumed that just because white women are ignoring you because you’re Asian, it means that they’re not attracted to any Asians. Have you ever considered that they might be ignoring you because you’re not interesting, regardless of your race? Reply John October 12, 2016 99% of the time, or maybe even more, Leigh, what u have said is true. However you must give co sideration to the asian guys who have just had Such terrible experiences with racist people thT seem to be everywhere that they give up hope, I understand it’s usually the person but in the 0.0001% chance that it is the community we need to comfort the person as life must be terrible for them!! Bruce October 12, 2016 As much as you observe what’s happening to others, perhaps you need the same energy to yourself. Looks itself really don’t attract anyone… make or female. Personality matters a lot too. Beside , when we are hungry… we all go after for food, but how come when it comes to women, do you wait for something to happen or come to your way? I am Asian. Very average looking but I don’t have problem making friends or going out with anyone but I make sure we are friends first…. if the process we take is correct or right, good result should follow… many also like us Asian being Asian too. Reply Dk October 12, 2016 I’m asian american and tons of women of all nationalities are attracted to me, honestly I feel it’s a blessing being asian occasionally. I’ve even out competed other races all the time with no problems at all in attracting women. Don’t know what your problem is “Asian4Life” but to each their own I guess. For my asian brothers keep on going for women your attracted to and be real. All women love us, especially WHITE women. Reply Anonymous October 14, 2016 There are more challenges for Asian men in America, and it’s easy to assume American white women aren’t that interested (even though there are quite a few white women interested, look at anime cosplay in America). There aren’t very many Asian entertainers in America for fair representation (it’s mostly comedic caricatures and not taken seriously). There are a lot of negative stereotypes about Asians like small penis jokes, can’t drive, speaking in broken English, weak and not tall, nerdy and not really considered attractive (except for Asian women), anti-social and shy (think Virginia Tech shooter). There are still ignorant Americans who still think Asians are kind of a new ethnic group (so not really seen as an American or equal). America is slowly getting better but there are still a lot of weirdos out there, I mean just look at Trump. Do you guys honestly think women find him attractive? I mean at all?? After what he said about women? Anonymous October 14, 2016 I guess what I’m saying is that Asian men can be attractive in America, they’re not considered a-holes like Trump. Asians are usually polite. Reply Bruce October 20, 2016 Hope you all are having great day every day. I would like to hear some update from many of you. Miss talking to you guys! Reply A November 2, 2016 Here’s an update: I’m getting more desperate to the point that I’ve downloaded all the popular dating apps and seeing how it goes. On the other hand, I am also trying to join a social club to meet people or plan on taking a language course. Reply Bruce November 2, 2016 Good luck to you. Reply Andreawan November 16, 2016 Hi guys, it’s an interesting article to read. I’m Indonesian so technically I’m different with the Japanese and Chinese guys as I have tanned skin. I had date with Spanish girl once when I was in college and she was an exchange student. She studied about our culture and yes she had huge interest to my country culture. I dont know dude, some white girls are easy to be approached but some others don’t. I think it is only a preference matter. We are all having our own preference, aren’t we? Me? I adore white girls, they are cute and I’m looking forward to dating them someday. Good luck brother! Reply Andreawan November 16, 2016 Ah, I forget to mention that my Indonesian friend who is a diver, had been aproached for many French girls at his college. Believe me, Trump is still prettier than him, lol. Reply Perses November 25, 2016 I have no clue why some of the Asians are so obsessed with white chicks. The more ridiculous thing is someone is making profit out of this obsession. There is absolutely no reason whatsoever to put white women on some sort of pedestal. What do white women have that Asian, black, native or whatever chicks don’t have? And think this way, if a girl turns you down solely because you are Asian, then she’s not worth hanging out either. This is pathetic af. The fact you desperately trying to hit on “white chicks” shows exactly how insecure you are. Reply Victoria December 3, 2016 I thought I’d give my thoughts on this as a white woman. I’m actually actracted to pale Asians with nice faces and black hair, like Kpopstars. I like goths so I prefer very pale skin, pretty faces, stylish, no facial hair, slim/muscular body and long black hair. That’s my type regardless of race. So, there you go. I’ve seen a cute Asian guy with a man bun. Now all that’s nice and good but let’s talk about the bad. When Asian guys hit on me, they often have fetishes. I can tell the difference between someone liking me and fetishizing me because I’m white. Also, I get approached by weird grad students who are too old for me, I’m an undergrad in university. I have people tell me, “If