What Women Want in Bed: How to Fuck a Woman Properly

This is one of the best articles I’ve ever read on sex. It’s written by a Woman, to Men, trying to help them understand sex from a woman’s perspective and what she’s looking for. If you want to know what women want in bed and how to fuck her properly, this is one post you need to read.




How To Fuck a Woman So She Keeps Cuming Back

Look, I know you men have it difficult. Women are just about impossible to understand, much less please.

In a post-feminist society, you never know exactly what you should be doing. Women are bloody picky, I know we are. It can be scary, too, when women freak out about what appear to be benign issues. And men who do their best to be respectful, female-positive humans, I salute you, I do.

But please, please just fuck me already. Honestly, I appreciate your thoughtfulness. I like that you want to take things slow. I can totally get behind the idea of emotional connection, but dearjesusinheaven, FUCK ME.

We’ve done dinner and drinks. We’ve gone dancing. We’ve cuddled and watched a movie. I’m wearing a low cut shirt and you’ve been staring at my breasts all night.

Goodgodalmighty, get to it and fuck me.

When we get hot and heavy, please take charge. Please, please fuck me. Trust me, I’m not going to just lie still – I’ll get involved. But don’t make me force your hand into my panties. That makes me feel like a rapist.

We’ve been kissing for a half hour and your hand keeps grazing my ass. That’s nice, but it’s time to move forward. Get on top of me. Don’t make me get on top right out of the gate and start bobbing up and down on your cock like I’m practicing some crazy new aerobic yoga because YOU won’t go down on me. Roll on top and start dry humping like a good boy should.


Read More: How To Set Up a Threesome – The Complete Beginners Guide


Don’t gently suck my nipples and then pull back when I moan with pleasure. You being coy is totally not what I want. It’s not what WE want. OK, I know it’s scary. There are lots of women out there who make fucking really difficult. So, I have compiled some handy tips. Don’t think of this as complaining, or as schadenfreude for the Andrea Dworkins of the world.

Just some simple tips, for timid men who have forgotten what it means to fuck like men:


  1. Taking charge is not bad

What women want: how to fuck her properly - Taking charge in bed is not bad

Oh, there will be some women who feel that you are pushy. If you are making out with a woman, and she starts to push back, ask nicely if things are moving too fast.

If she says yes, say something like “I’m sorry – you just look so fucking delicious. I’ll go slower.” Otherwise, skillfully move forward.

If you start kissing a woman, and she responds well, and before long, you’re both on the floor with her skirt pushed up, and you on top of her, it’s not the time to roll onto your back and start awkwardly stroking the top of her head.

Seriously, grow a goddamn pair. YOU’RE the man. Act like one.

It’s not hard. Just read this and work it out: Are you a boy or a Man? Your 20 + 2 point checklist


  1. Ohmyfuckinggod, please learn to respect the clit

What women want: how to fuck her properly - learn to respect the clitoris

It’s different for every woman, so ask what she likes. Do not, I repeat, do not just wiggle your fingers around her pussy like you’re trying to tickle her.

Do not drum your fingertips against her vulva like you are impatiently waiting at the Sears Tire Center for your receipt. Do not push the clit like it is a doorbell at some house that you need to get inside of.

Start by using all four fingers with firm yet gentle pressure against the outside of her pussy. Do not charge in with a single finger and start jabbing at things.

And if you really don’t know what to do, ask her. Just ask. “How do you like it?”.

It’s a simple question, and most women will answer straight out. If she’s being all coy, ask “Do you like pressure? Is it sensitive?” The clitoris is a varied item, indeed.

Treat each one as though you have never encountered one before. Forget everything that your last partner liked.

And if you still think we’re all the same, listen to this: Tantric Attraction: Conversations with a Tantric Goddess


  1. Most women like to be fucked, and fucked well

What women want: how to fuck her properly - women like to be fucked well in bed

Yes, there are women out there who want to “make love” every time – sweet, gentle, rocking love with lots of eye contact and loving kisses.

Those women are not the majority.

The majority like to be pounded. The majority like to have their hair pulled. The majority like a good, solid jackhammering.

When a woman is bucking wildly against you, it’s not because she wants you to pull back and slowly swirl your cock around her vagina like you’re mixing a cake batter up there.

It’s because she wants you to hold down her arms, or grab her hips, or push her legs above her head, and fuck her harder.

Don’t be too afraid of what this means as far as gender equality goes – I am a raging feminist bitch, but I still want to be penetrated like you are planning on fucking my throat from the inside out.

Confusing? Yes, I know. Us women are confusing. This will make us make more sense: What women want: Female Psychology 101


  1. A little roughness is nice.

a little roughness in bed is nice

Do not pretend that you had no idea that some women like their hair pulled. Do not act shocked if she wants you to spank her (“Really? Spanking? Won’t it hurt?” – yes, it does. That’s the fucking point).

We know you’ve read Stuff and Maxim, and that’s all those laddie mags talk about in their “How to Please Her” sections. Start with light, full handed smacks to the area of her ass that she sits on.

Judge her response and continue on from there.

You don’t have to bend her over one knee and tell her she’s a naughty girl and that Daddy’s going to punish her; save that for the fifth date.

Women are less delicate than you think, so don’t worry about breaking her hip.

If you’re not strong enough to leave a mark, do something about it. Get to the gym and lift skinny boy.

It’s one of the 20 ways that lifting is going to transform your life. Read the rest here: 20 ways lifting weights will transform your life


  1. It’s OK for you to make noise.

It's ok to make noise in bed

Otherwise, we feel like we are fucking a ninja. Unless you actually are a ninja, and have sneaked into our rooms with vibrating nanuchaku and zippered black pajamas, please, please make some noise.

If you’re banging a woman, and she’s crying out and saying your name and moaning, and you can’t even manage a grunt, she’s going to feel like an idiot.

You don’t have to make the sounds she is making, but do SOMETHING. You know how when you are watching porn, and the girl does something great to the guy and the guy kind of goes “Ah!”, half grunt, half yell?

That’s HOT. Do that. Whisper our name (assuming you know it) gruffly. Groan against her neck when you’re in missionary position.

You don’t have to grunt like a mountain gorilla, but if you are totally mute, she’s going to get worried.


  1. Most women like dirty talk, in addition to the grunting.

Women like dirty talk

If you’d like to get some dirty talk going, ask her if she likes the way you fuck her. If she responds well, continue with something like, “I love fucking you. God, you look so fucking hot.”

Is she still moaning in response? “Your tits are so beautiful.” Does that work? If she doesn’t respond well to the term “tits”, you might have to stop there.

If she keep moaning or responding, pass Go and collect $200. Try the following:

“Oh, god. Your pussy is SO tight.”
“You’re so wet – are you wet because you like the feel of my cock ramming you?”
“I think I’m going to come inside you. I’m going to fill up your little cunt.” (It doesn’t matter that you’re wearing a condom; we LOVE hearing this.)

If all of those work, you can then progress to things like “sexy little bitch” and “dirty whore”. Tread carefully, but please, tread.

Do not tiptoe. Do not sit down. Charge.


  1. You’re not obligated to eat a woman out.

should you go down on a woman

In return, she’s not obligated to choke on your dick. Don’t skip one and expect the other.

If you do eat a woman out, the only comment you should make about her pussy is how nice it is.

The length of her labia minora, the color of her interior, her waxing job or full bush – you are not John Madden. No time for color commentary.


  1. Do not bitch about condoms.

Do women like condoms?

Oh, we hate them. Trust us. They hurt us more than they hurt you. But we don’t want to be preggers, and you don’t want to catch anything, right?

Don’t whine about condom sex.

Do not explain that you can’t come with one on. LEARN to come with one on, or if not, help us figure out what to do with you once we’re satisfied and it’s time for you to let loose your load.


  1. We really like it when you come.

#9 It's called the money shot for a reason

It’s called a money shot for a reason. Watching semen shoot out of you is one of the most gratifying things EVER.

However, do not assume that she wants you to jack it off onto her face.

She might, but don’t assume. Seeing and/or feeling you come is rewarding for us, so there’s no need to deprive us of it, but please do consult us before unleashing.

“I think I’m going to come – how do you like it?” is a fair question that shouldn’t rob you of your testicles.

In recent memory, I’ve been fucked by a very aggressive, manly guy, and I’ve been… well, fucked is the wrong term here. I’ve been penetrated by a total and utter wuss.

Who am I going to run back to when I’m ready for my fill? Manly McHardon, that’s who.

Yes. This is true. This is one of the 7 things I wish I knew about women 7 years ago



*New point of clarification – some people have brought up some really great issues in response to this post, so let me say this: I don’t mean to imply that all women like to be treated like whores.

I do mean to say that most women I know have told me that they like sex rougher than most men give it to them. Rough does NOT equal chains and bondage. And this applies to the bedroom only, and does not mean that she wants you to choose her dinner for her, or treat her like less of a person.

**Some women have said that they don’t like it rough and what the hell am I thinking? Well, girls, you’re in the minority. HOWEVER, all women need to remember that, in addition to be straight forward about your sexual desires, you need to be straight forward about your sexual limits.

Don’t be afraid to ask for more, but when something feels wrong, say so. Don’t ever do something you don’t want to do in silence and then blame the guy. Silence is dangerous.

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Now, if all the contradictions here don’t make sense, it means you just don’t understand women.

They’re simple to work out once you know what’s going on and when you work it all out, you’re going to be able to fuck women just like they want to be fucked.

If you’re still confused about women, read this: What women want: Female Psychology 101






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282 Responses

  1. lokariototal

    Does this mean that if we’re attracted to a girl, and the relationship is going well we should just try to kiss her? what if she freaks out and stops hanging out with us?

    • LoGun

      No, it doesn’t mean anything. It just means that this is what this woman likes in bed. Nothing more, nothing less.

      Should you just kiss a girl? Well, that depends on many different things. In that moment when you want to kiss her, is it the right time? Does she want you to kiss her? Does she want you to want to kiss her? Does she feel like it’s appropriate to kiss?

      • Bunty

        Hey! honestly, you decide when YOU want to kiss her. Period. For higher success rate, There are certain things to consider, which all boil down to ‘setting the stage’. Obviously consent is a thing but that fear we get, that feeling, knees weak palms sweaty…that should be enough for you to go for it! Or if you just want to…go for it! The setting the stage part is all about warming her up to the idea early on your date, getting her wondering & thinking about it, picking a location that’s “memorable” or “special.”

        All this other crap about if she wants it….is crap. We are not mind readers and we don’t need to be. The key is that we are true self confident men that go after what we want and can be completely okay if the other person doesn’t want samething.

      • Katelyn

        I want to rub her and put my fingers in her ass and lick it yes I want to put a toy In her ass p

      • Dubz

        And mostly u can pull the move off within a hr trust me i fucked like 8 times in one date from random chicks they easy to please

      • josh

        What a confusing and convoluted piece of shit article. I hope you don’t call yourself a journalist. The standard has dropped off hard in recent years and you are at the bottom end. Girls like what girls like and pretending to be an authority on that for the 5 odd billion females on the planet is pretentious and calling yourself a feminist to boot. This is why i will never date one. Pull your head in woman. Send me an email 🙂

    • Kate

      My husband can talk all the dirty talk he wants. It makes me sick, it makes my skin crawl, turns me off, and his face is ugly as sin when he says it. My boss on the other hand can recite the Swahili alphabet backwards and I cum for days!

