I was in the gym the other day, looking at myself in the mir.. I mean, pushing my boundaries.. ..when a strange videoclip began to play on the plasma screens. It was a shirtless man by the name of Steelheart, singing a pop dance love song, in which he reassured me and other gym-goers that.. “I will never let you go.”. His bold promise caught me slightly offguard. Of course, his message was clearly aimed at the female half of the audience, but even then – when I put myself into their shoes – I wondered what’s really behind his offer. It seemed like through his words Steelheart cast the object of his desires as a rudderless vessel which is hopelessly doomed if set free. I can imagine that promise like this would be comforting to someone whose life is a metaphor for such a vessel. (And look – I’m not placing any value judgment upon anyone here – I myself have been in the space where I just wanted to cling on to a woman and make that she never left me). But really, is that the kind of life that is the limit of human potential? Is that the most powerful that we can be? And that’s what I’m alluding to here – wouldn’t it be more fulfilling to create the kind of live inside which we are whole and complete.. ..so that we can bring a partner into that space, who is also living inside a life which is whole and complete? The result: a relationship of GIVING, of INTERDEPENDENCY, rather than NEEDING and DEPENDENCY. Back to the love songs, though… I’m not finished! I was curious to find out more about what kind of listening is out there for popular songs about love. And you know what? Well, for Lenny Kravits there seems to be “ain’t no sunshine when she’s gone .. only darkness everyday”. And then one of the Sugababes pointed out to me that “I can’t be without you”. Then Mariah Carey made a veiled threat that “boy don’t you know you can’t escape me .. you will always be my baby”. Christina Aguilera was much more intellectual when she observed that “everytime I see you everything starts making sense”, but I still felt like she needed me to make her happy. Steven Join over 25,000 subcribersDownload your FREE copy of Seduction Community Sucks now and get in-field videos, subscriber-only articles, and exclusive podcasts delivered directly to your inbox If you're ready to become the kind of Man that attracts confident and in-demand women without trying, then I have a gift to start you on that journey. Seduction Community Sucks is your 159 page kick-start to becoming the kind of Man that makes women go weak at the knees. Get your FREE copy, as well as access to other subscriber-only articles, podcasts, and video footage, now. Get your FREE ebook, hidden articles, in-field videos, and exclusive podcasts here: 2 Responses Rory April 29, 2012 Haha, I had the exact same realisation the other week. As a songwriter, I’ve written my fair amount of love songs and as I realised this, I also realised that my so called “Love Songs” were not “Love Songs” at all. So I wrote my first real love song the other day and I can honestly say as I was writing it I felt so much more happier and the lyrics just seemed to flow on the page, instead of having to sit there waiting for the next cliche line to pop into my head or predictable phrase. Rory. Reply Marcos August 3, 2013 Those love songs sell!! that’s what matters to the singers and to the media industry. They know that the world is fucked up in dependency so they feed that with songs and cheesy movies. It is OK to listen everyonce in a while one of those songs as long as you are aware that the message is crap Reply Leave a Reply Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Name* Email* Website Comment Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. You can also subscribe without commenting.