What Women Want in Bed Leigh (LoGun) Featured, Female Psychology, Seduction 82 Comments This is one of the best posts I’ve ever read on sex. It’s written by a Woman, to Men, trying to help them understand sex from a woman’s perspective and what she’s looking for. Enjoy. ———– Look, I know you men have it difficult. Women are just about impossible to understand, much less please. In a post-feminist society, you never know exactly what you should be doing. Women are bloody picky, I know we are. It can be scary, too, when women freak out about what appear to be benign issues. And men who do their best to be respectful, female-positive humans, I salute you, I do. But please, please just fuck me already. Honestly, I appreciate your thoughtfulness. I like that you want to take things slow. I can totally get behind the idea of emotional connection, but dearjesusinheaven, FUCK ME. We’ve done dinner and drinks. We’ve gone dancing. We’ve cuddled and watched a movie. I’m wearing a low cut shirt and you’ve been staring at my breasts all night. Goodgodalmighty, get to it and fuck me. When we get hot and heavy, please take charge. Please, please fuck me. Trust me, I’m not going to just lie still – I’ll get involved. But don’t make me force your hand into my panties. That makes me feel like a rapist. We’ve been kissing for a half hour and your hand keeps grazing my ass. That’s nice, but it’s time to move forward. Get on top of me. Don’t make me get on top right out of the gate and start bobbing up and down on your cock like I’m practicing some crazy new aerobic yoga because YOU won’t go down on me. Roll on top and start dry humping like a good boy should. Read More: How To Set Up a Threesome – The Complete Beginners Guide Don’t gently suck my nipples and then pull back when I moan with pleasure. You being coy is totally not what I want. It’s not what WE want. OK, I know it’s scary. There are lots of women out there who make fucking really difficult. So, I have compiled some handy tips. Don’t think of this as complaining, or as schadenfreude for the Andrea Dworkins of the world. Just some simple tips, for timid men who have forgotten what it means to fuck like men: Taking charge is not bad Oh, there will be some women who feel that you are pushy. If you are making out with a woman, and she starts to push back, ask nicely if things are moving too fast. If she says yes, say something like “I’m sorry – you just look so fucking delicious. I’ll go slower.” Otherwise, skillfully move forward. If you start kissing a woman, and she responds well, and before long, you’re both on the floor with her skirt pushed up, and you on top of her, it’s not the time to roll onto your back and start awkwardly stroking the top of her head. Seriously, grow a goddamn pair. YOU’RE the man. Act like one. It’s not hard. Just read this and work it out: Are you a boy or a Man? Your 20 + 2 point checklist Ohmyfuckinggod, please learn to respect the clit It’s different for every woman, so ask what she likes. Do not, I repeat, do not just wiggle your fingers around her pussy like you’re trying to tickle her. Do not drum your fingertips against her vulva like you are impatiently waiting at the Sears Tire Center for your receipt. Do not push the clit like it is a doorbell at some house that you need to get inside of. Start by using all four fingers with firm yet gentle pressure against the outside of her pussy. Do not charge in with a single finger and start jabbing at things. And if you really don’t know what to do, ask her. Just ask. “How do you like it?”. It’s a simple question, and most women will answer straight out. If she’s being all coy, ask “Do you like pressure? Is it sensitive?” The clitoris is a varied item, indeed. Treat each one as though you have never encountered one before. Forget everything that your last partner liked. And if you still think we’re all the same, listen to this: Tantric Attraction: Conversations with a Tantric Goddess Most women like to be fucked, and fucked well Yes, there are women out there who want to “make love” every time – sweet, gentle, rocking love with lots of eye contact and loving kisses. Those women are not the majority. The majority like to be pounded. The majority like to have their hair pulled. The majority like a good, solid jackhammering. When a woman is bucking wildly against you, it’s not because she wants you to pull back and slowly swirl your cock around her vagina like you’re mixing a cake batter up there. It’s because she wants you to hold down her arms, or grab her hips, or push her legs above her head, and fuck her harder. Don’t be too afraid of what this means as far as gender equality goes – I am a raging feminist bitch, but I still want to be penetrated like you are planning on fucking my throat from the inside out. Confusing? Yes, I know. Us women are confusing. This will make us make more sense: What women want: Female Psychology 101 A little roughness is nice. Do not pretend that you had no idea that some women like their hair pulled. Do not act shocked if she wants you to spank her (“Really? Spanking? Won’t it hurt?” – yes, it does. That’s the fucking point). We know you’ve read Stuff and Maxim, and that’s all those laddie mags talk about in their “How to Please Her” sections. Start with light, full handed smacks to the area of her ass that she sits on. Judge her response and continue on from there. You don’t have to bend her over one knee and tell her she’s a naughty girl and that Daddy’s going to punish her; save that for the fifth date. Women are less delicate than you think, so don’t worry about breaking her hip. If you’re not strong enough to leave a mark, do something about it. Get to the gym and lift skinny boy. It’s one of the 20 ways that lifting is going to transform your life. Read the rest here: 20 ways lifting weights will transform your life It’s OK for you to make noise. Otherwise, we feel like we are fucking a ninja. Unless you actually are a ninja, and have sneaked into our rooms with vibrating nanuchaku and zippered black pajamas, please, please make some