      • leigh

        Hahaha… There’s nothing quite like the Swahili alphabet to get those juices flowing!

        I guess this is one thing that’s automatically assumed by the woman who wrote this post: that the woman you’re having sex with is turned on by you.

        Good luck with your marriage. It sounds like you need it.

      • @Kate

        Hope you realise you’re really pathetic. If you don’t like the hubby, go divorce him and try to find nirvana in a different place, with the boss or whoever suits you. But to stay in a marriage because of different factors like “but the kid needs a father”, “but its comfortable with him cause he takes care of everything” equals you being a stupid hooker. Get a life !

      • jay

        @@Kate: Tradition says if you fantasize about another guy, get rid of your husband, polyamory says get a working relationship with both partners – winning.

      • Amb

        LOL!! I automatically assumed this was a joke so I laughed out loud… totally wasn’t expecting that outcome tho. To the other commentors- I’m married; I don’t condone cheating, but I have a great sense of humor lmfao

      • So Much Bull

        Hahaha no way. First, the swahili alphapet is the same as the english alphabet which just some letters modified. I don’t believe for a second that someone can say it in reverse, i don’t even think swahili people can say it in reverse.

      • Herman

        I’m from Kenya so I’m better suited to confirm this. Swahili is indeed sexy, though it’s just the same as the English alphabets. and yes, we can recite it backwards.

      • Ann

        U r a tramp. U r the kind of woman my husband loves to fuck and that. Bothers me. He cheats all the time. He says its second nature. U women show your tits and ass then they r rite in your bed. I wait hours sometimes days. He comes home and tells me to shut up. I know i tell him. Tell me what? That i have been fucking some beautiful sexy woman in a motel for 3 days. Yes i have beenin her fucking loving it and getting my dick sucked off. Yes i have gotten some good pussy and she fucking did my dick dirty. Ooh damb . then he laughs. Thats what u do to our men u bitch

      • Declan Nnadozie

        At least before, he became your husband, talking dirty worked?

      • Im_him

        U dont need a husband then … and the epitome of why men dont always stick with the woman that they are with. Just like you that has a button that sets you off, he does. Sounds like your be a slut for an outsider but wouldnt be for the man you chose in holy matrimony..

      • kelly davis

        I mostly watch porn every day this is a good information how to get fucked up well.Next time somebody come over my house I’m going to tell them to raise my legs to get fucked up well.

      • Erica

        Of course this article is utter rubbish. It’s not necessarily what women want at all and I think the author has written this as entertainment! Just a silly joke

      • Kimberly

        This is exactly what women want! That’s why I married my husband because he knew all of this already!!! Fucks like a jack hammer! Yummy

    • josh

      TLDR: Everything needs to be on my terms. And if you don’t know what that is, too bad. Typical dread-lock shit.

      • Safa

        It is not only an accepted fact for all women who like to have sex, but for all men as well. Why we don’t accept the fact that fucking harder is what most women and men enjoy. What is wrong with it? Is it insulting for us? Is it shameful to put something in writing that is a desire in sexual intercourse for both men and women all the time? Here, even the ones who oppose to this article, is longing for such a moment!

    • josh

      we’ve all become emasculated to the patriachy that is feminism and you want to write an article like this pretending everything is okay. its not okay. i think you need to leave men alone and work on yourselves.

    • Who cares

      Not sure what makes you use words such as “we” and “as” and tbat women who don’t like it rough are in minority. If your like minded friends have told you that they like it rough it doesn’t mean thst majority likes it rough. Just like a clit, every women is unique and can not be stereotyped. Im sure, writing what men want to hear will make your article popular. But it’s sad that it’s far from reality. Sorry to say that miss/ms/mrs know all.

      • Carter

        Sounds like your circle of friends don’t like it rough and have so shaped your perspective on what it/is not the majority. To assume that the writer’s claims have a foundation in her friend network is presumtive and unsubtantiated. Perhaps you’re a prude?

      • Vanya

        I am so part of that “we”” what a fucking legendary article. I’m wet from reading it. Gonna go fuck my dildo fucked up 👆. You go girl xx

    • Kim

      If you think you can handle the next stage of the relationship then yeah. If she freaks, tell her you are sorry but you had to act on your feelings and see where it leads. If she stops hanging out with you then she is a bitch and it would not have worked out anyways.

      • Poeta

        I’m a hot nerdy type girl and I love hard, fast fucking; real men know this; don’t get me wrong, I love kissing too; so my real man of a lover fucks me hard and passionately kisses me at the same time…he rocks my world

  2. Mikey

    I LOVE THIS!!!!

    Fell in to this trap way to many times. Do all the hard work getting a woman into bed and stuff it all up by trying to be sensitive and caring. I was set straight well and truly by one woman who said’for fucks sake, stop making love to me and just fuck me!’ Scared me straight.

    Women want to be excited, turned on and thrilled. They don’t want a woman with a penis (maybe occasionally).

    Women want men! REAL MEN.

    (usual ex-claimers inserted here)

    • Angel

      Absolutely, we want a real man. One who can take charge and be dominating in the bedroom. If I’m fucked good and hard I’m definitely coming back for more!

      • thomas

        Comon baby I will do tht for u and fuck u like a dog comon try me +2349027734200 call me ….

      • ACHIRI

        Really that means you are also a good fucker right? We can get together some time what do you say?

      • joseph

        Then u have no need to worry because I will do wonder for you in bed

      • Mark

        Yeah pulling her hair and fucking her hard and deep while she orgasms is trully one of lifes treasures!
        And then when shes exhausted throw four fingers into her and go foreful and hard up to your knuckles until she starts shaking with tremendious pleasure and screams with a mouth full of cock!…then pumble her gspot fast and furious! This should make her lose control and squirt all over your couch!… then grab her hair and tell her to suck you until you cum… and yes on her tits and face! … she may need a cuddle after, but use this time to gather your strength so you can fuck her doggy…wow this journalism shit is easy!

    • Fin-girl

      One of my favourite fantasy is that I’m a little innocent 16 years old virgin who gets married Godfather movie’s Michael Corleone, who is already a don in his family, and he’s totally in control our relationship, and very passionate, possessive and dominant in bed, and he puts me pregnant instantly after wedding, and fucks me every day and every time he wants, exactly the way he wants..

      • Fin-girl

        And also, a dominant stare is one of the hottest things a man can do in bed.. I have had too many partners who have been too shy to do it properly… I’m maybe little assertive sometimes, and some men may fear it, but I really really wan’t a man who is not afraid to take a complete control over me…

      • ADEKUNLE Olanrewaju

        Hello angel, am 30 years old, please i will us to meat or contact me on my phone number 08032150663 thanks love you bab

      • daniella

        You might be a good girl in bed as in you are frank, am 20 years and had never ever got a good and a fantastic girl in bed, wish to be with u

      • Majid khan

        1st of all sucked innocent for side neck and the lay-down in bed and open her leg’s and start sucking her Ass.

      • Jeremiah

        Exactly. Nowadays most “men” are fucking nu-male pussies anyway. Walking down the street, I think so many of them are women until they get closer. They’re emasculated little wimps, afraid that a fucking first kiss will land them with criminal charges because nowadays everyone is so special and so delicate and so sensitive, and merely pointing a finger means you’re automatically guilty, which makes as much sense as calling the cunt who wrote this article a writer.

  3. theuktoday

    I go the whole way, hair tugging, ass slapping, nipple strangling etc etc, when she makes it obvious she doesnt like it slow it down, problem is the same for men as women rarely say how they want it, go for rough guys, every time ~~

  4. anonymous

    Ok, the woman that wrote this post is a freaking genius! It’s like she crawled inside my head and materialized all my thoughts about sex. I agree with absolutely everything written here, word by word.
    What’s up with men lately?, I don’t get it, I can’t seem to forget this one guy that more than once told me “fuck me”, say what! What a turn off, ugh. Men were supposed to be good at one thing and that was giving us a good fuck, and now they want us to do all the work? I just don’t get it.

    • Leigh (LoGun)

      I’ll be honest with you ‘Anonymous’. It’s not easy for guys.

      We get pounded by the equal opportunity, women’s movement thing preaching that we need to treat women THE SAME as we treat Men (not equally, but THE SAME).

      Don’t get me wrong, I think the advancement of women’s rights is a beautiful thing but it makes it hard to really let loose in the bedroom. When you’ve been told to ‘treat her nicely so you don’t end up with a law suit on your hands’, it’s hard to turn around, take control, and fuck a woman like she deserves.

      It took me a long time to break out of the programming handed to me by my feminist mother…

      For your sake, I hope more Men are able to as well.

      • Zach

        We’ve been told we need to fuck women THE SAME as we fuck Men.

        Passive aggressively.

      • sakura

        I swear to you, more men would get laid more often if they would learn not to insult women for no fucking reason other than our genders while talking smack about their own mothers. That should be in this article.

    • Bongstar420

      This is what I always assumed and women always try to lie about it. I was always like, “why do I have to act like I am interested in something else.” If you walk up to a woman and tell her that you want to fuck her till shes yelling blasphemous phrases, what do you think will happen?

      • Michelle

        Sure, if you walk up to 99% of women and say that, you will get a bad response.

        But if you take her on dates and things seem to be going well (or if you pick her up and things seem to be going well), and you start small and she responds positively….

        Then you take her home and SHOW her that you want to fuck her until she is yelling blasphemous phrases.

    • stinger

      Society can’t neuter men in every phase of life and have you still expect us to be a RAGING BULL in bed. There is a price to equality, you (women) should’ve expected that.

      • Luke

        Great reply. Modern women do insist on neutering men, and of course, it’s our fault to look at it like that. But, like the article described, it’s like they’re asking us to chop our arms off. Could they do that for the good of men? I highly doubt it. We need control in order to be “real” or dominating men in bed. It’s like a burning flame being spit on. Which way is the flame going to go? Is the flame going to burn out with all of that saliva or is it going to grow stronger? I’m pretty sure it will go out and eventually, you’re left with a mangina who’s worse than a homosexual. He doesn’t even want be penetrated let alone penetrate someone else.

      • Gary

        Nobody can do anything to you that you don’t allow. I bake, cook, mix essential oils, and love the color purple. This is all for me. Nobody else. You’d probably use pejoratives if you met me… or, rag on my stand mixer. Being a man is evolving. Evolve.

    • Youranidiot


      Takes two sweet pea.

      If that’s how you feel go find 25 guys to bang and get hey FREE BOOBIES! 🙂

    • Josh

      Well that’s probably your fault girls that pretend being Disney princesses and Barby dolls, extra sensitive with what you want. Go up front and stop complaining and perhaps men will dare to be themselfs again, men. Although I could ask the same question about girls. Peace out!

