Is Porn Good for You?

The lights are dimmed, shades are down and your favorite scented candles are burning.

The mood is just right to say hello to your monster but is masturbating to porn a good thing or not? To answer that question, yes and no. There is no such thing as good or bad but only consequences of your actions. Every consequence is either desirable or undesirable.

Whether the consequences of masturbating are desirable or not depends greatly on your perspective and who you are. It’s not the action in itself that makes something bad but the person who is doing it.

If the action (masturbating) in and of itself was inherently negative or positive everyone would have the same response to it. If getting off to porn was bad for you then EVERYONE would experience negative consequences when they did it but we know that is not always the case. Some have good consequences while others have horrible negative consequences.

Most people enjoy labeling something as bad without ever thinking that they may play a role in their negative experience. Even worse is that they like to tell others that it’s a bad idea-oh no, you shouldn’t do that!

Negative Consequences of Watching Porn

The first negative consequence of watching porn can be a very detrimental one: pre-mature ejaculation. Nothing is worse than waiting so long to have sex and when you finally get an opportunity to get laid it’s over in a few seconds. You dread looking at the girl to confirm her disappointment in your performance.

Growing up in a house with other people means that you need to break out some sneaky ninja skills when masturbating. You need to be quick, agile and most importantly not get caught. The fear of getting caught causes you to become speedster when it comes to giving yourself the low five. Get it done quickly before anyone discovers what you are doing or feel the shame of getting caught.

Unfortunately this will cause you to cum quickly when you trade in the computer screen for the real thing. Our bodies are good at learning and remembering things. Through muscle memory we learn skills and abilities that surpass conscious thinking. Without body memory no one would be able to play an instrument or drive a car because we would be thinking too much about every little action.

Cumming too quickly is the result of training your body to remember to do so. Over many quick sessions your body develops a stimulus response to seeing a naked woman. Your body knows that when you get sexually excited it’s time to have an orgasm.

Your body will respond the way you train it to. If, for example, you masturbate very quickly your body will respond by cumming quickly as well. On the other hand if you take your time your body will be trained to wait a long period of time before reaching climax.

The mind doesn’t have the ability to tell the difference between fantasy and reality. If you dream it your mind believes it. Whenever you fantasize about sleeping with the girl whose thong was hanging out the entire class you mind believes that to be real. Since you came very quickly in the fantasy your mind will send messages to the body to cum quickly when you run into the same situation in real life.

On top of that your mind likes to generalize and lump everything into one nice, neat category. It doesn’t see unique and special tits, it lumps them all into one category. When you train your mind and body to cum quickly to one naked woman it will transfer that programing over to any other women you see.

Guilt, Shame and Madonna/Whore Complex

Almost everyone has been brought up on the idea that sex and masturbating is something to be ashamed of. Through society, parents and religion we have been taught to hide our sexual nature instead of embracing it. The biggest tactic of getting people to hide their sexuality is through guilt and shame. The more guilt you have the less likely you will to engage in fun sexual acts.

This guilt and shame are triggered (mostly unconsciously) every time you masturbate. You enjoy it in the moment but shortly after the negative emotions start to come to the surface. You feel guilty or shameful every time you sin which leads to lower self confidence.

Porn also leads to deepen your Madonna/Whore complex. The programing that you received from church, society and parents helps you to see women in two different ways: the Madonna and the whore. The Madonna is the good girl that you marry and the whore is someone you use for sex.

Porn will give you an unrealistic view of sex and love. As much as you logically know that porn isn’t really how sex is your mind will start to see it that way. You will see women as a masturbation tool and sex as a jack hammer exhibition.

Masturbating will trigger your guilt and shame which will bring up your Madonna/ whore complex issues. Any woman that is sexual and enjoys sex will be seen as a whore through eyes because of your addiction to porn. If you do sleep with a woman you will judge her and yourself for it-no matter what you do you just can’t win.

Distract Yourself

People have many different ways of distracting themselves when they are stressed out or slightly depressed. When I get into that state I like to do absolutely nothing and just relax. Some like to exercise or drink and some like to get off to Internet porn.

There is nothing wrong with taking a break from life from time to time. It will help you to refocus your mind and build your energy back up to handle the difficult task at hand. Taking a break becomes a problem when you use it to completely ignore and distract yourself from what needs to be done.

Unfortunately another con of masturbating is that it is used to distract yourself from life’s problem. There is a thin line from taking a break and turning your back to your issues. Far too often people cross that line and become addicted to their distraction of choice.

