What to Give the Special Woman in Your Life Leigh (LoGun) Female Psychology 7 Comments In our consumer driven, marketing heavy society… …where you’re constantly bombarded with new toys and tools and innovations to fill Christmas stockings with, it can be hard to know what to give the special woman in your life. So, to make the process easy for you, I’ve done extensive research into all possible options and narrowed it down to the one perfect gift. That’s right, I’ve scoured the globe, analysing every possible gift in terms of functionality, performance, and useability and I’ve eliminated all the chaff. Would you like to know what it is? It’s simple: selfishness. Complete and utter, unrestrained selfishness. It’s not allowing her to be selfish either, it’s being 100% internally focussed and doing what you really desire, when you desire it. And not only every now and again, the greatest gift you can give the woman you love is being completely selfish 100% of the time. Don’t worry about what she wants, don’t change your mind or direction to please her, just do what you want, when you want to. Before you ask, no, I’m not mental. I’m completely sane. And if you think I’m stupid, you simply haven’t thought this through yet. Being completely selfish, all the time, is the greatest gift you can ever give the special woman in your life because it means you’ll be 100% fulfilled and satisfied, regardless of how she responds to you. You get to follow your passions, your desires, your dreams, and experience the satisfaction, free, connection, expression, power, and fulfilment that come with living your life in that way. You don’t need her to validate you, accept you, admire you, follow you, or connect with you. This means she’s completely free to live her life the way she wants to without ever having to change herself to look after you. She can be sad if she’s sad. She can be happy if she’s happy. She can be scared if she’s scared. She doesn’t have to change or think or pretend, just because you’ve had a shitty day and need someone to make you feel good about yourself. If she wants to sit down and watch a sad movie, she can do it. If she really wants to catch up with her best friend from high school who she hasn’t seen in 5 years, she can do it. If she wants to go to a Yoga class and just unwind, she can do it. All without having to change her mind, just because you’ve had a shitty day. By being completely selfish and giving yourself the gift of freedom, you automatically give her the gift of freedom. But more than freedom, by being completely selfish, you’re also able to give her the support she needs when she needs it. If you’ve spent a frustrating day, doing what other people have told you to do, repressing your true desires, drives, and passions, and come home to a sad / frustrated / disappointed partner, you’re not going to be able to give her the love and attention she needs to feel good. You’re going to be far too wrapped up in the frustration and pain in your world to be able to help her through what she’s dealing with. And even if you try, your ‘giving’ to her is going to be conditional on being able to get something in return. That’s not giving. That’s trading. But, if you spend your day following your dreams, your passions, your desires, and experiencing the fulfilment that comes with living your life in that way, when you come home to a disappointed and frustrated partner, you’ll be able to give her the support she needs without asking anything in return. The gift of selfishness doesn’t stop with the special woman in your life, it extends to every person in the world. The greatest gift you can give the world is to be completely selfish. By being completely selfish and experiencing the internal happiness that comes from fulfilling you desires, you remove the pressure on everyone in your life give you what you want. You stop demanding that the laugh at your jokes, look at you in the right way, treat you in the right way, accept you, validate you, and make you feel strong and powerful. You stop demanding that they be anything other that who they are in that very moment. You stop needing anything from them. And instead, because you already have the fulfilment and satisfaction you’re looking for, you’re able to give to them freely. You can give them the support they need, you can give them the sense of power and control they need, you can help them find the fulfilment they desire, all without ever needing anything in return. Selfishness is the secret. Selfishness is the key. Selfishness is the most beautiful, most incredible gift you can ever give to your special woman / your friends / your family / your boss / people you’ve ever met because it’s the gift of freedom and support. “But if I’m completely fulfilled without her, why would I be with her?” You’re not with her out of need, you’re with her out of desire. Because she gives you things you can never have enough of in your life: connection, beauty, wonder, excitement, and passion. Because she touches you in places that you’ve can’t reach yourself (metaphorically…) Because she awakens your lusty desires like no other woman you’ve ever met. Because whilst you already have everything you’ve ever looked for, she makes that ‘everything’ just that much