  5. Claudio

    Before I got married, the way you described this was exactly the way I treated all the women I dated. I treated every single one of them like a whore in bed and they loved every second of it. So much so that they admited that they were always thinking about sex when I was around. My objective was to make them cum every time out. I myself was not satisfied unless they came. Of course I didnt learn this until my early-mid 20s and looking back before that I lost out on so many opportunities because of my lack of experience. It takes time to develope these skills. This article is dead on. Good job Leigh.

    • Youranidiot

      Uh huh.. Yeah dumb they are always thinking it go check out some youtube vids hell better yet get out there and see .. THEY-ARE-ALWAYS-THINKING-ABUT-IT DUH!!!!!!!!!

      Anyone o them that tells you other wise is bull shitting you.

      and yeah off course they would love to be treat like a whore they do not see themselves as “said” thing so yeah .. :s ah DUH! once again. Girls love love love having fun like role play or whatever it is that makes things fun if it makes said thing fun they will do it no mater what it is because it is comfortable. The possibilities are like Endless :3 lol and this is what they want. Not need but .. okay well they will say it’s what they need and hell why not everyone could use some fun. Suppose now or half the ones that are going to read this will want me in some volley or fashion.. 😐 WELL NO.. No no no. not having it. I am male, 32 years young! Of age. And fuck no .. yo ain’t getting any of dis. I hear dildos work lol 🙂

  6. MAC

    All dicks aren’t the same size,(girth,lenghth, etc–ALL women CAN’T take the dick equally- with that being said- you just have to work it differently;working it like a vibrator,working the entrance,just fucking her mind up no matter if your making love or not- knowing how to work the dick so she CUMS on It!!!!!!If you can’t do it with Ur stick then find another way. Just Fuck her mind.B da Greatest!!!

    • mark

      Exactly. I’ve only put about 4 inches in real fuckin slow and a calm ass tempo and stared her dead in the eyes the whole time. She came so hard. I’ve also jackrabbit’d a bitch with her whole body locked in an immovable position and she never came. Admitted I was disappointed, but if we have sex for over 30 minutes not including foreplay and you don’t come lol I will not lose sleep. I’ll just chalk you up as an asexual mess and disappear. All in all I loved this woman’s writing style. It came off intimidating, but after a while I found it refreshing. Don’t ever call a man boy unless you want to get smacked though.

  7. Custer

    The author is right. The above is something every man in a successful marriage understands. What she leaves out is why. Why women like dominance, aggression, and stamina is a topic every feminist is sensitive about. Feminist = Liberal. Liberal = counter-culture. Counter-culture = the destruction of any republic.

    These are attributes by which a female selects a protector and provider. The “taking charge” is a quality she wants passed onto her offspring. It’s all about reproduction – don’t think it isn’t.

    Now that the cart is behind the horse once again. She wants her babies to be like you, but that will only happen if you stay to help shape them. Men will only stay if you are serious about WHO you let penitrate you. Oh, he may take her for a joy ride but that just adds on milleage.

    • Leigh (LoGun)

      The evolutionary psychology ‘passing on your traits to my offspring’ is one way of looking at it.

      I prefer to look at it from a different one. It may not have the extensive scientific theories behind it but it makes much more sense to me.

      The reason that some (a lot) of women prefer this kind of Man is that this kind of Man gives them the expereince they desire, in this very moment. I don’t believe it ahs anything to do with the past or the future, rather, the experience they desire now.

      If you can give a woman the expereince they want, in this present moment, then she will desire it more.

      The reason I think it’s important to focus on this moment is that women don’t always desire this kind of sex. Sometimes, they desire slow loving sex, sometimes they desire hard and fast f*&king, sometimes, it’s funny, playful sex. What they desire changes and so in order to give women the sex they want, you have to focus on what they desire in the present moment.

      Just my 2c anyway. Not saying it’s right, it’s just the way I see it.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts,


  8. Mary

    Custer, you have a very deep understanding of human sexuality. It took me a long time to understand consummate love. That is what you described whether you know it or not.

    That said, I agree with Leigh in this article.

    Perhaps men have lost sight of the importance of their vocation as fathers, and leaders. If they don’t view their function as important they won’t invest as much into it. They will be less likely to take risks, because the payoff is just an orgasm, not a whole family.

  9. Brian

    5. It’s OK for you to make noise. Otherwise, we feel like we are fucking a ninja.


    Leigh please help, Ive ran out of ninja smoke bombs.

  10. ross

    jesus i never laughed so much in my life and i laugh a lOT. u r hilarious…

  11. Bill

    I too found this not just informative, but extremely funny. I was one of the sensitive, slow to act guys in my youth because I thought that was right and showed respect. Then I would look around and see the biggest jerks getting the hot women…I couldn’t figure it out. At least, not until later in life. Now I know and Leigh, you are absolutely right. I’d love to hear your views on the steps before getting to the physical aspect. I have my own, much of what I learned from women, but it would be great to get your perspective.

    • Leigh (LoGun)

      Wicked mate. I only wish I wrote it. Though I don’t think it would have the same impact if it came from the mouth of a guy.

      I’m in the process of rewriting Seduction Community Sucks and I’m going to fill it full of a whole bunch of fun stuff so keep your eye out for that.

  12. Irv

    Nice job and thanks for re-setting the way forward. I find this information timely and informative. Only a couple of things, I’m not sure that my partners want to be called ‘..bitch’ or ‘….whore’. At least that has been my experience. But right up to that point as mentioned, spot on. On a related note, wassup with that sex partner that wants to bite the hell out of my dick?!? I had to let her know, but she couldn’t help herself. I think she wanted me to punch her or throw her into the wall which is a line I will not cross, I had to roll (leave). I can be a freak but we all have to be mindful of the boundaries.

    • Leigh (LoGun)

      In my experience, women don’t want to have you lead them around the local shopping mall calling them ‘Bitch’ and ‘Whore’. Its DEFINITELY got to be timed right with the right kind of sex but when it is, it’s a whole lot of fun. My personal favorite is ‘Dirty Little Slut’ but each to their own.

  13. Seriously?

    Women have this false sense of entitlement and how they are so dependant on men engaging them(starting the conversation that begins the relationship, starting sex, etc…) because god forbid they grow some balls and put there ego on the line. No the guy has to do it because you can always shoot him down and he rebounds. But god forbid you make the first move because you just cant handle the loss.

    Dont get me wrong I dont mind it, I love taking charge etc… I get a feeling of accomplishment but thats just me. Back to the point this post is makes me completely sick. Its basically women chastising men for not making the first move, completely oblivious to the fact that it takes 2 to tango. I mean seriously… The writer of this post and everyone who agrees with this should really reevaluate there mentality.

    Allowing a guy a chance to take the lead is one thing, but ranting about that he wont start the transition into sex is just kinda pathetic.

    It would be like me complaining about how you left for 3 days and complaining that you didnt pre cook anyfood for me to eat, and you saying “why didnt you just cook something?”, and me saying “thats besides the point”. Masochistic i know but its the only analogy i can think of. Not that my girl has to cook for me, I am a great cook.

    • Leigh (LoGun)

      I think you missed the point here my friend. The post isn’t chastising you for what you are and are not doing, the post is simply one woman saying ‘This is what I, and most women I know, want.’

      If you don’t want to be part of this, go and date a dude. If you don’t want to take initiative, then go and have sex with your business partner.

      Me personally, I like feminine women. This is what feminine women like. Because this is what feminine women are like, I choose to take the lead.

      This works for me because I also happen to take the lead. I don’t want someone else to tell me what to do. I want to do what I want to do. That means I work perfectly with feminine women.

      If you’re not willing to take the lead then find a Masculine woman you can have boring, platonic, logical, negotiated sex with. I’ll be with the beautiful, feminine, girly women.

      • heisenburg

        Its good to be single, buddy. Fuck all the nagging, fuck buying her expensive gifts, and being made to feel like I’m always in the wrong. Fuck bitches. Like jim Jeffries, I sometimes wish I was gay and I recommend jim jeffries to anyone who liked this dog shit article. Fucking feminists….

      • wesley

        That is absolutely correct a strong woman is looking for a stronger man to take the lead in bed. Most women these days are pretty damn tough and can handle most anything, and take pride of it. we men have been manipulated by television movies religion politically correct and being a nice guy. A nice guy is boring a man that can show her that she has need she’s not even aware of in bed is the keeper. Amanda challenges her to dig deeper for fantasies she did not even know she had. Women have confused men with quotes like there’s just something about him I can’t explain. It is about love not sex. Another common one is electricity or something to that effect is a woman …saying as a lady this guy turned me on immediately. It does happen when we drop the nice guy it allows the reason human beings have survived for tens of thousands of years. A man must give her permission to be bad and then look out. Young girls story books Talk about the handsome prince. It’s not the handsome prince it is the adventure he takes her on. A man must have a personality in not afraid to display his sex drive openly. Women will respond in kind. We men do not have the market shown up on desire. I believe Women are looking for the guy that can make them feel a little bad in bed. That comes from a leader. Rather somebody else to blame for a hot time. I always let the lady know I want to be the best in bed she’s ever had and then I back it up with dirty talk give her as many orgasms is she can have and then it’s my turn. Forget that making her feel like a princess in bed Make her feel like a dirty little slut. It starts with the first conversation. Don’t be a nice guy there a dime a dozen and extremely boring. A woman wanted adventure.

      • Wolf

        Fuck this bullshit. I agree that this article is a little ridiculous. Maybe it’s because I’m married and the author is clearly a cock hungry, single, young woman. I’m 28, m, married with a kid. I know how to fuck my wife and I love doing it. But I do everything every time. I eat her out every time and really get head myself. It would be nice if, occasionally, she would show me how much she wants it by grabbing my cock it just lunging at me. I would instantly take it from there, but I don’t want to be the one who has to have the “feel like a rapist” feeling every time if she’s not in the mood. What are you a fucking princess? Super model? What? You just want to be made to feel that way constantly? Cool. I’d like to be treated like a millionaire everywhere I go. From now on I’ll call anyone who doesn’t a pussy. Fuck you.

      • Sum Guy

        It’s a misconception to think that women who take the lead are somehow “masculine” and that sex with them is boring….far, far from it. They are simply confident or really turned on by you. Not many do it but the women that have taken the lead to come on to me (that I have taken up the offer) have all been amazing in bed. Adventuress, open and liking what is described in this article.

        With what you call “feminine” women, if they are into you they make it very clear, you just have to give them an opening to express it, flirting with words/building a connection with words (if that goes well) then flirting with proximity, such as a touch on her hand or elbow, getting a bit closer, leaning in to whisper in her ear. It’s all about listening and paying attention to her body language, as she is doing with you, to determine if you should. I think being able to read when the time is right is half the problem for most men. It arises from confusing your desire for them with their desire for you.

  14. Tom

    I have to agree with the author. In my experiences the majority of the women I’ve been with liked it on the rough side. One even demanded I had my hand firmly around her neck as I pounded her, I was a little hesitant at first because I didn’t squeeze too hard and hurt her but after time you know what the limits are and it makes fucking so much better. I have to say though it does make it alot easier for us guys if we get some kind of hint of how she likes it, which after time you do become better at picking up on it. I love the article, it’s nice to actually hear a woman admit to what most don’t like to. I don’t find it un-ladylike I find it sexy and honest.