noise. If you’re banging a woman, and she’s crying out and saying your name and moaning, and you can’t even manage a grunt, she’s going to feel like an idiot. You don’t have to make the sounds she is making, but do SOMETHING. You know how when you are watching porn, and the girl does something great to the guy and the guy kind of goes “Ah!”, half grunt, half yell? That’s HOT. Do that. Whisper our name (assuming you know it) gruffly. Groan against her neck when you’re in missionary position. You don’t have to grunt like a mountain gorilla, but if you are totally mute, she’s going to get worried. Most women like dirty talk, in addition to the grunting. If you’d like to get some dirty talk going, ask her if she likes the way you fuck her. If she responds well, continue with something like, “I love fucking you. God, you look so fucking hot.” Is she still moaning in response? “Your tits are so beautiful.” Does that work? If she doesn’t respond well to the term “tits”, you might have to stop there. If she keep moaning or responding, pass Go and collect $200. Try the following: “Oh, god. Your pussy is SO tight.” “You’re so wet – are you wet because you like the feel of my cock ramming you?” “I think I’m going to come inside you. I’m going to fill up your little cunt.” (It doesn’t matter that you’re wearing a condom; we LOVE hearing this.) If all of those work, you can then progress to things like “sexy little bitch” and “dirty whore”. Tread carefully, but please, tread. Do not tiptoe. Do not sit down. Charge. You’re not obligated to eat a woman out. In return, she’s not obligated to choke on your dick. Don’t skip one and expect the other. If you do eat a woman out, the only comment you should make about her pussy is how nice it is. The length of her labia minora, the color of her interior, her waxing job or full bush – you are not John Madden. No time for color commentary. Do not bitch about condoms. Oh, we hate them. Trust us. They hurt us more than they hurt you. But we don’t want to be preggers, and you don’t want to catch anything, right? Don’t whine about condom sex. Do not explain that you can’t come with one on. LEARN to come with one on, or if not, help us figure out what to do with you once we’re satisfied and it’s time for you to let loose your load. We really like it when you come. It’s called a money shot for a reason. Watching semen shoot out of you is one of the most gratifying things EVER. However, do not assume that she wants you to jack it off onto her face. She might, but don’t assume. Seeing and/or feeling you come is rewarding for us, so there’s no need to deprive us of it, but please do consult us before unleashing. “I think I’m going to come – how do you like it?” is a fair question that shouldn’t rob you of your testicles. In recent memory, I’ve been fucked by a very aggressive, manly guy, and I’ve been… well, fucked is the wrong term here. I’ve been penetrated by a total and utter wuss. Who am I going to run back to when I’m ready for my fill? Manly McHardon, that’s who. Yes. This is true. This is one of the 7 things I wish I knew about women 7 years ago —————————————————- *New point of clarification – some people have brought up some really great issues in response to this post, so let me say this: I don’t mean to imply that all women like to be treated like whores. I do mean to say that most women I know have told me that they like sex rougher than most men give it to them. Rough does NOT equal chains and bondage. And this applies to the bedroom only, and does not mean that she wants you to choose her dinner for her, or treat her like less of a person. **Some women have said that they don’t like it rough and what the hell am I thinking? Well, girls, you’re in the minority. HOWEVER, all women need to remember that, in addition to be straight forward about your sexual desires, you need to be straight forward about your sexual limits. Don’t be afraid to ask for more, but when something feels wrong, say so. Don’t ever do something you don’t want to do in silence and then blame the guy. Silence is dangerous. ————- Now, if all the contradictions here don’t make sense, it means you just don’t understand women. They’re simple to work out once you know what’s going on and when you work it all out, you’re going to be able to fuck women just like they want to be fucked. If you’re still confused about women, read this: What women want: Female Psychology 101 Join over 25,000 subcribersDownload your FREE copy of Seduction Community Sucks now and get in-field videos, subscriber-only articles, and exclusive podcasts delivered directly to your inbox If you're ready to become the kind of Man that attracts confident and in-demand women without trying, then I have a gift to start you on that journey. Seduction Community Sucks is your 159 page kick-start to becoming the kind of Man that makes women go weak at the knees. Get your FREE copy, as well as access to other subscriber-only articles, podcasts, and video footage, now. Get your FREE ebook, hidden articles, in-field videos, and exclusive podcasts here: 82 Responses lokariototal July 2, 2011 Does this mean that if we’re attracted to a girl, and the relationship is going well we should just try to kiss her? what if she freaks out and stops hanging out with us? Reply LoGun July 2, 2011 No, it doesn’t mean anything. It just means that this is what this woman likes in bed. Nothing more, nothing less. Should you just kiss a girl? Well, that depends on many different things. In that moment when you want to kiss her, is it the right time? Does she want you to kiss her? Does she want you to want to kiss her? Does she feel like it’s appropriate to kiss? Reply Kate July 25, 2014 My husband can talk all the dirty talk he wants. It makes me sick, it makes my skin crawl, turns me off, and his face is ugly as sin when he says it. My boss on the other hand can recite the Swahili alphabet backwards and I cum for days! Reply leigh July 28, 2014 Hahaha… There’s nothing quite like the Swahili alphabet to get those juices flowing! I guess this is one thing