What Women Really Want

When I was growing up, I was taught to be nice to women.

I was taught to treat them like friends, really good friends, and eventually, they’re going to see just how attractive you are.

I was taught it was wrong to think of women as sexual creatures and it was wrong to show sexual interest in women.

Showing sexual interest in women was objectification and it was a terrible thing to do.

Whilst I’m sure that there are some women who like this, the ones I wanted didn’t.

I was always the nice guy, listening to their stories or how their boyfriend cheated on them whilst wondering why they just didn’t go for me.

It took me a LONG time to overcome this.

One of the HUGE lessons that helped me let go of my nice guy persona and start living my life on my terms, was finding out what women REALLY wanted.

Not the stuff you read in Cleo and the advice you got from your mum, but listening to women who are really in touch with their deep desires and are willing to share them.

Lysander’s put a great post about this on the forum. You can read it here:

Do You Have These Vital Qualities Women Want In A Man?

It’s the most succinct and concise explanation from a woman that I’ve ever read.

Slightly less funny than this post, but really amazing advice.

It’s from a really interesting website called Taken In Hand.

Here’s the low-down from the website itself.

Welcome to Taken In Hand, a website about wholehearted sexually exclusive marriages in which, to the delight of both spouses, the man actively controls the woman. The degree of control and the way the husband retains control vary from Taken In Hand couple to Taken In Hand couple, but in all cases both husband and wife actively want the husband to have the upper hand. No matter how strong, tough and forceful a Taken In Hand wife may be, and no matter how hard she might try to take control in their marriage, she would be aghast if her husband were to let her get the upper hand. Likewise, no matter how loving, kind and considerate the husband may be, he prefers to keep his wife firmly in hand.

I haven’t had a chance to explore it fully yet but from what I’ve seen, there’s some great stuff on it.

You can check out the rest of the website here.


If you’re struggling with being a nice guy and want to know what women REALLY want from you, I highly recommend you check it out.

Let me know what you find if you find anything good by sharing it below.



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4 Responses

  1. oz

    What Women Really Want

    It is really important what they want?

    I don’t mean it from a “give a shit about her” mentality. The more important question for me is why i am obssesed with it to, know what women want.

    If i would go out and start a inquiry on the streets or would believe what the media told me, i would say:

    money, big house, diamond rings, expensive cars & clothes, lollipop,….

    Once again! Why i am obsessed with it to know what women want?

    Now i know what women want and i am willing to give it to them.

    I handed her what i think, or was told me, that she wants. She is happy —> i am happy!


    Why i am happy? I was told what would make women, i did buy it to her and she was happy. When she is happy than i am also happy.

    What if my girlfriend wish a ipod for christmas and a man that i hate would donate it to my girlfriend and she has what she wants?
    Would i feel the same happiness as when, i would buy that ipod for her?

    The same goes with the quote of the woman in your post logun. We all know from PU that you can model every behavoiur to get the results. I can play being strong and i can be strong. Only a person who knows what counts could say which behaviour was played and which was spontanious.

  2. J. Martinez

    Taken in Hand is a fascinating site. It’s refreshing to hear women speaking in those terms, standing up for core desires that are, for many people, an unpopular view.

    For me, its not so much the content of their expression as their willingness to be open about their desires that I find sexy.

    What these women want, and apparently have found, is an experience and feeling of freedom to simply be who they desire to be. They have found REAL MEN.

    Now, they may attribute that to some mythical quality called “masculine power” in their men, but it seems to me that any man who has the ability to give himself what he wants and needs has the potential to create a space of freedom for women to express and be themselves fully. This includes their sexual desires.

    You want to know what women want? Become the kind of guy who can allow them the freedom to be who they are and you’ll find out.

  3. Sammy Tucker

    This is so true! I spent much of my life being the same way. Finally I went on this whole bad boy kick where I stopped trying and completely changed my lifestyle. I almost instantly starting getting women so I just put it all together. I love your writing style you. I have similar information on my site. You should check it out sometime. Maybe we could work together on some stuff.

    Sammy Tucker – AlphaManStatus


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