I date you I’ll be so cool on my friends will give me high fives, I’ll be the man”. Also, “I’ve always wanted to date a white girl”, “I like your kind” and so on. I also hate hearing them talk against Asian women as I am a feminist. I want to be liked for me personally, not because I’m a part of a race. So, what are my thoughts? Yeah, some Asian guys are attractive. However, I’m not going to be anyone’s trophy and find that disgusting. I’m not saying everyone does that, of course not. I notice it mainly in grad and foreign exchange students.So, if you like a girl who happens to be white treat her like a normal person and don’t fetishize her. Reply Bruce December 9, 2016 Having your own preference should be respected. You are not excluding anyone but expressing your preference or what you feel comfortable. I myself being in middle age but far from having pale skin since I work outside everyday. When it comes to relationship or dating, I really believe what matter between them… not what other May think of you or how you guys feel around people… if someone that totally unexpected approach you even with tanned skin, only you know the answer. Reply J December 10, 2016 @Victoria, I never fetishize. Many girls find me attractive, I get noticed. I would ignore those people that fetishize, they’re…desperate. Also, I wouldn’t get all so picky about someone’s age, that’s kind of rude. We all get old and eventually die. Reply Someone December 10, 2016 Maybe you need to be more spiritually attractive person. Victoria December 11, 2016 It’s not really the age, it’s the power dynamic. You see, the graduate students are often your teacher assistants. So, when I get hit on by grad students I feel like it’s my professor hitting on me. I also look way younger than my age so I get pedophilic vibes. I mean it’s kind of creepy, like a University student hitting on a high school freshman. However once you’re in your thirties who cares if the other person is thirty four? And, good for you. Also, I realize the majority of people don’t fetishize people. And, on the other side of it I’ve met girls who fetishize Asian guys, which is just as creepy. Oh, I am well aware my university is full of desperate guys in general. I just try to ignore them. However, I thought I’d give my thoughts on why I have rejected Asian men who hit on me. It’s not always about race but a lot of other factors too. J December 11, 2016 @Victoria, some individuals do look younger than their age, a lot of people assume I’m in my early twenties even though I’m much older. I think it’s because I have hair and still skinny. I’m assuming you’re attractive? Men can’t help themselves with attractive women nor can women help themselves with confident men. Reply Victoria December 19, 2016 @J By general beauty standards, I’m attractive. Yeah, agreed for me it’s a child like face. It’s good you’re skinny, as long as it’s a healthy weight, because being fat isn’t healthy. However, I prefer attractive men to confident men. I was raised to be humble so too much confidence isn’t something I like. I prefer someone who can talk about their insecurities with me than hyper-masculine and super confident guys. I don’t like whining or self-loathing but a conversation about genuine insecurities makes me feel closer to a person. Then again, my tastes fall more under the emo/goth subculture than general society’s tastes. I think we can all help ourselves though. I don’t mind being hit on but I do mind how creepy and rude men often are about it. Karen January 17, 2017 Huh. Before this article, I didn’t even realize there were Asian men who liked white women. I had been feeling “Wow- how can I get an Asian man, when they must think all white women are fat, stupid ugly cow creatures?” Ive never had an Asian man be interested in me due to my being white. I don’t consider me being white to be necessarily a plus in my love life, but rather a minus. Reply PD December 28, 2016 I think this AM WW dating issue has a large impact on location. If you live in the eastern US like NJ or the south it sucks. Like some people here had said Midwest you got more chance. I also believe some parts of westcoast you have better chance. Secondly it is also all about confidence. If you talk with an accent try to practice to eliminate it. Stay healthy, do not dress sloppy, always take a shower. I’ve dated WW and black women too in my lifetime, it is all about confidence and how you talk. Also a little sense of humor helps. Reply J December 29, 2016 PD, there’s no magical place in America for the ladies to be attracted or not be attracted to an asian man. A good looking person is a good looking person. Reply PD December 29, 2016 J, that could be true, if the Asian guy isn’t really appealing physically then geographic location would not matter. I am halfway decent in my opinion, not a bum but not wealthy, have a decent job, and some talent- I’m a pianist and a drummer but nothing to rave about. Just my experiences, I lived in many places, found NJ meeting WW to date is tougher than New York City. Also you can meet much more educated and refined black women in NYC, if you’re looking for them. I find midwest states a bit easier, similar to New York but you’ll meet less metropolitan women. In my experience I find the westcoast from northwest to California easiest. I think westcoast white women seem more open to Asian guys. Again just what I can see. And of course it’s a whole package, if