that’s automatically assumed by the woman who wrote this post: that the woman you’re having sex with is turned on by you. Good luck with your marriage. It sounds like you need it. @Kate May 11, 2015 Hope you realise you’re really pathetic. If you don’t like the hubby, go divorce him and try to find nirvana in a different place, with the boss or whoever suits you. But to stay in a marriage because of different factors like “but the kid needs a father”, “but its comfortable with him cause he takes care of everything” equals you being a stupid hooker. Get a life ! jay May 16, 2015 @@Kate: Tradition says if you fantasize about another guy, get rid of your husband, polyamory says get a working relationship with both partners – winning. Mikey July 12, 2011 I LOVE THIS!!!! Fell in to this trap way to many times. Do all the hard work getting a woman into bed and stuff it all up by trying to be sensitive and caring. I was set straight well and truly by one woman who said’for fucks sake, stop making love to me and just fuck me!’ Scared me straight. Women want to be excited, turned on and thrilled. They don’t want a woman with a penis (maybe occasionally). Women want men! REAL MEN. (usual ex-claimers inserted here) Reply theuktoday July 30, 2011 I go the whole way, hair tugging, ass slapping, nipple strangling etc etc, when she makes it obvious she doesnt like it slow it down, problem is the same for men as women rarely say how they want it, go for rough guys, every time ~~ Reply anonymous December 14, 2011 Ok, the woman that wrote this post is a freaking genius! It’s like she crawled inside my head and materialized all my thoughts about sex. I agree with absolutely everything written here, word by word. What’s up with men lately?, I don’t get it, I can’t seem to forget this one guy that more than once told me “fuck me”, say what! What a turn off, ugh. Men were supposed to be good at one thing and that was giving us a good fuck, and now they want us to do all the work? I just don’t get it. Reply Leigh (LoGun) December 14, 2011 I’ll be honest with you ‘Anonymous’. It’s not easy for guys. We get pounded by the equal opportunity, women’s movement thing preaching that we need to treat women THE SAME as we treat Men (not equally, but THE SAME). Don’t get me wrong, I think the advancement of women’s rights is a beautiful thing but it makes it hard to really let loose in the bedroom. When you’ve been told to ‘treat her nicely so you don’t end up with a law suit on your hands’, it’s hard to turn around, take control, and fuck a woman like she deserves. It took me a long time to break out of the programming handed to me by my feminist mother… For your sake, I hope more Men are able to as well. Reply Zach December 15, 2011 We’ve been told we need to fuck women THE SAME as we fuck Men. Passive aggressively. Bongstar420 February 11, 2012 This is what I always assumed and women always try to lie about it. I was always like, “why do I have to act like I am interested in something else.” If you walk up to a woman and tell her that you want to fuck her till shes yelling blasphemous phrases, what do you think will happen? Reply Michelle April 30, 2015 Sure, if you walk up to 99% of women and say that, you will get a bad response. But if you take her on dates and things seem to be going well (or if you pick her up and things seem to be going well), and you start small and she responds positively…. Then you take her home and SHOW her that you want to fuck her until she is yelling blasphemous phrases. stinger September 12, 2014 Society can’t neuter men in every phase of life and have you still expect us to be a RAGING BULL in bed. There is a price to equality, you (women) should’ve expected that. Reply Luke November 1, 2014 Great reply. Modern women do insist on neutering men, and of course, it’s our fault to look at it like that. But, like the article described, it’s like they’re asking us to chop our arms off. Could they do that for the good of men? I highly doubt it. We need control in order to be “real” or dominating men in bed. It’s like a burning flame being spit on. Which way is the flame going to go? Is the flame going to burn out with all of that saliva or is it going to grow stronger? I’m pretty sure it will go out and eventually, you’re left with a mangina who’s worse than a homosexual. He doesn’t even want be penetrated let alone penetrate someone else. ou812? June 20, 2015 NAILED IT!!!! Youranidiot April 4, 2015 Really? Takes two sweet pea. If that’s how you feel go find 25 guys to bang and get hey FREE BOOBIES! Reply Claudio February 5, 2012 Before I got married, the way you described this was exactly the way I treated all the women I dated. I treated every single one of them like a whore in bed and they loved every second of it. So much so that they admited that they were always thinking about sex when I was around. My objective was to make them cum every time out. I myself was not satisfied unless they came. Of course I didnt learn this until my early-mid 20s and looking back before that I lost out on so many opportunities because of my lack of experience. It takes time to develope these skills. This article is dead on. Good job Leigh. Reply Youranidiot April 4, 2015 Uh huh.. Yeah dumb they are always thinking it go check out some youtube vids hell better yet get out there and see .. THEY-ARE-ALWAYS-THINKING-ABUT-IT DUH!!!!!!!!! Anyone o them that tells you other wise is bull shitting you. and yeah off course they would love to be treat like a whore they do not see themselves as “said” thing so yeah .. :s ah DUH! once again. Girls love love love having fun like role play or whatever it is that makes things fun if it makes said thing fun they will do it no mater what it is because it is comfortable. The possibilities are like Endless :3 lol and this is what they want. Not need but .. okay well they will say it’s what they need and hell why not everyone could use some fun. Suppose now or half the ones that are going to read this will want me in some volley or fashion.. 