Whacking it to porn is a very large distraction for men who are lacking in skills with women. Instead of taking on this challenge head first they resign to a life of distraction in their fantasy world-out of mind and into porn.

The problem is that NO matter how hard you try you can never run from your issues. Once you are aware of them there is no going back to blissful ignorance. You can go full force into hiding from them in your porn addiction but they will find you.

A Quick Note before we get to the Positives

I never really bought into the idea that releasing male fluids will drain your life energy. I think it’s complete bullshit that having sex or masturbating, life’s greatest pleasures, will leave you feeling drained.

To me, it seems like the notion that cumming will take away a man’s energy stems from the Church’s belief that masturbating and having sex is a sin. It’s essentially the same type of ‘this is bad for you’ programming that the Church is perpetuating.

On a genetic level our goal as individuals is to perpetuate the species through sex. We want to live long enough to pass on our seed to as many people as possible. With that said, it seems wrong to believe that our basic design is flawed and our instincts got it wrong.

We are born to fuck and enjoy sex. We feel drained at times after sex not because we are losing our ‘male energies’ but because we aren’t in great shape. If you worked out and ate right you wouldn’t feel any energy lose.

It turns out that sex is life affirming. Not having sex will cause you to become very anxious and unbalanced. That guy needs to get laid is said for a reason. His neurotic behavior can be balanced out by enjoying the basic of needs.

If you have bought into this new age spiritual bullshit that cumming is a bad thing get that out of your head right now. Some of you who can attest to this belief are experiencing a placebo effect. The body reacts to your minds beliefs. If you believe you will feel drained after you cum your body will act in accordance.

Positive Consequences of Watching Porn

That was a long list of negatives but there is some good that can come from watching porn. For starters, it feels damn good. It allows you to release some of the pent up tension and anxiety that rage through your body.

Standards are extremely important when it comes to mastering women. If you give it away for free no one will want it because has little value. Developing standards can be quite difficult if you have been a ‘I’ll take what I can get’ type of guy. Porn can be an easy first step to integrating a higher set of standards.

Most men will jerk off to just about anything. Swim suit models, porn stars, naked women in national geographic magazines, it’s all the same to them. If the guy is remotely attracted to the erotic image he will get off.

Start by identifying what type of women really turn you on and stick to it. What do you like? Is it blonds, short girls, tall ones, punk, goth, black, white? Me personally, I like the type of women that you see on suicide girls. The typical blond bimbo you see gracing the cover of playboy does very little for me.

From there you can start to develop an appreciation for beauty vs. ‘oh my god, she’s so fucking hot.’ When you find a girl that really does it for you take time to appreciate her beauty. Don’t focus solely on her tits and ass. Enjoy her entire body and learn to appreciate how beautiful women really are.

Greater Awareness

I mentioned before that masturbating can bring up a lot of unresolved issues to the surface. Consciously masturbating and being aware when they do come up will allow you to transcend them. Without being able to spot your problems you won’t be able to change.

Once you can see and feel your issues the next step is to let them go. Here’s a little exercise that can help you out:

**note: this exercise may sound a little airy fairy but give it a try and you’ll see why I recommend it***

Lay down on your bed or in a chair with your spine straight and place your hands on the middle of your chest. Breathe deeply and close your eyes. Imagine yourself sitting in a peaceful and serene environment. You are sitting down in front of a river in a wooded area.

Breathe deeply as you think of what is holding you back. If your issue is ‘sex is a sin’ reach up into your solar plexus (above your stomach, below your rib cage) with white hands and take hold of those words.

Take the words ‘sex is a sin’ and bring it all the way up your spine and out the top of your head. Imagine placing the issue into the bright, white running river. Watch as that issue floats along the white river and disappears.

Repeat this exercise over and over until you have removed your issue. This exercise can be preformed on any belief, thought or emotion that is less than healthy.

Increased Sexual Energy

Do the following exercise lying down flat or in a chair with your spine straight as it can be.

Start by breathing very very deeply and very slowly through your nose and into the lower part of your belly. Breathe deep enough to the point where you feel it in your PC muscle (area between your genitals and your ass). Then slowly breathe out of your nose releasing the air.

Once you have that down, imagine white light coming into your nose from the outside, down your front and into your genitals and a little bit into your legs. Once your belly is full with air slowly breathe out imagining the white light coming up your spin, all the way to the top of your head and out. Then bring the white light down into your belly and up again.

This exercise should be done throughout the day but especially during sex. It will help increase your sexual energy as well as your orgasms.