your looks is not average, too shy and not confident then yeah might be tough. PD December 29, 2016 By the way, I’m no Italian stallion-type and get WW easy. I had a tough time. When I was a teen NJ it was tough, especially when I see white friends who are dorky and fat gets the girls while Im the one who goes home alone. I get over it though and move on. I make some changes to myself. Eventually I met one which lasted a couple of years. Reply J January 2, 2017 Ok you guys, I’m going to say this once and don’t take this the wrong way. I’m just being honest and they’res been studies done on this. Most white women have never been with an asian guy in America and since most haven’t been around asian men, they aren’t attracted to them other than what they seen on TV and movies, but most of those programs are not a very attractive representation of asian men. Many of them are negative about asian men. Besides in movies and TV, in dating, most asian women are favored because they tend to be smaller while asian men are ignored because they also tend to be smaller which white women are not attracted to. Also, black men and women tend to be bigger and black women aren’t as desired while black men are. SO…basically, asian guys are not considered attractive yet in the U.S. compared to white men and black men (although that could change with the help of social media and most young people are tech savy, it’s better than nothing. Reply PD January 3, 2017 With news of Serena Williams engaged to Reddit co-founder there you go, it’s black/white relationship. Why not Nets Jeremy Lin, not that she or he should be dating, Serena would probably not go for him. It would be great to see Lin to be seen with a white woman girlfriend in public. It would be a start to portray Asians guys in dating another race. Reply Karen January 17, 2017 As a white girl in NC, I’ve had this weird feeling like “if I say I’m attracted to Asian men, people will assume I’m ONLY attracted to Asian men and people will assume I’m one of the weeaboos with Yellow Fever.”. I’m attracted to every race, all it takes is a kind man with a kind heart, which is surprisingly rare. That said, as worried as I am that this may sound bad, I do think I may have a slight preference towards Asian men. I think that this is becoming a pretty popular preference with women in general as well. The notion that Asians are generally smarter than Caucasians may be true (in many, not all cases), and I’ve noticed a lot of people saying they felt out of place in their white girlfriend’s social groups. This strikes me as odd- wouldn’t someone’s superior intelligence be a point of inspiration and something for the other people in the group to aspire to? The people posting here seem to have many insecurities on this. If anyone is lacking self confidence on this subject and needs to talk about it, I’m here. Race should not be a divider in love. If youre kind and compassionate, then you likely already fill the number one requirement in whatever girl you choose to pursue. Reply J February 7, 2017 You’re from the south? I didn’t know southern girls like asian dudes…just kidding, but there are not a lot of asians in America yet and your friends probably think it’s limiting. Reply Karen February 7, 2017 Probably, aha. It’s really not tho- I always hear “who wants that small dick though?” But Im relatively sure the cock size average between white men and asian men doesn’t hold much of a gap, if any. I dunno. Also doesn’t matter to me. Anyhow, it’s fine by me, if they don’t want Asian guys, more potential dating options for me! J February 7, 2017 Karen, unfortunately, there’s been studies done on the uh size of the uh male member. Asian guys on average have the smallest and believe it or not white men on average have the biggest, it’s not black men. But men and women who judges a guy’s appearance by his dick size is not really worth the time, not really worth anyone’s time. dAT BOII gIF February 3, 2017 The thing is, why do you guys even search this thing up? Reply J February 7, 2017 Why not? Keep in mind America is a predominately white culture and minorities like asians are considered kind of a new group to many non asians. A lot of non asians still and I mean STILL mixes up the difference between Asian-Americans living in America (WHO WERE BORN IN FUCKING AMERICA) and Asians living in Asia. To some ignorant and racist non asians, all asian culture and people are the same no matter the country of origin. Reply Danny February 13, 2017 America is a hyper masculin society. So you gotta play the game by its rules. I’ve dated almost exclusively white women from many different European countries and America. Anerican women more so than European women really buy into the man should be masculin image. American women get their image of Asian nen from tv which isn’t flattering. Asian American guys got a lot going for us we dress well, highly educated, responsible, family oriented. etc. But most Asian American guys tend to be thin unless you’re a Korean like me. Lol. Also too timid. Join a gym work out a little. That should boost your confidence and don’t be afraid to talk to girls. Even if you get rejected don’t take it personal and wallow in your sorrow. I ‘ll take ten rejection to land just one girl. Smile man it goes a long way. Reply A February 19, 2017 Here’s an update with me for people who have been keeping up to date with this thread (I’m A). Online dating: zero