😐 WELL NO.. No no no. not having it. I am male, 32 years young! Of age. And fuck no .. yo ain’t getting any of dis. I hear dildos work lol Reply MAC April 1, 2012 All dicks aren’t the same size,(girth,lenghth, etc–ALL women CAN’T take the dick equally- with that being said- you just have to work it differently;working it like a vibrator,working the entrance,just fucking her mind up no matter if your making love or not- knowing how to work the dick so she CUMS on It!!!!!!If you can’t do it with Ur stick then find another way. Just Fuck her mind.B da Greatest!!! Reply mark March 9, 2015 Exactly. I’ve only put about 4 inches in real fuckin slow and a calm ass tempo and stared her dead in the eyes the whole time. She came so hard. I’ve also jackrabbit’d a bitch with her whole body locked in an immovable position and she never came. Admitted I was disappointed, but if we have sex for over 30 minutes not including foreplay and you don’t come lol I will not lose sleep. I’ll just chalk you up as an asexual mess and disappear. All in all I loved this woman’s writing style. It came off intimidating, but after a while I found it refreshing. Don’t ever call a man boy unless you want to get smacked though. Reply Custer April 1, 2012 The author is right. The above is something every man in a successful marriage understands. What she leaves out is why. Why women like dominance, aggression, and stamina is a topic every feminist is sensitive about. Feminist = Liberal. Liberal = counter-culture. Counter-culture = the destruction of any republic. These are attributes by which a female selects a protector and provider. The “taking charge” is a quality she wants passed onto her offspring. It’s all about reproduction – don’t think it isn’t. Now that the cart is behind the horse once again. She wants her babies to be like you, but that will only happen if you stay to help shape them. Men will only stay if you are serious about WHO you let penitrate you. Oh, he may take her for a joy ride but that just adds on milleage. Reply Leigh (LoGun) April 2, 2012 The evolutionary psychology ‘passing on your traits to my offspring’ is one way of looking at it. I prefer to look at it from a different one. It may not have the extensive scientific theories behind it but it makes much more sense to me. The reason that some (a lot) of women prefer this kind of Man is that this kind of Man gives them the expereince they desire, in this very moment. I don’t believe it ahs anything to do with the past or the future, rather, the experience they desire now. If you can give a woman the expereince they want, in this present moment, then she will desire it more. The reason I think it’s important to focus on this moment is that women don’t always desire this kind of sex. Sometimes, they desire slow loving sex, sometimes they desire hard and fast f*&king, sometimes, it’s funny, playful sex. What they desire changes and so in order to give women the sex they want, you have to focus on what they desire in the present moment. Just my 2c anyway. Not saying it’s right, it’s just the way I see it. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, Leigh Reply Mary April 1, 2012 Custer, you have a very deep understanding of human sexuality. It took me a long time to understand consummate love. That is what you described whether you know it or not. That said, I agree with Leigh in this article. Perhaps men have lost sight of the importance of their vocation as fathers, and leaders. If they don’t view their function as important they won’t invest as much into it. They will be less likely to take risks, because the payoff is just an orgasm, not a whole family. Reply Brian June 28, 2012 5. It’s OK for you to make noise. Otherwise, we feel like we are fucking a ninja. Hahahaha… Leigh please help, Ive ran out of ninja smoke bombs. Reply ross July 26, 2012 jesus i never laughed so much in my life and i laugh a lOT. u r hilarious… Reply Bill July 30, 2012 I too found this not just informative, but extremely funny. I was one of the sensitive, slow to act guys in my youth because I thought that was right and showed respect. Then I would look around and see the biggest jerks getting the hot women…I couldn’t figure it out. At least, not until later in life. Now I know and Leigh, you are absolutely right. I’d love to hear your views on the steps before getting to the physical aspect. I have my own, much of what I learned from women, but it would be great to get your perspective. Reply Leigh (LoGun) July 30, 2012 Wicked mate. I only wish I wrote it. Though I don’t think it would have the same impact if it came from the mouth of a guy. I’m in the process of rewriting Seduction Community Sucks and I’m going to fill it full of a whole bunch of fun stuff so keep your eye out for that. Reply Irv August 2, 2012 Nice job and thanks for re-setting the way forward. I find this information timely and informative. Only a couple of things, I’m not sure that my partners want to be called ‘..bitch’ or ‘….whore’. At least that has been my experience. But right up to that point as mentioned, spot on. On a related note, wassup with that sex partner that wants to bite the hell out of my dick?!? I had to let her know, but she couldn’t help herself. I think she wanted me to punch her or throw her into the wall which is a line I will not cross, I had to roll (leave). I can be a freak but we all have to be mindful of the boundaries. Reply Leigh (LoGun) August 2, 2012 In my experience, women don’t want to have you lead them around the local shopping mall calling them ‘Bitch’ and ‘Whore’. Its DEFINITELY got to be timed right with the right kind of sex but when it is, it’s a whole lot of fun. My personal favorite is ‘Dirty Little Slut’ but each to their own. Reply Irv August 3, 2012 Insightful….thanks. Getting ready to get into your ebook, Seduction Community Sucks. Leigh (LoGun) August 14, 2012 Wicked mate. Hope you enjoy it. Let me know if you have any questions. Seriously? August 8, 2012 Women have this false sense of entitlement and how they are so dependant on men engaging them(starting the conversation that begins