  15. Nicole

    What women want in bed is definitely not all the same as
    this article suggests. Rough stuff, especially if a woman didn’t know the guy well would be scarey and/or weird. Seriously, why would anyone dig hair pulling, spanking, some creep coming on her face, or anything that hurt? I asked a more experienced friend what she thought and she agreed and told me that this stuff is done a lot in porn and it’s become a common thing guys seek and plenty of women pretend to dig. I think that a Real Man who takes charge, is strong, energetic and expressive but doesn’t hurt, scare, or harm, and definitely knows the importance of the clitoris is what is hot, hot, hot!

    • goodnhard

      I’ve found that in the heat of it after they’ve got off once that they all want to be stuffed and hammered as long as possible, till their legs quiver for a half hour after I’ve blown my load.

    • Lucey

      I agree. I think the author is confusing passion and assertiveness with being rough. Honestly, most guys don’t know their own strength and being rough without the emotion or passion (or consent!) behind it just downright physically hurts. Yes, women want to be “taken” but it is such a mental/psychological game that has little to do with actually being rough. I think this advice leads a lot of men astray and they do repeat what they see in porn which is usually bereft of any real connection. Women want to be made feel WANTED is all… like you can’t RESIST her and there’s more than one way to show that… the best lovers SLOW DOWN, are patient and sensual and mix in moments of wild passion/aggression. It’s all about the feel, not the act.

    • Kris

      I don’t think so. most woman I fucked was in to that stuff. It is a role play. being rough in bed like a fucking animal as we are, is something every single woman i ever was with, liked. But you can’t just be rough, if your not also kind. My girlfriend trust me so much because see knows that i am very warm heartet and kind. So in bed we can do whatever. I think you might be lying to your self.

  16. MarkJonez

    I have only made love/had sex with 1 person in my life and that’s my beautiful wife (lol, that rhymed). When both in a couple are virgins before getting married they both obviously have zero experience. But we started to experiment with and communicate how we like sex. What I have found out is that we both like to mix it around. Once its caring soft slow sex which can also be passionate at the same time, and other times its more rougher type of sex.

    The rougher sex is basically showing how much you physically sexually want and crave your woman. There are times when you physically feel you need this (you must communicate this and take charge). This type of sex indicates what you want as a man!

    The softer sex is more showing how much you love and care for her and want to protect her and give her that warm feeling of total devotion to her. This type of sex indicates how much you love your woman with a selfless affection and dedication. Even us men have this inner need to show this to our women, the calling is not just from women and their needs. Real men literally have a yearning to show that they want to protect and give warmth to her.

    Because in the end this is what a woman (at least mine) “needs” (not only wants):
    1. To be loved, nurtured, cared for, protected and respected.
    2. To be absolutely wanted physically by you

    It is a balance in any healthy relationship!

    The conclusion is: A woman needs you to take charge but also needs you to pick up on her signals or at least communicate with her. Notice how I use the word “need”, its not just “want”. And what she needs, is in the end actually what you need ;-), to love and worship her to the bones and to fuck her brains out at the same time lol.

    • dora

      this is true to the core. filled my eyes with tears for a second 😀 exactly how i see it as a woman.

    • Danielle

      Exactly. I don’t think I could have said it any better myself. In the bedroom, sometimes we want soft slow passionate, other times hungry, lustu, hot and heavy banging. But outside of the room ALWAYS show love and respect. A successful relationship /marriage as well as a rewarding love life require open communication. I want my Husband (*and he does) to treat me like a lady and be a getleman outside the room but fuck me like an animal in the room. Even if I am not in the mood for a rough session, I ALWAYS like the display of passion and want to feel the depths of his desire and to feel wanted and beautiful in his eyes.

      • The Docta

        princess in public, pornstar in private is the way i like to treat a lady

        and how i also
        love her to act.
        No gentleman likes his partner
        to dress or
        behave like a cock hungry whore outside
        the bedroom. But when inside the private domain of the
        bedroom (or
        any place that can be of privacy) its time to allow ones desire to be unleashed and enjoyed to the fullest. Every woman i have had sexual experience with was very similar in how they likes to be fucked. Some of these women had their desire locked away in their minds only thinking that these thoughts were explored during fantasy while masturbating alone. To have a woman be satisfied by a powerful and openly sexual adventure is such a turn on and i feel a more real sexual encounter that hiding the real desire within oneself thinking how to be a “politcally correct” lover or partner.

  17. Love

    Now women need to feel special and open during sex if a women is not open during sex it wont work out.

  18. jonny

    So… what if you are a guy and you don’t like making stupid noises, calling girls whores or wearing condoms? It’s not all about the woman. You have to meet in a middle ground. If I get a girl that wants me to do dirty talk, I don’t come back. Lame, cheezy, etc…

    • Leigh (LoGun)

      Then you’re probably going to be stuck having ordinary sex for the rest of your life.

      One thing that you might not have realised yet is that if you can give women the kind of sexual experiences that they crave on a deep and primal level, then will continue to come back to you, over and over again.

      If you continue to be stuck in your head complaining that people should meet in the middle and that the world is not fair, then you’re going to miss out on some incredible opportunities and experiences.

  19. Vince

    Holy shit !! This is exactly what I needed to hear/read !! I just wish I would have read this like 20 years ago. I am, or should I say was, one of those wussies. Don’t know why. Maybe the liberal, progressive movement. Maybe having only sisters as siblings. I don’t know why, but I’ve always knew something was amiss. My new wife of 1 1/2 years has been hinting around at this more aggressive, take charge thing. She won’t come clean and just say what she wants, but now I know…this is it !! I am gonna work this in. Thank you so much for just saying it like it is !

  20. alberto varela

    Wow what guys don’t know this. I always talk dirty to women I always tell them to tell me they want more Dick while I’m inside them . I almost always pull their hair, smack their ass sometimes choke them. Oh I remember this one girl choked me back when I was on top that was exciting . I pound a girl til she’s pulling away from me.

    Now let me mention what I need and I have only gotten from 4 girls or maybe 5 I need a women to let me cum in her mouth that feels the best. The facials were good when I was a teenager .you wanna keep a guy let him cum in your mouth . Obviously this would be most likely your boyfriend .

    Every women wants to be dominated I push the women against the wall and attack her when she gives me that sign and I last very long I really just need that mouth to let me cum inside it and if a women swallows now we’re talking .

  21. Jimmy

    The problems is YOU fuking women need to make up your mind!! All men are turning more feminine by the day. Plucking their eyebrows , shaving off all their body hairs , come on, all because the modern man needs to look pretty in like a bloody woman. Then women seem to want ‘ a real man ‘ , lol, make up your mind women. You don’t like the thought of a man how they used to be, hairy , masculine and tough, instead you want smooth, pretty boys with floppy hair in tight jeans?? And you wonder why thru can’t give you whores a good fucking, lmfao, today’s society is a joke , women just stop fucking moaning , the less men concentrate on looking like poofs, that’s where it starts

    • Leigh (LoGun)

      You seem to blame the fact that a lot of guys and becoming increasingly feminine on social standards but would those standards matter if guys didn’t change who they are and what they wanted depending on what society said they should do?

      Would this be an issue if they just lived their life the way they thought was right, rather than what people told them was right?


      Nailed it! Thats exactly the problem with your western countries. women want partners with floppy hair and cute face in tight jeans and rough sex !

  22. alberto varela

    Wow I agree some men do look to feminine with the tight jeans and the shaved eyebrows . But truthfully and thankfully not I some men are too hairy, put yourself in women’s shoes would you want to have sex with a hairy person . Taking care of oneself , absolutely nothing wrong with that .

    What the real problem is I encounter men who don’t stand up for themselves. A man has to be able to put a woman in her place from time to time and vice versa. Nothing sexy well at least for most women in a needy, wuss of a man. A woman wants to be taken by a man who commands respect from others men and women . That’s what needs to be fixed more than other things .

  23. Jimmy

    It’s not about men being hairy, I’m just saying that men seem to be confused these days about how they should look, dress, act, just to fit into this modern gay looking trend , ( no offence to gays). When I shag my bird, I let all hell break lose, I pound that pussy good and hard just the way most women like it ( not all) but that’s just me. That’s what I’m saying, these days your either a pretty boy poof looking guy, or your the usual old skool looking bloke. All the natural male traits seems to be disappearing or men are being more and more brainwashed, I have nothing against men looking good, nice hair cut , well groomed, gym goer, all that is great, just when men start to look and dress more snd more like women , just to fit in, it’s literally “gay” lol. Oh yh my point is ummmmmm

    • Carl

      Hey Jimmy, I have a shaved look and floppy hair?
      What’s wrong with that?

  24. David

    You can fuck a woman with love or you can “make love to her” with disdain. The opposite is also true, so It’s not the words we are talking about. I often think how fortunate my male ancestors were. They didn’t sit around wondering how to get a woman into bed, by listening to her problems or buying her drinks. They took their women and they fucked the hell out of them. I am not talking about rape or abuse for all you hardcore feminists. I am talking about not worrying so much about what a woman wants in bed. What leads to infrequent and boring sex is trying to be too much of a nice guy in bed, trying too please a woman and trying to get her approval or be always on a lookout to see when the best time is to approach her. Be like the Bull Moose. Fuck your woman well. You’ll both be happy.

  25. John

    I agree with the post, girls like being fucked hard, and fast for as long as possible. Dirty talk, spanking, spitting (to a certain extent) dont be fooled by her job, her status or looks there all whores in the bedroom & deserve no respect (in the bedroom) If you wanna make her cum it’s gotta be done fuck the shit outta that birch!!! You can cuddle after. .. I’ve only been with one girl who wasn’t a freak in the bed but she was insecure and was terrible in the sack. But men nowadays are dressing like weirdo women, colourful shirts, tight jeans, it’s just so gay. Normal guys are like a last of a dying breed a forgotten tribe WTF is going on?! And women dressing like lesbians shaving half there head off these are confusing times. Media & Internet pressuring every man to look like Beckham and have a 13 inch dick. But what about what we want!!! These girls need to start sucking more dick! If they swallow I swear to GOD I’ll speak Arabic 🙂

  26. O

    I literally JUST read another write-up by a woman that said the EXACT opposite of what this article is telling men to do.

    The moral of the story is always this: Every. Woman. Is. Different.
    Some like it rough, some hate it rough. Some just wanna get fucked. Some want to take it all slow. Some love oral. Some hate oral.

    Every time you’re with a woman, just ask her what she wants. What’s so hard about that?

    • David

      The reason why you don’t ask a woman what she wants is because most woman don’t know what they want. It’s our job as men to lead and take a woman places she’s never been before.

    • goodnhard

      Big mistake, girls want fucked by a man, not some fem/male who asks what she likes. Man, to ask what they want sounds so limp dick that she’ll say nothing from you I already got a pussy. You give her what you want to give her and let her be thankful that you’re willing to slam the meat to her. You get what you want, then have her stfu and fix a sandwich.

  27. inya

    i am 25 and i never had sex. i relly wanna fuck. i am exhausted by donig
    masturbation all day long. I am attracted to women older then me. i wish i
    had success very soon.

  28. David

    Stop staying home and masterbating. Magic happens around people.

