Fail Tales…

Our recent 'Most embarrassing pickup failure' competition yielded some tragic, awkward, and painful entries. None, more tragic and painful than our winning entry from Coldman. As you're reading it, imagine yourself in his position. Imagine the girl, imagine the ideas streaming into your mind...

Self Improvement Books: What They Don’t Tell You.

I’ve been involved in the self-improvement community for nearly 8 years. I’ve spent 5 of those as a coach. The number complaint I hear from my clients is that “I’ve read all these books and I’ve even taken workshops, but I’m still not living the life I want.” If you’ve read through any self-improvement books and want to know why you’re still not living the life you want, then you need to read what’s written below...

How To Improve Communication Skills.

If you're wondering how to improve your communication skills, I invite you to consider something: You're missing the point. You don't need to learn how to improve your communication skills. Your communication skills are fine. You have been learning to communicate since age 3, so you've had 20, maybe even 30 or 40 years of on-the-job training...

Stingy Much?

I realised recently just how stingy I am with people. I went on a date a few days ago. And you know what my real, underlying purpose for going was? To leave her thinking: "Jeez, he was a great guy." Like, really. Underneath my words, the banter and even the kiss at the end, that date was not about my date. It was all about me...

Never Run Out Of Things To Say.

I'm going to let you in on a little secret. It's the secret that allows me to have effortless conversations with just about anybody in my life and never run out of things to say - especially with the women I'm attracted to. It's not due to the sheer volume of routines I've memorised or the complex word associations game I've learned...

I Don’t Have My Shit Together.

I've been writing and talking a lot about areas of my life which are not working lately. I find it interesting. I noticed I really enjoy having conversations with people where we both acknowledge that we don't have all our shit together. I call them the "what are you dealing with?" conversations...

#1 Reason Not To Play It Cool.

We are amazingly good at playing it cool. I remember seeing a quote once, which said: "Seriousness is Man's oldest con game." My interpretation of the meaning behind it was this: to act serious, somber, non-expressive, as we all do around people who we hardly know, is a facade - which we all play into because it's safe. And we play into this facade because inside it, there's little risk. There's little chance people might laugh...

It’s NOT Your Fault.

It can be tempting to say this to yourself: It's not your fault that your interactions with women are not as amazing, real, authentic, powerful, deep and moving as you want them to be.. It's the fault of people who brought you up. I mean, they just didn't teach you the lessons you needed to learn. So you became inauthentic - you became the "nice guy" as a strategy to getting..

Overcoming Loneliness 101

Here's one for all you science nerds out there.. ..the scientific formula for overcoming loneliness. Yes, that's right. I've discovered a formula for it. Want to know what it is? Well, here you go: C = L x R1 x R2 x N Pretty straight forward, isn't it? Oh, you want me to...

Are You Living TOO Comfortably?

"How are you?" "I'm Good." Such a standard greeting and such a token, throwaway answer. I bet you said it yourself - at least twice today. But what's behind "I'm good"? Well, let's try this on: When you say "I'm good", is it fair to say that most of the time what you're really saying is..