the relationship, starting sex, etc…) because god forbid they grow some balls and put there ego on the line. No the guy has to do it because you can always shoot him down and he rebounds. But god forbid you make the first move because you just cant handle the loss. Dont get me wrong I dont mind it, I love taking charge etc… I get a feeling of accomplishment but thats just me. Back to the point this post is makes me completely sick. Its basically women chastising men for not making the first move, completely oblivious to the fact that it takes 2 to tango. I mean seriously… The writer of this post and everyone who agrees with this should really reevaluate there mentality. Allowing a guy a chance to take the lead is one thing, but ranting about that he wont start the transition into sex is just kinda pathetic. It would be like me complaining about how you left for 3 days and complaining that you didnt pre cook anyfood for me to eat, and you saying “why didnt you just cook something?”, and me saying “thats besides the point”. Masochistic i know but its the only analogy i can think of. Not that my girl has to cook for me, I am a great cook. Reply Leigh (LoGun) August 8, 2012 I think you missed the point here my friend. The post isn’t chastising you for what you are and are not doing, the post is simply one woman saying ‘This is what I, and most women I know, want.’ If you don’t want to be part of this, go and date a dude. If you don’t want to take initiative, then go and have sex with your business partner. Me personally, I like feminine women. This is what feminine women like. Because this is what feminine women are like, I choose to take the lead. This works for me because I also happen to take the lead. I don’t want someone else to tell me what to do. I want to do what I want to do. That means I work perfectly with feminine women. If you’re not willing to take the lead then find a Masculine woman you can have boring, platonic, logical, negotiated sex with. I’ll be with the beautiful, feminine, girly women. Reply heisenburg February 3, 2014 Its good to be single, buddy. Fuck all the nagging, fuck buying her expensive gifts, and being made to feel like I’m always in the wrong. Fuck bitches. Like jim Jeffries, I sometimes wish I was gay and I recommend jim jeffries to anyone who liked this dog shit article. Fucking feminists…. Tom August 17, 2012 I have to agree with the author. In my experiences the majority of the women I’ve been with liked it on the rough side. One even demanded I had my hand firmly around her neck as I pounded her, I was a little hesitant at first because I didn’t squeeze too hard and hurt her but after time you know what the limits are and it makes fucking so much better. I have to say though it does make it alot easier for us guys if we get some kind of hint of how she likes it, which after time you do become better at picking up on it. I love the article, it’s nice to actually hear a woman admit to what most don’t like to. I don’t find it un-ladylike I find it sexy and honest. Reply Nicole September 8, 2012 What women want in bed is definitely not all the same as this article suggests. Rough stuff, especially if a woman didn’t know the guy well would be scarey and/or weird. Seriously, why would anyone dig hair pulling, spanking, some creep coming on her face, or anything that hurt? I asked a more experienced friend what she thought and she agreed and told me that this stuff is done a lot in porn and it’s become a common thing guys seek and plenty of women pretend to dig. I think that a Real Man who takes charge, is strong, energetic and expressive but doesn’t hurt, scare, or harm, and definitely knows the importance of the clitoris is what is hot, hot, hot! Reply goodnhard September 29, 2014 I’ve found that in the heat of it after they’ve got off once that they all want to be stuffed and hammered as long as possible, till their legs quiver for a half hour after I’ve blown my load. Reply Nicole September 8, 2012 The woman who wanted the guy to put his hands around her neck is a crazy! Reply Kris November 3, 2014 I don’t think so. most woman I fucked was in to that stuff. It is a role play. being rough in bed like a fucking animal as we are, is something every single woman i ever was with, liked. But you can’t just be rough, if your not also kind. My girlfriend trust me so much because see knows that i am very warm heartet and kind. So in bed we can do whatever. I think you might be lying to your self. Reply MarkJonez September 21, 2012 I have only made love/had sex with 1 person in my life and that’s my beautiful wife (lol, that rhymed). When both in a couple are virgins before getting married they both obviously have zero experience. But we started to experiment with and communicate how we like sex. What I have found out is that we both like to mix it around. Once its caring soft slow sex which can also be passionate at the same time, and other times its more rougher type of sex. The rougher sex is basically showing how much you physically sexually want and crave your woman. There are times when you physically feel you need this (you must communicate this and take charge). This type of sex indicates what you want as a man! The softer sex is more showing how much you love and care for her and want to protect her and give her that warm feeling of total devotion to her. This type of sex indicates how much you love your woman with a selfless affection and dedication. Even us men have this inner need to show this to our women, the calling is not just from women and their needs. Real men literally have a yearning to show that they want to protect and give warmth to her. Because in the end this is what a woman (at least mine) “needs” (not only wants): 1. To be loved, nurtured, cared for, protected and respected. 