  29. Hmm

    Great article but there are few things I’ve considered after reading it. None of the article ever mentioned trust. Of course, you could ask her if this is okay or that is okay, nothing harmful but women also need to feel trust and allow a man to communicate appropriately. I’m sure y’all know this already but come on, calling a minority group of women who don’t like charge is uncalled for. Like somebody said every women is different. Sex is different to each one.

    Plus you’ve mentioned that most women have told you how they like good fuck, then I ask you – how did you do your research? How do you know which woman to ask? How many women have you spoken with?

    What’s wrong with men taking things slow? So do women too! For many reasons! All I see the whole point of this article was telling its ok for men to charge. What if a date rapist interpret this article wrong and thinks it ok for man to take charge when a woman don’t want it?

    Oh by the way I’m lesbian and I know how to treat my wife the best sex doesn’t mean we are in minority group. Every woman is equal and different, don’t fucking label us.

    • John

      Oh please you dykes are all the same. Listen bottom line men will be men women will be women you do what men say to do. A good women is a woman that can get face fucked real good. Women don’t deserve shit

  30. Andrea

    One of the best, most hilarious articles I’ve ever read on sex! I agree with everything you said! You’re brilliant! I give you kudos for your honesty! I will be sharing this article tonight with my hunny!! Thank you for writing this!

  31. cb

    Raised by a single mother, i feel this this has affected my nature and attitude to women. I’d love to be the super aggressive dominant male type in all aspects of working/sex life but that;s not me and i’m a little timid, long and slow although lots of stamina. So articles like this make me feel somewhat inadequate. However, it’s 2014 and women are more than equal, men have been hammered by the fembots and to be honest there are so many mixed messages that make women appear as crazy deranged personality disorder depressed lunatics that don;t know what they want. Many men are just confused as to why girls go with bad guys and then whinge about how the ‘bad guy’ is not a conversationalist and then they meet another bad guy whch makes them depressed so they go opposite and meet another guy who is ‘nice’ so that they can have a house and a baby. They struggle to raise a child, lose the will to work and become depressed for the rest of their lives. rock on bitches

    • Bobby Brown

      That’s a lot of bluster for a simple issue. men and women are different individually and as a group when it comes to sex. Take my simple advice, slap it up, flip it, rub it down. If the person you’re with doesn’t care about your wants and needs and is not willing to meet you half way…send them packing or move on. If you can’t work it out, time to move out. Women lose the intensity of their urges in their early 30’s (child-rearing time!) and some regain them in their 40’s or 50’s (post-menopausal) when they also realize how much good loving they have missed out on, ignored or deprioritized. For those stuck in sexless but otherwise loving relationships, your life sucks. You need to take a deep look at what you want in life and make some decisions. Maybe you can only be friends now and you need to give your heart and physical loving to someone who reciprocates it and wants you back.

      Advice for men: talk to your lady about your concerns. Tell her how you feel about her and tell her that having sex with her is just as important to you as the multitude of other reasons you love and care for her. She does not get a pass to just quit being interested and you do not have to be “rewarded” or work hard to “earn” sex with her. Fuck that, you’re the one likely doing everything in that department anyway.

      Advice for women: Get over your bullshit (body image, low self esteem, laziness). Look at that man that is apparently getting on your nerves trying to jump you bones and appreciate that he loves you no matter what. He doesn’t give a shit if you don’t look perfect or don’t look like a supermodel (skinny little boy look if you ask me) . He chose you for you. He loves your soul, your body, the silly things you do, the crazy shit you say, your insane family, ALL of it. And he still wants to fuck the daylight out of you. Trust me, he can find a warm, wet hole elsewhere just as easily as you can find a loner’s boner but he doesn’t does he? He wants you, only you, all the time, right now. So get your overly self-analyzing (and self-punishing) head out of your ass and fuck him until his eyes cross.
      Seriously, it’s not that complicated, at least it doesn’t need to be.

  32. Mal

    Cliche saying it may be, but I’m a gentleman in the streets and a fucking animal between the sheets. My girlfriend loves it, she loves it when I get that look of animal lust in my eyes and pound her pussy hard. We can totally loose ourselves in the bedroom (the car, the garden, kitchen table, disabled toilet, or wherever we may be) and really show and tell each other how fucking horny we are for each other. Then as a hot, sweaty totally drained mess, I get up and make her breakfast 😉

    • Joey

      Preach it. I’ve heard men want Martha Stewart in the kitchen, Mary Poppins in the nursery and Madonna in the bedroom…Women want Jamie Oliver in the kitchen, Rupert Murdoch in the boardroom and Wolverine in the bedroom.

  33. Dave

    I have been married twice, and basically let down twice. My first marriage I will admit I was an immature alcoholic. Second time I would do as much as I possibly could, spend as much time to please her as possible, and then felt as though she was faking her climaxes. My work kept me away from home for several weeks at a a time. I was ABSOLUTELY faithful, but felt the only reason she would fuck me was to keep me focused on returning to work. I am now with a great lady, I am working at changing careers, but at the age of 59 my equipment seems to fail me more than not.

  34. Confused male

    some woman like the one i have are to shy in bed. The thought of me talking dirty embarrasses her. When we were first together she didn’t act as timed(probablly trying to impress me or wtv). When I do try to pull her hair and “pound it” it hurts her. I have 2 kids with her and we’ve been together for 7 years now. Were both in our late 20’s so you would think that we would be in our sexual prime. But thats not the case I guess. She absolutely dispises everything kinky. The only time I get any emotion out of her is when she cums. Which i try to make sure happens every time. Its getting to the point where I am getting extremely bored. I don’t wanna cheat but I’ve exulted all other avenues. Our sex life isn’t spontanious at all (partly b/c of kids). Sex is pritty much limeted to one room and like 3 positions. I’ve talked to her plenty of times about this and it’s gotten me nowhere. I truely love her and don’t wanna hurt her, shes a great friend……..terrible lover.

    • Anna

      You’ll be surprised how many women stop feeling love for their husband after a child is born. It’s sort of like this – all our hormones are telling us to love the child, but we know that you support us and always have been there for us, so our minds are still with you. I know it can be strange, happened the same with my husband, I told him that he was almost like a stranger to me after our second son was born. It helps if you talk it out, your wife most likely feels a challenge, overwhelmed by all the new emotions that she never had before. In our case, when we broke it down and were honest, we realized that there’s tons of love in our family that can be evenly distributed.

    • Kris

      I’m in the same situation but I’m the wife. Love and sex are two completely different thing’s. I’d suggest continue to love her, but find someone to fulfill your sexual needs (don’t love them just fuck them). Wife doesn’t need to know about it, that would hurt her. However if you’ve tried getting her to meet you halfway and she’s not comfortable with it don’t push it that will only create resentment for both. Basicly I’m saying get you’r kinky needs taken care of but keep it a secret . Surprisingly if you approach it correctly it can help the marriage (I’m way less bitchy when my sexual needs are satisfied = better wife and mom. Also = very little guilt to deal with.
      Not sure if this helps…

      • BigBoner

        I suppose that advice is better than, “…be sure to bury the body deep enough.’

  35. Tripp

    Here’s one for ya. Stay in the moment.

    I got it from a movie, unfortunately I don’t remember what movie it was, but I do remember the scene clearly. It went something like this; he was on top of her and they locked eyes and you could see that they had a really strong connection going on. But then, he either look away or closed his eyes and she said “No, come back to me.” For a moment there, the connection was gone.

    This made me realize how often a guy, while engaged in the most intimate activity with another person, without even knowing it will mentally and emotionally “leave” her and go somewhere else.

    Maybe he needs to use his imagination to stay excited?

  36. James

    You woman are so difficult. On the one hand all we hear in life is don’t treat woman like sex objects and then on the other hand that’s exactly what you want, but not all the time and in some cases never. Get a grip ladies. I love the article, it’s maybe a reason why my previous marriage broke down. I always made love, maybe she wanted to fuck! So instead of saying something she just removed sex from the table apart from the bi-monthly roll around. Here is your lesson ladies… Instead of feeling upset and hurt when you find out your man went and got it from another woman, trying SAYING what it is you bloody want!

  37. william

    This artical is true..luckily I figured this out in my early 20’s….there is a saying thats extremely true….your woman is dirty then you are they just arent as out going about it as men are…i have had 2 long term threesome relationship (9+ years) and they were all freaks in bed….and almost every other girl i have been with…

    1. Dont be afraid to ask what interests them in bed…have a fun buzzed night of sexual question
    2. Yes there ARE some women who dont like it rough in any way..usually tho its from a bad experiance of some guy being waaay to forcefull and it can be worked out….but there are a few rare ones that dont like it
    3.BE A MAN….go for what you want and let her know you want her……this doesnt mean “hey im shoving it in your ass now deal with it”….sometimes being forcefull in stages works..throw her on the bed…if she giggles or moans…keep going…if she seems frightend hold back from going farther….you get my drift

    For the one women who said a girl liking to get choked is a minority….uhhh no..no its def not….of the 26 women i have been with at LEAST half loved choking….some only lightly….a few to the point of almost passing out

    Well i could say a lot more but typing on a phone is a bitch….time to grab the girl from work and make her feel wanted..peace

  38. Taiga Tauna

    Good interesting article but still suspect it may have been written by a man.

  39. Name

    Based on this it is difficult to tell if the author is bitchy slut or a slutty bitch. Because, if she wants a guy to fuck her really, really hard could she not just tell him?

  40. Fish

    So, if a man wrote an article stating something to the effect of “fortheloveofChrist I want you to latch onto my cock with your mouth and suck it like your 60 feet under water and it’s the only thing keeping you alive. Stop it with the ‘just put my lips on it and not commit my entire mouth then use my hand to create the illusion of a blow job’ bullshit because we know how a real slut sucks a dick you frigid bitch”. Would that instill a sense of mutual understanding and respect for my sexual desires? Probably not.

    Women demanded respect and rejected being objectified and treated like pieces of meat when we looked at you like we wanted to ride you like a dime store pony. Now you women are two generations or so into your offspring and your realizing that what your mother’s and grandmother’s where doing when they were teaching their young boys to piss sitting down.

    Don’t insult us and call names, blame your mothers. Our father’s and grandfather’s always wanted to treat you like a fuck toy in the sack. Insults and name calling for you here, it’s not going to turn it back. You want me to pull your hair and jackhammer you face down ass up? How about treating me with respect and asking nicely as opposed to calling me a pussy. Then maybe we will feel less likely to be brought up on charges after we spank you and leave a mark like you wanted, then you have second thoughts about whether or not you gave consent.

  41. S-Male

    This is the author’s personal opinion, and unless this article is based on extensive intimate sexual research by surveying or counselling hundreds of actual women from diverse social, economic, racial, age, marital, ethnic and religious backgrounds in one-on-one sessions where they have really opened up to the counsellor, and narrated their actual experiences and real likes and dislikes, this stuff remains the realm of fantasy. It could be true with some women, but until backed up by data, I’m sorry we are going to have to assume this is what the author wants, not what women want. One woman’s thoughts and desires do not represent those of 3.5 billion women on the planet.