success, as expected. I’ve been talking to a girl for over a year now and I thought she liked me. I eventually couldn’t take it anymore and told her my feelings for her. She didn’t feel the same way. She doesn’t talk to me as much as she used to now. But we’ll always have some type of connection, because she’s my best friend’s sister-in-law. I’m turning 28 next month, been single all my life and I’m getting more and more depressed. I found out I have mild depression and must have for years now, which would explain my bad memory, low energy and mood among other things. I started smoking weed instead of anti-depressant drugs to help with my depression. It helps. I’ve been using the app Meetup to join social events, which kinda helps, you get to meet new people and all, but the people tend to be a lot older than me. I understand people have preferences, but it just seems every girl has the same preference. I like Mediterranean and South American women, but it doesn’t mean I don’t like white, asian, black or brown women. With me, it’s not just race that is affecting me, it’s also height. I was on Tinder and a girl that was 5’2 stated she only wanted men 6′ or taller. Women say they don’t care about height but they do, they’re just not as vocal as this girl or else they’d be labelled shallow. The only thing I can do is keep on doing what I’m doing, but it’s REALLY hard to get through some of the days. Sometimes I just feel like dropping everything and just run away. Reply J February 22, 2017 @A, don’t be so hard on yourself. I’ve been there when I was your age. Everybody goes through it and I didn’t have a girlfriend growing up and I still don’t have a girlfriend. I’ve done Meetup as well, I thought about getting back to it again. I’m so focused right now on my career, and I don’t really care for girls anymore, they seem to notice me because I have a nice looking face but chasing after them or be too depressed of not getting is a total waste of time. You still have a lot of years to go, I wish I was 28 again, but just remember us guys have to be men first, women will come along the way… Reply J May 30, 2017 When will it be my turn for love? Reply Rachel May 31, 2017 I’m a white girl who has always been more attracted to Asian men (yes this includes Indian, since that was an argument on here?). When I got older I started realizing it wasn’t very common, but now people are acting like I’m rarer than a unicorn. It honestly boggled my mind because I don’t see how you could not think they are sexy. I’ve never had a problem with “size” either. My bf is half Filipino. So guys we are out there, and we think the rest of the world is crazy! Reply j June 4, 2017 they only want the good looking ones. Reply Jade June 23, 2017 I agree. I find Asian men to be super sexy and mysterious. <3 Reply j July 30, 2017 what do you mean by mysterious? you’re worried about their package? J June 25, 2017 Half Filipino doesn’t count. He’s still White, isn’t he? Reply ken July 30, 2017 Why do you want a white woman? Don’t you like an Asian woman? Angie July 24, 2017 Rachel, I’ve had similar experiences where I have been asked about my “type” and state my preference for Asian men. People are like “really?” I spent 15 years in Hawai’i where I learned Asian and Asian mixed men are where it’s at. I have a harder time meeting them since moving back to the mainland but still very, very fond of them. Reply Kathinka September 29, 2017 I on my scale of attactiveness Asian guys are clearly the number one. Always have been. I love the eyeshape, the dark eyes and the dark hair. Unfortunately the Asians I Approached, weren’t interested in me at all. Two said they weren’t allowed to date outside their culture by their parents, one said he was only attracted to Asian females. And those who were actually open to date a Westerner told me they were only interested in tall blondes with light eyes and pale skin. I am neither of those, except for the pale skin. During summer I can’t go into the sunlight without sun blocker or a parasol or I will get sunburned. I have brown-green eyes and a very strange hair, which seems brown from afar but actually has hairs in every colour from blonde to dark brown. It also has a dark red glow in the sunlight. My mom calls it street-dog hair and maybe it’s a fitting desciption. I am also only 1,65m and don’t have long legs. I also have a narrow waist and wide hips. Two Asian guys flat out told me my hips make me look fat and my hair and eye colour make me look as boring to Asian males as Asian females. That made me wonder about Asian weight standards. With 1,65m and 47kg I never considered myself fat. I might not be super skinny, but I work out and I am not over-weight by my home countries standards (BMI). I can’t really help my bone struckture, but does that really make you fat in Asian eyes? Suffice to say, that I have given up on approaching Asian males. Either they don’t date outside their race or they simply find me unattatactive. Pity, but what can’t be helped, can’t be helped. Attraction can’t be forced. I do wish the Asian guys on here much luck though. There are white women who are atrracted to Asian males. A lot of them, even tall blondes with light eyes and pale skin 🙂 Reply Leave a Reply Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published.CommentName* Email* Website Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. 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