2. To be absolutely wanted physically by you It is a balance in any healthy relationship! The conclusion is: A woman needs you to take charge but also needs you to pick up on her signals or at least communicate with her. Notice how I use the word “need”, its not just “want”. And what she needs, is in the end actually what you need ;-), to love and worship her to the bones and to fuck her brains out at the same time lol. Reply Leigh (LoGun) September 21, 2012 Beautiful mate. I couldn’t have said it better myself. Reply dora October 25, 2012 this is true to the core. filled my eyes with tears for a second 😀 exactly how i see it as a woman. Reply Leigh (LoGun) October 25, 2012 Glad to hear you connected with it. Danielle June 4, 2015 Exactly. I don’t think I could have said it any better myself. In the bedroom, sometimes we want soft slow passionate, other times hungry, lustu, hot and heavy banging. But outside of the room ALWAYS show love and respect. A successful relationship /marriage as well as a rewarding love life require open communication. I want my Husband (*and he does) to treat me like a lady and be a getleman outside the room but fuck me like an animal in the room. Even if I am not in the mood for a rough session, I ALWAYS like the display of passion and want to feel the depths of his desire and to feel wanted and beautiful in his eyes. Reply Love July 30, 2013 Now women need to feel special and open during sex if a women is not open during sex it wont work out. Reply Excalibur August 24, 2013 Written by a man, obviously. Reply Leigh (LoGun) August 24, 2013 What makes you say that? Reply jonny September 7, 2013 So… what if you are a guy and you don’t like making stupid noises, calling girls whores or wearing condoms? It’s not all about the woman. You have to meet in a middle ground. If I get a girl that wants me to do dirty talk, I don’t come back. Lame, cheezy, etc… Reply Leigh (LoGun) September 8, 2013 Then you’re probably going to be stuck having ordinary sex for the rest of your life. One thing that you might not have realised yet is that if you can give women the kind of sexual experiences that they crave on a deep and primal level, then will continue to come back to you, over and over again. If you continue to be stuck in your head complaining that people should meet in the middle and that the world is not fair, then you’re going to miss out on some incredible opportunities and experiences. Reply Vince September 24, 2013 Holy shit !! This is exactly what I needed to hear/read !! I just wish I would have read this like 20 years ago. I am, or should I say was, one of those wussies. Don’t know why. Maybe the liberal, progressive movement. Maybe having only sisters as siblings. I don’t know why, but I’ve always knew something was amiss. My new wife of 1 1/2 years has been hinting around at this more aggressive, take charge thing. She won’t come clean and just say what she wants, but now I know…this is it !! I am gonna work this in. Thank you so much for just saying it like it is ! Reply alberto varela December 17, 2013 Wow what guys don’t know this. I always talk dirty to women I always tell them to tell me they want more Dick while I’m inside them . I almost always pull their hair, smack their ass sometimes choke them. Oh I remember this one girl choked me back when I was on top that was exciting . I pound a girl til she’s pulling away from me. Now let me mention what I need and I have only gotten from 4 girls or maybe 5 I need a women to let me cum in her mouth that feels the best. The facials were good when I was a teenager .you wanna keep a guy let him cum in your mouth . Obviously this would be most likely your boyfriend . Every women wants to be dominated I push the women against the wall and attack her when she gives me that sign and I last very long I really just need that mouth to let me cum inside it and if a women swallows now we’re talking . Reply Jimmy December 22, 2013 The problems is YOU fuking women need to make up your mind!! All men are turning more feminine by the day. Plucking their eyebrows , shaving off all their body hairs , come on, all because the modern man needs to look pretty in like a bloody woman. Then women seem to want ‘ a real man ‘ , lol, make up your mind women. You don’t like the thought of a man how they used to be, hairy , masculine and tough, instead you want smooth, pretty boys with floppy hair in tight jeans?? And you wonder why thru can’t give you whores a good fucking, lmfao, today’s society is a joke , women just stop fucking moaning , the less men concentrate on looking like poofs, that’s where it starts Reply Leigh (LoGun) January 1, 2014 You seem to blame the fact that a lot of guys and becoming increasingly feminine on social standards but would those standards matter if guys didn’t change who they are and what they wanted depending on what society said they should do? Would this be an issue if they just lived their life the way they thought was right, rather than what people told them was right? Reply alberto varela December 26, 2013 Wow I agree some men do look to feminine with the tight jeans and the shaved eyebrows . But truthfully and thankfully not I some men are too hairy, put yourself in women’s shoes would you want to have sex with a hairy person . Taking care of oneself , absolutely nothing wrong with that . What the real problem is I encounter men who don’t stand up for themselves. A man has to be able to put a woman in her place from time to time and vice versa. Nothing sexy well at least for most women in a needy, wuss of a man. A woman wants to be taken by a man who commands respect from others men and women . That’s what needs to be fixed more than other things . Reply Jimmy January 2, 2014 It’s not about men being hairy, I’m just saying that men seem to be confused these days about how they should look, dress, act, just to fit into this modern gay looking trend , ( no offence to gays). When I shag my bird, I let all hell break lose, I pound that pussy good and hard just the way most women like it ( not all) but that’s just me. That’s what I’m saying, these days your either a pretty boy poof looking guy, or your the usual old skool looking bloke. All the natural male traits seems to be disappearing or men are being more and more brainwashed, I have nothing against men looking