  42. Dj

    I don’t want to cause fuss here because this site has helped me confidence wise. But jeez… I hate the term “Manly” Christ’s sake I don’t know why but, I can’t identify with it. I can do and enjoy all the stuff listed. But her degrading what I’m sure some of you would call “Beta” males is irritating. Nothings wrong with being “manly” I just want to say degrading males are not going to make them “manly” at best it’ll make them resentful. I read countless “game” articles contacted owners too. but this one I am almost 100% on board with and best of all its authentic. Others made sad guys into angry guys… Which in bed is alright but, have you tried dating a guy who only NEEDS one thing.. Eventually you’ll feel like meat, outside of bed… Which doesn’t feel good. I wanted to share my thoughts even if they are a bit inconsistent. I finally don’t feel like my clothing or style conflicts with my love life. You helped me love MYSELF whether you intended it or not. So sincerely I thank you.

  43. Alessio Ventura

    It is amazing how far women have come, all the way from the prim and proper wife on Father Knows Best, to raging hooker wanna-be’s in articles like herein.

    Some of the “instructions” delineated in this article might be considered rape. Much of it is xxx rated, and most women would be turned off completely if they exhibited the behavior called for.

    For example, the “Money Shot” is not a term that most women are familiar with, because most women don’t watch porn, and they don’t understand the reference. Women may like the feeling that her man is experiencing when he has an orgasm and ejaculates, but for most women that means the feeling she gets when her husband ejaculates inside of her at about the same time that she too is having one or more orgasms.

    You see, most women are not whores, and they want to be respected, just like men do. They don’t want to “just be fucked” as this article argues as a central thesis; they want to be RESPECTED more than anything else, treated as a person. Women want to get to know you, they want to understand your interests, they want you to understand theirs. They don’t want to “just fuck” just because this article says so.

    Men, go ahead and try to “just fuck her” and you could very well find yourself behind bars.

    Think of it this way, ladies and gentlemen, if you had a 15-18yr old son, and you were having a discussion about how to treat women, would you say, “Son, treat women with dignity and respect, date them, take them to nice dinners, talk to them, get to know them, but ‘FUCK THEM BECAUSE THAT’S WHAT THEY WANT’ “. Do that and then get ready to fnd a defense attorney for your son, or get ready to pick him up at the hospital after his date’s bg brothers, cousins, uncles, and fathers beat the living shit out of your boy.

    What do women really want? They want to feel safe, they want to feel respected, wanted, and treated “like a lady” in the traditional sense of the word. Sure, there exist women, a minority, who just want you to fuck them. But perhaps that is .05% of the population of women on the planet, and these usually are the women on the clock, who need to get as many John’s thru tneir turnstiles as they can.

    So to all you young men out there, I’m about to tell you what your grandfather knew a long time ago when he married your grandmother. He knew that the key to a woman’s happiness was a genuine relationship, one in which she felt respected, admired, safe, and happy, and one where she knew that at the end of the day the sex was far superior in a relationship like that than in any other situation.

    Guys, don’t fall for the dribble written in this article. I can assure you that if you were to follow the advice as written herein, not only would you NOT be having sex with anyone other than your local prostitute, but you would be on the wrong side of the law, the wrong side of morality, the wrong side of decency, but sooner or later sonebody would be picking up your badly beaten body from the curb side. THINK ABOUT THAT before you act upon the “advice” in this article.

    • M.I.V

      @Alessio Ventura

      totally agreed upon what you say alessio……………nice written….well explained…..brilliantly put an idea……………this is what…we have to give a legacy a culture to our next generation.

      NO THE so called articles….point of view…….

  44. J Ray

    Take out the word “rough” and replace it with “passion” and I feel you will have more women voting YES to it! Women want passion. To feel completely and utterly wanted, desired, and dominated by her mate. I’ve done various types of sex, from slapping the taste out her mouth type of rough sex to making love. All on the request by women who thought they knew what they liked. However, more often then not I get the “damn, what the fuck did you do to me?! Oh God, again!!” when I take her and give her the “full body experience” which includes constant grabbling and touching, hair pulling, ass/thighs/hip squeezing, lifting/picking up, deep thrusting, pressure, pinning, mild biting on the neck/shoulders/legs/back depending on the position, and just having her completely immersed by my affectionate, yet aggressive performance. It’s kinda hard to explain in words…I’d have to just show you in person 😉 — one thing i’ll add is that although exceptions exists, please stay away from “rabbit fucking” your women fellas!! Thats the fast in-and-out stroking some of yall do. You hav your girl in missionary and all you do is fast stroking and looking at her or around the room somewhere…BORING! She can rabbit fuck herself with a damn vibrator. Get up close and personal. Pick her up and flop her on the kitchen counter, get in there, and start thrusting in her like you’re trying to reach her throat from her vagina, with each stroke and thrust trying to go deeper and deeper! Then switch it up with a few off beat hard bangs in a different position, like doggy. Start off kinda in there and gradually increase the intensity as she gets wetter and louder, and watch her cum on you real quick. I’m telling you, that’s the key. I’ve even fucked hookers who’ve had bigger dicks in them then mind and have been around the block if you catch my meaning…I fucking made them all cum so damn fast I should’ve been the one to charge them for my services lol

    • Alessio

      This is a good example of how NOT to treat a woman. Her orgasm doesn’t occur because you want to thrust your manhood so far as to “reach her throat”. That is bizarre. No, her orgasm is from how you treat her beforehand, how you treated her as a person, if you made her feel wanted, loved, and safe, if she enjoyed your company, your intellect, and you as a good and decent person.

      How is it that men have come to these erroneous conclusions about the sexual needs and desires of women? It’s very scary, because the type of attitude expressed here leads to violence against women, and is tantamount to rape. Think about it, thrusting to “reach her throat from her vagina” is an expression of pure violence.

      Folks, doesn’t this type of discussion bother you, especially the woman reader?

      • female

        most guys have small penises and must push pretty hard to stretch the vagina. (most women have small breasts(just facts)) therefore “rough” is a relative term. the vagina is thick, especially aroused. stretch it out.

        note: be gentler with younger women. the sensitive spots in their vaginas haven’t yet developed including labia. they love foreplay.

        about cunnilingus, master or abandon. women feel guilty if you don’t like it and their security goes to zero. remember, unlike men, they don’t get off on the power-trip(excluding dominatrix)

      • James

        Lol I was exaggerating if you couldn’t tell, plus I added some sarcasm to the mix. The interesting thing about humans is that we all seem to lack imagination at the most inconvenient times. Like seriously, are you forreal here?! Lol do you really think I meant to literally do all of that of what I said earlier?! It’s not even possible, and if you gotta 8+ inch size dong it really ain’t gonna be enjoyable for either party. But, I’m sure you already knew that…right? In fact, you’re very smart so you not only knew this and knew that I was exaggerating, that the real reason you even decided to comment was either for attention, seeing how your overall point targeted this entire topic…or…perhaps it was because you’re the type who likes to argue his/her point(s) against anyone just for the sake of arguing. Logically, there was really no point in commenting.

        But, since you did comment I’ll challenge you:

        First, I agree that like with a lot of things the “battle is won or loss before the war” – congrats, captain obvious 🙂

        However…”practicing during the preseason is NOT the same as performing during game time”

        My point is that are countless guys out there that have mastered the art of making a girl feel like a women outside of the bedroom (special, loved, respected, adored, safe, secure, and like themselves). But, those same guys could also make those girls feel like whores in the bedroom! How? Easy. It’s called lack of intimacy and passion. It’s what happens when you got the seemingly perfect guy who, when having sex, just lays there on top of you and starts humping like a horney dog. Or the guy who lays on his back with his hands behind his head, waiting for you to get on and please him somehow. Or the guy that just watches himself stick it in, pulls it out, and repeats as if he’s seeing a magic trick or something…or the guy who’s so scared he does nothing and you as the women has to take complete control.

        Oh wait…now the seemingly perfect guy doesn’t look so well-polished, now does he! Well duhh! That’s because it’s not entirely all about what the fuck happened outside the bedroom.

        The facts are consistent: women want to feel desired. They want to feel like they’re your first, AND your last. And guess what? Not all women are the same, right? Which means that each of them has a slightly different way (a preference) of receiving the message that they are your goddess of love, lust, and desire.

        Some may want you to want them as often as the damn ticks of a clock! Some of them want cuddle sex. Some want to feel you “deep inside them” and some weirdly want pain.

        So all interpretations aside, no matter how you spin it, setting aside all exaggerating points of views, the bottom line is women, and really people in general want to feel connected with their partner in a way where it feels as if there is no one else in the world that matters and no other moment in the world that matters except this moment and the two (or three lol) people in it.

        …you’re welcome.

    • Sum Guy

      Agreed that it is more about passion than roughness. It’s about her feeling safe enough with you to explore her inner erotic desires. Without the connection, the advice here is just sleazy porn, with a trusting connection it’s erotic. Funny how that works with human sexuality, it’s not the act itself so much as the connection between the people.

      I don’t agree at all that many women want all these things, especially anything that leaves a mark, but many women want some of these things.

  45. usman ali khan

    Nice article. I wish I could knew more about these things about 5 years ago.

  46. jason

    I’ve been experimenting with the rough sex recently since reading this sort of stuff.
    I go as hard as humanly possible with long, deep, fast, relentless strokes.
    Some girls seem to like it, but i’ve noticed that the younger ones are frozen like deers in the headlights and can look uncomfortable or even upset.
    Maybe it’s more about adapting to the person based on their age and their general ‘vibe’. A girl with a dirty look in her eye whose had her fair share of men is maybe a better candidate for the rough stuff (trying to fuck her throat though her pussy as someone else above me put it)

  47. dean

    when we know our girl is not intrested to kiss yet..but if we want to kiss her than what to do ??

  48. Irene

    Sweet and great post you have here; reading your ebook has helped my sex life a great deal.


  49. joeyg

    Had to skip half the comments cause they kinda went on forever….Anyway, please STFU author. Men that know how to throw down don’t need a bunch of weirdos gumming up the works! Feel me?

    I call it “the touch” and I’m blessed with it. Also cursed.
    Thanks for writing this.

  50. Mary Mercy

    Exactly! Many guys do it just for the sake it it. They really should see this and save it on their diaries!

  51. Lisa

    How do you know what most women want??? How large and scientific was the survey? I work in the field and would disagree with you….based on my experiences of myself, friends, family and ‘work’ so I cannot be sure! I think we all like a good fuck sometimes but to say that most women want that most of the time, I don’t think so….unless they are already in a loving relationship and want the excitement???

  52. Tigertiger

    Sometimes a damn good hard fucking and the ole jellyleg makes my day. My other half is a selfish lover as he doesn’t go down on me but expects a blowjob. I’m always on top don’t get me wrong I like it. I like giving and receiving but my Ninja likes porn more than actually mashing our bodies together.

    I admit I give myself better orgasms and leave the cherry tweaking like an electric fence long after I have finished down there. I would love him to be more adventurous believe me I have tried. I do adore him but man, am I frustrated as hell. The author nailed it if you excuse the pun and it goes both ways if a woman lays there for queen and country I would imagine it’s just as boring and probably as much fun as screwing a warm chicken with giblets still intact after a while (my man does seem to lay there he seems to like tv porn so maybe is thinking that too but not in the same sense), and apart from wanting him to fuck me so hard and adventurously so I do find it a bonding experience and not just of the kinky sort either.