Last Longer In the Sack

Fast pace masturbating can cause premature ejaculation. Watching porn while you take your time and breathe deeply will allow you to last longer. You will see exciting images and not blow your load.

12 thoughts on “Is Porn Good for You?”

  1. i was raised in a Christian family and yes, anything of a sexual nature used to make me feel guilty. but as i approached puberty the long suppressed urges began to get the better of me. since then, i have liberated myself from the old constraints. which is great, but often times i feel that i have numbed myself to the excitement that came from porn and masturbating that felt rebellious and wrong.

    nevertheless i can relate to those positive aspects.

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  2. Masturbation is a natural and relaxing thing to do. I am sixty years old, so of course have a lot of experience with self pleasure.
    I like to cum at least 4-5 times a week for prostate health, and find internet porn to be a good inspiration. Although I have been caught several times by unexpected company, I do not find embarrassment or shame in the act. I’m sure I will continue to happily masturbate for the rest of my life.

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  3. How on Earth is Porn a good thing?
    It only makes you feel like shit, turns you into an addict and kills your desire to seduce real women, check out yourbrainonporn.com for more information.
    Masturbation on the other hand is okay and normal when you are 15 and discovering your sexuality but too much of it is tiresome and purposeless, contrary to actual intercourse which is an exchange of sexual energy.

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  4. THIS ARTICLE IS ALLLL WRONG!!!!!!!! When I used to watch porn ALOT I would cum at a normal rate with the porn , BUR WOULD NOT CUM AT ALL WITH THE WOMEN , just got hard but not off, NOT MASTURBATING AT ALL LEADS TO PREMATURITY OF THE EJACULATION! ALSO… Your mind can DEFINITELY tell the difference between fantasy and reality, if you question a dream you snap out of it, and the laws of physics do not apply, if you question reality , you cannot all of the sudden walk through walls , you do not “snap out of it” ,the laws of physics still apply.

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  5. I agree with Dave, in November 6, 2016. I am very skeptical at things the media popularizes which allot of it is absurd and is used to make money and promote propaganda to fuel more bottom of the bucket bullshit. We need the real facts, not ones that are based on emotions but rather actual physical evidence. What is the long term and short term effects on psychological and physical parts of the body? How does it effect your surroundings in general, like is it messy, if you do it to hard will you hurt yourself? Can you think straight while doing it? Can you put down your porn and stop masterbateing if a disaster happens right durring it? Is there anything science didn’t prove or disprove about it? Provide evidence and stop trying to sell a book, because that looks like your just trying to bullshit us.

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  6. Now this link I am giveing you, will be an example of how to do research for yourself. Not all of it is true so you can learn to separate bullshit from fact. Look for things with scientific evidence. Take it with a grain of salt and look for ways to prove it. To show the bullshit here is that it’s easy to find whatever you want on the internet saying something is not bullshit but it is. Ever heard of the saying “not everything on the internet is true?” Yea that phrase is not bullshit. So if you really want the answer. Read books and go to the most recently updated scientific understanding sites.

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  7. The profligacy of the myth porn is somehow “bad” is WAY more disgusting than porn itself. NOTHING inherently wrong with exploring sexually desores and satisfying one’s needs. A great deal right and healthy about it actually. One wonders why those who rail against it WANT is all miserable, stressed and repressed. Probably because they are?

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  8. That letting the idea flow out of the top of your head is utter nonsense. If you have an issue that is complicated it doesn’t just disappear because you let the thought flow down a river. It goes away in actual psychotherapy after you put the hard work in. Porn is obviously destructive to the mind. Drugs, Women/Men, Gambling. Three things that can destroy men and women’s lives.

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  9. The reason I say porn is evil, not just bad, evil, is not that I say not allowing consensual adults to make it is a good thing (as people should have the right to do what they want provided they arent being coerced), but so many porn performers are being coerced. Listen to interviews, some women have had pimps that threatened physical violence or got them addicted to various drugs (coke, meth, etc). A while back, Youporn (including xhamster, xvideos, pornhub, etc) had videos on their sites where the girls looked about 14…will they were 13 to 15 as some were rescued by law enforcement as they had been kidnapped and sex trafficked so those scenes were them being raped over and over again. FBI orders them to remove this child porn (while they claimed it wasnt) then chomos who had those videos on their hard drives reupload them to those sites. Impossible to go away. So girl gets rescued by lawenforcement, kids at school see videos on youporn, bullying starts as she is a slot or where (never mind her being raped 50 times on camera), then said 14 year old commits suicide. This is how the porn industry is in reality, sociopathic child molesters run it. I qipp NEVER say it is good…period.

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