good, nice hair cut , well groomed, gym goer, all that is great, just when men start to look and dress more snd more like women , just to fit in, it’s literally “gay” lol. Oh yh my point is ummmmmm Reply Carl July 14, 2015 I’m shaved and I have floppy hair and what’s wrong with that? Reply Carl July 14, 2015 Hey Jimmy, I have a shaved look and floppy hair? What’s wrong with that? Reply Jimmy January 2, 2014 Oh yh you know what they say, ” can’t send a boy to do a mans job” Reply David February 18, 2014 You can fuck a woman with love or you can “make love to her” with disdain. The opposite is also true, so It’s not the words we are talking about. I often think how fortunate my male ancestors were. They didn’t sit around wondering how to get a woman into bed, by listening to her problems or buying her drinks. They took their women and they fucked the hell out of them. I am not talking about rape or abuse for all you hardcore feminists. I am talking about not worrying so much about what a woman wants in bed. What leads to infrequent and boring sex is trying to be too much of a nice guy in bed, trying too please a woman and trying to get her approval or be always on a lookout to see when the best time is to approach her. Be like the Bull Moose. Fuck your woman well. You’ll both be happy. Reply John March 14, 2014 I agree with the post, girls like being fucked hard, and fast for as long as possible. Dirty talk, spanking, spitting (to a certain extent) dont be fooled by her job, her status or looks there all whores in the bedroom & deserve no respect (in the bedroom) If you wanna make her cum it’s gotta be done fuck the shit outta that birch!!! You can cuddle after. .. I’ve only been with one girl who wasn’t a freak in the bed but she was insecure and was terrible in the sack. But men nowadays are dressing like weirdo women, colourful shirts, tight jeans, it’s just so gay. Normal guys are like a last of a dying breed a forgotten tribe WTF is going on?! And women dressing like lesbians shaving half there head off these are confusing times. Media & Internet pressuring every man to look like Beckham and have a 13 inch dick. But what about what we want!!! These girls need to start sucking more dick! If they swallow I swear to GOD I’ll speak Arabic Reply Jordan March 24, 2014 The author needs a good Fuck Reply O April 15, 2014 I literally JUST read another write-up by a woman that said the EXACT opposite of what this article is telling men to do. The moral of the story is always this: Every. Woman. Is. Different. Some like it rough, some hate it rough. Some just wanna get fucked. Some want to take it all slow. Some love oral. Some hate oral. Every time you’re with a woman, just ask her what she wants. What’s so hard about that? Reply David May 28, 2014 The reason why you don’t ask a woman what she wants is because most woman don’t know what they want. It’s our job as men to lead and take a woman places she’s never been before. Reply goodnhard September 29, 2014 Big mistake, girls want fucked by a man, not some fem/male who asks what she likes. Man, to ask what they want sounds so limp dick that she’ll say nothing from you I already got a pussy. You give her what you want to give her and let her be thankful that you’re willing to slam the meat to her. You get what you want, then have her stfu and fix a sandwich. Reply inya May 23, 2014 i am 25 and i never had sex. i relly wanna fuck. i am exhausted by donig masturbation all day long. I am attracted to women older then me. i wish i had success very soon. Reply David May 28, 2014 Stop staying home and masterbating. Magic happens around people. Reply Hmm June 2, 2014 Great article but there are few things I’ve considered after reading it. None of the article ever mentioned trust. Of course, you could ask her if this is okay or that is okay, nothing harmful but women also need to feel trust and allow a man to communicate appropriately. I’m sure y’all know this already but come on, calling a minority group of women who don’t like charge is uncalled for. Like somebody said every women is different. Sex is different to each one. Plus you’ve mentioned that most women have told you how they like good fuck, then I ask you – how did you do your research? How do you know which woman to ask? How many women have you spoken with? What’s wrong with men taking things slow? So do women too! For many reasons! All I see the whole point of this article was telling its ok for men to charge. What if a date rapist interpret this article wrong and thinks it ok for man to take charge when a woman don’t want it? Oh by the way I’m lesbian and I know how to treat my wife the best sex doesn’t mean we are in minority group. Every woman is equal and different, don’t fucking label us. Reply John July 7, 2015 Oh please you dykes are all the same. Listen bottom line men will be men women will be women you do what men say to do. A good women is a woman that can get face fucked real good. Women don’t deserve shit Reply Andrea June 19, 2014 One of the best, most hilarious articles I’ve ever read on sex! I agree with everything you said! You’re brilliant! I give you kudos for your honesty! I will be sharing this article tonight with my hunny!! Thank you for writing this! Reply cb August 8, 2014 Raised by a single mother, i feel this this has affected my nature and attitude to women. I’d love to be the super aggressive dominant male type in all aspects of working/sex life but that;s not me and i’m a little timid, long and slow although lots of stamina. So articles like this make me feel somewhat inadequate. However, it’s 2014 and women are more than equal, men have been hammered by the fembots and to be honest there are so many mixed messages that make women appear as crazy deranged personality disorder depressed lunatics that don;t know what they want. Many men are just confused as to why girls go with bad guys and then whinge about how the ‘bad guy’ is not a conversationalist and then they meet another bad guy whch makes them depressed so they go opposite and meet another guy who is ‘nice’ so that they can have a house and a baby. They struggle to raise a child, lose the will to work and become depressed for the rest of their lives. rock on bitches Reply Mal December 3, 2014 Cliche saying it may be, but I’m a gentleman in the streets and a fucking animal between the sheets. My girlfriend loves it, she loves it when I get that look of animal lust in my eyes and pound her pussy hard. We can totally loose ourselves in the bedroom (the car, the garden, kitchen table, disabled toilet, or wherever we may be) and really show and tell each other how fucking horny we are for each other. Then as a hot, sweaty totally drained mess, I get up and make her breakfast 😉 Reply Joey January 3, 2015 Preach it. I’ve heard men want Martha Stewart in the kitchen, Mary Poppins in the nursery and Madonna in the bedroom…Women want Jamie Oliver in the kitchen, Rupert Murdoch in the boardroom and Wolverine in the bedroom. Reply Dave January 6, 2015 I have been married twice, and basically let down twice. My first marriage I will admit I was an immature alcoholic. Second time I would do as much as I possibly could, spend as much time to please her as possible, and then felt as though she was faking her climaxes. My work kept me away from home for several weeks at a a time. I was ABSOLUTELY faithful, but felt the only reason she would fuck me was to keep me focused on returning to work. I am now with a great lady, I am working at changing careers, but at the age of 59 my equipment seems to fail me more than not. Reply Confused male January 21, 2015 some woman like the one i have are to shy in bed. The thought of me talking dirty embarrasses her. When we were first together she didn’t act as timed(probablly trying to impress me or wtv). When I do try to pull her hair and “pound it” it hurts her. I have 2 kids with her and we’ve been together for 7 years now. Were both in our late 20’s so you would think that we would be in our sexual prime. But thats not the case I guess. She absolutely dispises everything kinky. The only time I get any emotion out of her is when she cums. Which i try to make sure happens every time. Its getting to the point where I am getting extremely bored. I don’t wanna cheat but I’ve exulted all other avenues. Our sex life isn’t spontanious at all (partly b/c of kids). Sex is pritty much limeted to one room and like 3 positions. I’ve talked to her plenty of times about this and it’s gotten me nowhere. I truely love her and don’t wanna hurt her, shes a great friend……..terrible lover. Reply Anna May 22, 2015 You’ll be surprised how many women stop feeling love for their husband after a child is born. It’s sort of like this – all our hormones are telling us to love the child, but we know that you support us and always have been there for us, so our minds are still with you. I know it can be strange, happened the same with my husband, I told him that he was almost like a stranger to me after our second son was born. It helps if you talk it out, your wife most likely feels a challenge, overwhelmed by all the new emotions that she never had before. In our case, when we broke it down and were honest, we realized that there’s tons of love in our family that can be evenly distributed. Reply Tripp April 18, 2015 Here’s one for ya. Stay in the moment. I got it from a movie, unfortunately I don’t remember what movie it was, but I do remember the scene clearly. It went something like this; he was on top of her and they locked eyes and you could see that they had a really strong connection going on. But then, he either look away or closed his eyes and she said “No, come back to me.” For a moment there, the connection was gone. This made me realize how often a guy, while engaged in the most intimate activity with another person, without even knowing it will mentally and emotionally “leave” her and go somewhere else. Maybe he needs to use his imagination to stay excited? Reply James June 3, 2015 You woman are so difficult. On the one hand all we hear in life is don’t treat woman like sex objects and then on the other hand that’s exactly what you want, but not all the time and in some cases never. Get a grip ladies. I love the article, it’s maybe a reason why my previous marriage broke down. I always made love, maybe she wanted to fuck! So instead of saying something she just removed sex from the table apart from the bi-monthly roll around. Here is your lesson ladies… Instead of feeling upset and hurt when you find out your man went and got it from another woman, trying SAYING what it is you bloody want! Reply Carl July 14, 2015 You are right Reply John June 21, 2015 Great post.Says it as it is. Reply william June 27, 2015 This artical is true..luckily I figured this out in my early 20’s….there is a saying thats extremely true….your woman is dirty then you are they just arent as out going about it as men are…i have had 2 long term threesome relationship (9+ years) and they were all freaks in bed….and almost every other girl i have been with… 1. Dont be afraid to ask what interests them in bed…have a fun buzzed night of sexual question 2. Yes there ARE some women who dont like it rough in any way..usually tho its from a bad experiance of some guy being waaay to forcefull and it can be worked out….but there are a few rare ones that dont like it 3.BE A MAN….go for what you want and let her know you want her……this doesnt mean “hey im shoving it in your ass now deal with it”….sometimes being forcefull in stages works..throw her on the bed…if she giggles or moans…keep going…if she seems frightend hold back from going farther….you get my drift For the one women who said a girl liking to get choked is a minority….uhhh no..no its def not….of the 26 women i have been with at LEAST half loved choking….some only lightly….a few to the point of almost passing out Well i could say a lot more but typing on a phone is a bitch….time to grab the girl from work and make her feel wanted..peace Reply Kris July 17, 2015 I am a women in my 20’s and this blog is spot on! 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