more incredible. “But what if I think a chick has nice tits. Should I just be selfish and go up and grab them?” No. I’m not suggesting that. But, in the same breath, I’m not going to tell you how to live your life. I’m not here to create an army of clones. The Attraction Institute is all about helping you find YOUR passions, YOUR desires, YOUR drives, and YOUR dreams. Doing what you want doesn’t mean following your base drives and desires like some out of control little 5 year old who has no concept of self-control. Doing what you want involves first understanding what you really want, and the only way to do that is to ask yourself one very simple question: “What kind of world do I want to live in?” When you can answer that, then you will know what you really want. Do you want to live in a world where people use other people, just to feel good? Do you want to live in a world where people physically assault other people because they had an urge to do so? Do you want to live in a world where people lie to change other peoples opinions? Do you want to live in a world where people blame other people for their life situations? Do you want to live in a world where people half-arse their way through jobs? Do you want to live in a world where people go back on their world? I’m sure you’re starting to get the picture. Doing what you want doesn’t mean following your drives and desires. Doing what you want means taking the action you need to take to create the world you want to create. When you do that, then, and only then, will you experience the fulfilment, excitement, passion, connection, and freedom you desire, regardless of how the world responds to you. So, as you’re placing presents under the tree and unwrapping all those that have been left for you, think about the most incredible gift you can give the special people in your life and what you need to do to start giving it to them. Leigh P.S. Merry Christmas to one and to all. I hope your Christmas is filled with love, happiness and incredible people, all giving the great gift of all – selfishness. Join over 25,000 subcribersDownload your FREE copy of Seduction Community Sucks now and get in-field videos, subscriber-only articles, and exclusive podcasts delivered directly to your inbox If you're ready to become the kind of Man that attracts confident and in-demand women without trying, then I have a gift to start you on that journey. Seduction Community Sucks is your 159 page kick-start to becoming the kind of Man that makes women go weak at the knees. Get your FREE copy, as well as access to other subscriber-only articles, podcasts, and video footage, now. Get your FREE ebook, hidden articles, in-field videos, and exclusive podcasts here: 7 Responses Jan December 25, 2012 Love it! Great Reminder! Merry Xmas Leigh 🙂 Reply Raf December 28, 2012 I don’t get very well why doing what you want doesn’t mean following your drives and desires … Are drive and desire not the indicators of what you want ? Anyway, it would be a great Christmas gift if you could clarify that for me 😀 Reply Leigh (LoGun) December 28, 2012 Sure thing mate. It’s a fine separation and one that a lot of people have trouble with so I don’t usually go on about it, but seeing as you asked for it, here it is. Your core desire, isn’t the action you wish to take or the outcome you hope to achieve through those actions. Your core desire is the feeling you think you’ll experience through that action or outcome. The action or outcome are simply tools you believe (on a conscious or unconscious level) will help you experience this. Most guys aren’t aware of this separation so if asked what they desire, will respond with the action or outcome. But these actions and outcomes are just learned associations and are the cause of every issue you face with women and in life. Finding new actions and outcomes and creating new associations is the secret to eliminating the issues you’re facing. So, without stating it explicitly, this article is about following your core desires (experience) but doing so in a way that eliminates the challenges and barriers you face. Does that clear it up? Reply Raf December 30, 2012 Wow, thanks a lot Leigh !! I get it now, like you say, it’s a really fine separation. So, to summarize, you look for what experience you want, that is what you desire, and you find a way to fulfill that desire regardless of external factors … It is clear as water for me now 😉 Leigh (LoGun) December 30, 2012 That’s it mate. You got it. Vladimir January 1, 2013 Leigh, A happy new year to you and yours – thank you for being there, having something to say, and the help you have given me throughout last year. If you ever want to do one of your seminars in Europe, let me know how I can help you out. You have a lot to say, and there are a lot of people that will benefit from hearing it…and you’ll make the world a better place for it. Best regards, and Happy New Year, Vladimir Reply Leigh (LoGun) January 2, 2013 Thanks for the kind words mate. If I’m ever in Europe, I’ll be sure to let you know. Leigh Reply Leave a Reply Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published.CommentName* Email* Website Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. You can also subscribe without commenting.