    Well anyway, I’m going to pound my lil friend that lives in a drawer (he gets wank envy too can’t even play with myself without getting moaned at). I miss sex and considering buying shares in Kleenex as the amount he still manages to get through is mind boggling so might be a good investment that and Duracell; love that damn cheeky bunny that and washing machines on full spin and the multiple settings my drawer buddy has. (I think I need a good seeing to) either that or banned from the launderettes in the local area.

  53. Xavier

    Stupid article treating men like idiots, seriously, all that is basic common sense. If you hang out with people who don’t act normal only you are to blame. Some of us can’t fucking come with a plastic rubber in our dick, it’s how it is, take the pill (talking like you, you can’t call me sexist as you don’t care about equality either).

  54. Ramson

    This is one of the most fucking tip that fascinates me. I wish a full guide to best fucking satisfies my need to these sweet babes we live to see daily. Thanks to the propriater

  55. Steven Rohan

    Mehn! I love this shit,never seen such a real post b4.. If I could have you post on my site… #proudlyaNIGERIAN

  56. Wojtek

    What the article says may or may not be right, but first, before you even begin to think about fucking, you actually need to have someone to fuck. Now, I may be an utter wuss, or I may have been so hurt before and my psyche so destroyed that perhaps part of me no longer wishes any intimacy and sexual contact, but one way or another I haven’t had sex for three years and four months so I am beginning to forget what it means and – to my absolute horror but also amazement – I need sex less and less…

    On a (slightly) different topic: why is it then – if what the article says is true – that when I did have sex with women, most of them had hurt feelings afterwards, telling me that I was only after their body and not showing them tendrness and love, to the point that afterwards I was AFRAID of having straight, normal, happy sex and I REFRAINED from having one lest I hear that again?

    On a yet different note, for such passionate hot sex and relentless fucking (although not without mutual respect) to happen, both people need to feel attractive to themselves and to each other. My feeling is I am not attractive to myself, neither am I attractive to the opposite sex. So I will never probably experience such passionate love-making (or fucking, whatever we call it) because I will have a feeling that a) I am not her in-bed macho man (outside of the bedroom I wouldn’t really want to be one), and b) my body is so inattractive that it could not possibly make any woman hot and wet.

    I envy both those couples who experience passionate love and those who experience passionate sex (sometimes it is only love, sometimes – only sex, mostly both). I haven’t have any for such a long time that the whole article seems to me really abstract and purely theoretical. 🙂

    And, by God, what am I even doing here, I was browsing the net for something completely different? 🙂

  57. Marin Eder

    This article isn’t really helpful. Women aren’t sexual objects. And the way this author suggests men to tell their partners on bed “you diry bitch”, huh? I think such could be a turn off! Sex is an act of love and devotion to each other. A woman should feel cared for during sex.

    And I’m not a fan of rough/brutal banging.

  58. Razaq

    good website, its very educative and attractive both psychologically and emotionally

  59. A.

    lol, just because one woman says she likes it rough and those who don’t like it rough are miniorities doesn’t make it a fact, that’s her opinion!
    did she conduct a survey/reseach/poll to reach this conclusion ?
    i find most of the article man-oriented
    i only had 3 friends who like it rough through out my life and i’m 26 !
    what makes me feel sick is you’re implying that we like this based on non-evidence based article and guys gonna start treating us like whores thinking thats what we want!

  60. Slim

    Well just a note, My wife is so small and I am very well endowed, I am 62 and have a strong libido. Just to enter my wife it takes her to be very wet and she hates lube.
    Sometimes it takes an hour of foreplay , when I do get the head inside of her she wants just a little at a time but after I get my whole manhood inside she want me to pound her so hard, I do worry that I am hurting her sometimes, but her orgasms are so hard and her pussy is so tight that usually her contractions make me come . She always makes sure that I am satisfied even after her orgasm . Maybe I am blessed or maybe she is blessed…One thing for sure is I never had a woman like this and in my later years on this earth I am counting my blessings for everyday I am with her…..

    • The Docta

      Kate, needs to be drilled like a whore. Can any of you lads please step up and bang this girl till she begs you to stop. She clearly wants to be taken on a sexual adventure of her lifetime. Id do it if i was single in a heartbeat! goodluck Kate hopefully you get what you deserve!

  61. JonnyLe

    Dirty talk is so important for me and my wife. We always try something new and women demanded respect. So what we have to do in bed is to make them feel more them awesome. I take male enhancement pills to have hard erections and to last long in bed. Then I can give my girl for hours what she deserves! 😉

  62. Charlie

    I man was made to be the best in bed.We do not need to be told how to..Its a natural instinct.Its a lie that we are not good for this job man!!!.The best of the best in having sex with the woman is the man.So man learn from other man.

  63. The Very Truth Of All

    The very sad thing is that many women are Fucking their Girlfriends with their very own Dildos since so many of us Straight Good Men are having a very Difficult Time meeting a Good Normal Straight Woman today. And what makes it more sad is that the women of today that are Suppose to be Straight are really Bi as well. Go figure.

  64. FlukeLSX

    Soo, having actually read this drivel of an article. Only two things come to mind.

    1. The author is a fucking whore and has no clue what a man wants and what a man’s fears would be.

    2. She doesn’t know her ass from a hole in the ground when it comes to understanding men in general.

    She reminds me of my ex. After playing one mind game after another, then when we did fight and argue, she gives me a black eye and I put her dumb ass in jail for it. The cop even called me a pussy for not hitting her. After my ex got out of jail, she told me, “Why didn’t you have sex with me?” /facepalm srsly? You think I want to have sex with you after you give me a fucking black eye!?

    My ex also thinks in this day and age it’s normal for a woman to date a man for money and fuck everyone else. The OP strikes me as just such a person. Materialistic to the highest degree and doesn’t give a flying fuck who she hurts along the way.

    I can assure you @OP. You are the least attractive woman I’ve “read” about.

    • Iris

      Some of the comments on this article, like how the author is a whore…. did you even actually read it? Do you know anything at all about women? Seems like we have a lot of little boys commenting here and a lack of real men. Maybe that’s why you’re all reading an article about how to fuck women properly. As a female I can safely say this is 100% spot on advice for anybody wanting to please a woman. Take control (but don’t be controlling – there’s a difference). We might be independent and feminist outside of the bedroom but sometimes we just want to relinquish that control for a little bit.

  65. Jason

    What are you like the hooded whore Robin Hood? Why can’t you show your face for one?
    Second, do you really think every man or or boy is like me and wants to please the woman they’re with to the point that they’ll open every door, scratch her back and compliment the way she elegantly lets farts out?
    NO! Even I got tired of doing that shit after so many fucks, and no I’m not renowned for my sexual abilities in my home town as far as I know, but YES I do get it when I’m confident and wait it.
    If you’re going to make something like this it’s great to have the feelings and punctuations in it like you did, but don’t for a second think that all men should be the same because it’s what get you and the rest of ladyhood off.
    If you really think its necessary for us to calculate how many vibrations in the clitorial area gets you going then you should be a matheticial anatomy doctor, not a “this is how to please a woman” doctor.
    I’ve been with women who enjoy the size of my dick and I’ve been with women that look like stiffs.
    If you want to please the stiffs then you’re doing good because at least you’re getting pussy.
    If you’re too small then focus on the foreplay and you will get better at it.
    If you’re too big focus on being as gentle as you can while still stretching the walls.
    Eating pussy has always been a problem for me and I’ve been with one girl for the past 11 years (not counting the 25-30 I’ve had inbetween)
    Every woman is different and if you feel like you can’t find that special spot to stimulate then you’re not alone.
    A woman can be wet just by our conversation and I can penetrate her with love and she’ll enjoy it or she can be wet because I’m touching her in the right places and she’s thinking about how it’s going to feel inside of her.
    The point I’m trying to make here is that if you take advice on how to please women from a woman you’re going to get varied results. Just like a woman will be one way for most of the month and then turn into a natural disaster for a day or five.
    Instead of relying on comments and enthusiasts to support your dick, try finding a girl that truly turns you on. Like I said, I’ve been dating one woman for the past decade and year and yet our sexual life is still in shambles. I’m a putz with her because she doesn’t turn me on like I need to be in order to deliver the most enjoyable experience.
    Overweight women are in excess in Murica and as a “black man”, I can enjoy them for an extent. I’ve dated a few, actually dated, not just fucked and tried again later, those were the skinny ones.
    This is where women are put on display for their imperfections. A woman can be a 10 up and down left and right and still have problems meeting guys who actually enjoy her, physically and relationship-wise.
    If you’re 5 feet, 5 inches tall, = to or >180 lb’s, you’re attractive to most men.
    I fall in love with faces all the time. But the body comes first when I’m just browsing. A lot of times when a girl is staring at me for a second and looks away, I’ll stare for a second or three later after noticing her. Then, instead of staring for the rest of the time shes in view, I’ll check her out again, and again, seeing if she looks back again or even gives me any signs. Usually I end up just enjoying the view for a minute and forgetting about it, but if a girl were to notice back, regardless of her physical appearance(to an extent), I’d be willing to talk to her.
    Instead of making posts about what a man needs to do to make a woman pleased in bed, ask yourself what you’re doing wrong for him to not be attracted enough to penetrate you again instead of leaving you hanging.
    No, I’m not saying fat women are unattractive.
    I am saying that men are attracted to attractive women.
    If you think your shit don’t stink but you’re 300 pounds with no man, you might be a fatass.
    Fat asses aren’t literally judged by their appearance. I’ve been with some plus sized women who were definitely more observant and prepared for the D who will be sexual and loving memories for the rest of my life.
    On another note, I’ve been with larger women who have been, notedly, “not what a man wants”.
    Sure we’ll fuck her, lick her, give her all the lovin’ we think she may want.
    But in the end, we don’t want a girl who doesn’t take care of herself, regardless of how big she is.
    When I think of women anymore I think of marriage. May have something to do with me having 3 kids and a “only sometimes enjoyable” ol’ lady.
    But in the end if she wants some good dick, she’s gonna have to put equal opportunity on the table. Good pussy is defined when a woman is equally interested in a man’s sexual finesse without worrying about the outcome. Because, honey, we are trying to bust a nut, no matter who we are unless we are truly in love with you. But when we inside ya we’re definitely gonna try to make a statement unless its “old pussy”. New pussy fuels us when we feel unappreciated.
    No man or woman will ever see into the mind of the opposite sex so just go back to the oldest way of man. The Bible. Give him his fill and give her her fill. If you tired go to sleep ho.

  66. Iris

    Who’s the author of this article? It isn’t credited but it says it was written by a woman. Just asking as its pretty fucking spectacular and would love to read anything else they have written 🙂

  67. thinking


    Would you consider breaking up with a guy because he is taking it slow?

    I was dating this girl that I really liked, and even though we had intimacy, and I was eating her out often –to the point of orgasm–, I still hadn’t have sex with her.

    After like 1 month into this relationship, which was actually pretty serious –I had met her mother, we had traveled together– everything really cooled off, physical contact with her became pretty much impossible, not even passionate kissing anymore. She didn’t tell me why, but I’m all day thinking if maybe it was because I took things too slow.

    After everything cooled off, the relationship continued for 2-3 more months, but without physical contact. She kept distancing herself from me, day after day, until I never heard from her again, since last week.

    Any thoughts?

    • Iris

      Hi thinking 🙂

      I’ve been in a similar situation with a guy and from a female perspective I have to say that it’s possible she wasn’t 100% into you to start with. Whilst taking it slow could have something to do with it – I personally start to feel like the guy isn’t interested in me and I then lose interest if we haven’t slept together within a few weeks – it sounds like it’s also a case of she just wasn’t that bothered to start with and so things gradually cooled off between you.

    • Sum Guy

      I think there is a lot more to it than that. My guess is you were more serious about it than her and she backed off because she felt you were more serious than her and she didn’t want to lead you on.

  68. noob

    In a couple of days a will meet a woman i met on a dating site for a second time. I am not sure, but it looks like she likes sex. She initiated chats about sex, sent me her sexy pics. And a few days ago we were chatting and she asked if i like when woman is on top. I said i like freaking everything in sex. I said i really want to be by her side and make love with me. She says, but you so far away. I asked her, what if i was beside her atm, would she agree to have sex. She said yes. I freaking jumped in my car and drove 150km to her. I am 30 and it was my first time with non prostitute. I had no idea how to please her. I had troubles keeping it hard. Maybe because her pussy was not tight enough ? It took me few attempts to finish inside her. And only after i remembered a porn video i watched. In couple of days we are meeting again and i am sure we will fuck. This time i want to fuck her proper. Keep my penis hard and pound her pussy fast and deep.

  69. Iris

    I love how Noob’s automatic reason for not being able to stayhard is to assume it’s because the woman “wasn’t tight enough.” Ever think the problem could be with you, not with her? This is where men and women are soooo different, a woman would automatically assume she had a problem/issue whereas a man is often quick to rely on his ego and assume the problem lies with the woman. Reality check!

    • Sum Guy

      Yah, but Noob is just that.

      Noob, look up some articles on male arousal and “hardness.” I think you will find it’s like 90% mental until you get a good 20 years older, or are obese and have high blood pressure. Barring anything physical, it’s likely in your head. Your post says this was your first non-prostitute and you had no idea how to please her; that right their is anxiety my friend and it can certainly make staying hard, hard, as well as interfere with you finishing.

    • noob

      oh. do not get me wrong. I did not want to sound like i blame her for not being virgin tight. I am sure it is all my problem. A decade of watching and masturbating to petite teen porn messed up my mind. I always had serious issues with confidense and i was not the brightest light bulb in the crowd. But now i am putting in the work and i get responses from female. Some even called me good looking. That is a whole new world to me. Of course all this is happening on dating site, but i already met and had sex with one female and i am meeting her in 20 hours or something. A few other girls are on shedule to meet with me. I have so many things to learn

  70. Adornis

    I wouldn’t take this article seriously…

    A man has a Lot too loose if he takes the first step…
    Fear of Rejection is one thing.. loss of dignity is another one.

    The worst is getting into legal trouble even slightly physical… will put him in legal issues..
    Laws are heavily skewed towards women … the man can be imprisoned without evidence….

    What happens in prisons everyone knows…

    seriously …. I Wud never ever make the 1st move ..not because I m shit scared.. because I know what it is to face court room or what it is in prison…

    My point …she is a grown up women not a sextoy…. if she genuinely liked you and wanted you she would have gone for you, you making the move on her will not help
    Relax guys things are not this way in reality 🙂 get a life first

  71. This Is Why Many Of Us Good Men Are Still Single Today

    The sad thing is that Most of these women now are Gay and have their very own Dildos and Girlfriends today.

    • Thick McRunFast

      Most of them may have those things but deep down inside, a lot of them still want a hard cock every now and then.

  72. Adorni

    This is obvious crap and outdated stuff not applicable in todays real world or for millennials…
    Women dont wait for you to fuck them if they re into u they ll tell you..

  73. LB

    I have just read this article and think whilst some of it applies to what I personally like – it is a ridiculous statement to say that this is what women want! I hate some of these things! I am sure some of the guys I have been with have used moves they’ve picked up from their previous partners, and from watching porn. Some of these things I may like, others not so much, but what another women will like will be totally different to what I like!

    I personally wouldn’t advise being too rough without knowing that she likes it first, and if anyone called me a dirty bitch during sex I’d show them the door immediately.

    So I just want to say to all men out there – just speak to the person you’re sleeping with/dating/in a relationship with. Ask her what she personally likes, tell her what you like, and you’ll have great sex – it’s actually a simple as that! That’s the fun of getting to know someone and what you mutually like in bed.

    Don’t listen to magazines, the media, blogs like this – every person in the world is different, and every woman likes different things in bed! It doesn’t make you look weak or inexperienced to ask what she likes, if you ask confidently, and tell her it’s because you want to give her pleasure!

    I think people get to hung up on doing the right or wrong thing with sex! Just go with the flow of what you like, and ask her what she likes too!

    Open and real communication is the best thing you can ever have with anyone in life, in any situation!

    • Fred2016

      Thanks LB. Until I read your comment I thought I was a freak for caring about women and what they want. Although I have to say my caring side probably lost me my last partner as she wasn’t interested in foreplay or making love she just stripped off rolled on her back and said “on you go” which I found a little off putting at first. Wish I’d read this thread before I lost her – just banging her made me feel like I was just using her but in hindsight it was what she wanted after all!

  74. HaloHat

    So thats why they kept coming back. Huh.

    Sorry some of you people commenting didn’t find the authors writing absolutely hilarious ’cause I was laughing so hard people in the house next to me wanted to know whats so funny. If you didn’t find great humor in the article I really hope your life improves someday.

    Nobody is going to be perfect every time with everyone. If you can’t find some humor in the “whoops” your likely in for a miserable life. And if your “whoop”s is kinda bad you were, as the author points out, probably not thinking of or listening [verbal and body] the person you were with but rather playing out something you watched in a porn.

  75. Fuckherpussy

    This is true. I treat her like a princess and many times we make love but a lot of the time I fuck her like she’s a whore. I’m not massive, about 8 inches and quite thick, but I send it home, I destroy her pussy and leave her with cum dripping down her legs. I always start by eating her pussy until she tells me she can’t take anymore, she needs my cock. At that point sometimes I skull fuck her just to show who’s in charge, not a bj, a pure skullfuck making her deepthroat every now and then with no warning. Then she gets it in the pussy, you know you’ve hit the mark when she grunts aswell as moaning. BUT I respect her boundaries, she don’t like facials all the time and she don’t want anal but her pussy is really tight so im ok with that. My woman has big tits if yours does too then use it as a guage, dont let her hold them back and if they’re not almost knocking her out they’re bouncing that hard when your destroying her pussy then you need to work on your core strength.
    The strongest, independant women will fuck you like they are a total whore in the bedroom if you show respect and treat them well outside of it. If she’s dominant, let her be, it usually means she’s been fucking sissies and wants a hard fuck. You can turn the tables half way through if you play your cards right, nothing more satisfying than looking a raging dominant feminist in the eye as you finish totally destroying her pussy and fill her to the brim with cum, in this situation, go down and clean her up with your tongue afterwards, she WILL cum very, very hard again just when she thought you were finished. And the act will turn her on so much, make her feel so dominant, even though in truth she just got well and truly slutted, she’ll come back and beg more more. At this point with a dominant woman, skullfuck her and drop your load on her face. You just sealed the deal, she’s your slut for as long as you want so next date, destroy her arse!

  76. paul

    I try t go with the vibrations

    I know when to go slow and make love then plug it in and let it rip
    pretty sure you need to make her feel loved and valued at the same time

    dont just fuck , dont just make love, do both and do it good

  77. The Disgusting Sad Truth

    Well nowadays unfortunately many women want another woman in bed with them these days which really explains why many of us Straight Good Men are still Single today since many of these type of women are certainly Real Losers anyway to begin with.

    • sharkface

      That sucks. I’ve been married for years and my whoring around days are long behind me. I’m thankful, back in the day, the girls loved to fuck. They’d get drunk, fuck like rabbits, and never complain the next day that you raped her. If she did something she regretted, well, she learned a lesson about getting too drunk.

  78. Labt

    I really want fuck one but am not able to ….
    As I live in India ,an orthodox society to live ….
    I am an fuckin old virgin ..
    What to do to attract a female towards me

  79. Neel

    This was savage, I agree though. If she is not sore and her ass not red, you are doing it wrong. She should be dripping and begging for more when you do her.

    If you’re not strong enough to leave a mark, do something about it. Get to the gym and lift skinny boy.

  80. Akash Fating

    For a Good sex first you have physically strong and Mental y strong during sex you have start with slow , Means start with seducing , kissing and smooching and many , Slowly slowly convert into hard sex

  81. Mate

    Hehe, that’s not my wife there, she doesn’t eve like her breasts to be touched 🙁 I went from being with a super crazy nymph 3X/day sex, to my current wife = 2X/month 🙁 what should I do ladies?

  82. Looking for horny girls and women's

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  83. Dave

    In the years of my life I have fucked and made love with many women that I remember their name and many that I remember and don’t remember their name, but I have not forgot any of them. I have truly never fucked a women just for myself or had a women fuck me just for my personal pleasure. However there is one that after 40+ years I would love to have another fuck with her. I met her in a bar she was 16 years older than me. She went to the motel with me and allowed me to slowly undress her beautiful body and caress her while she did the same to me. When we touched each other and I entered her she was the most vocal and responsive women I have ever fucked and that brought me to the same level. She spent the night and we fucked through the night, one of us would wake and wake up the other for a repeat. She was the greatest fuck of my life. She left in the morning leaving me without knowing her name or number and that has haunted me the rest of my life. Even at 74 you remember each as being special but long for the exception and another repeat.

  84. YONAS

    hi guys i can see u r having some good ass sex!!
    on the other side i am virgin isnt that so sad so guys if u have any tip on how to fuck a girl i mean for the first time i will be happy to hear it!!!

  85. Alan

    To be honest sleeping with Landmine is much easier the way you describe to get women in bed.

  86. Colleen

    I my God, thank you for writing this! I am 50 and single, all the guys I have almost dated need to read this! I couldn’t agree more! Bravo!

  87. jackp

    You’ve described my wife of 38 years to a tee. She’s 57 and likes it rough, likes the dirty talk, likes me to take charge, loves to suck my cock/balls, etc., even likes to watch some mild porn at times. Most of the women I’ve known through out my life would agree with this article 100% (even when I was in high school). I’ve only have one timid mouse who lay there like a corpse.

  88. EASY

    I had been in masturbating habit for 18 yrs(@14 & it deed affected my passion for sex pls guy help me i want to stop it.

  89. ankit

    Like my problem is I use to come bit soon,but I want her to satisfy before I complete ,any suggestions for me

  90. Rahziel

    Women are simply shit. they do not deserve anything good in bed. In fact just fuck them and dump them as soon as possible, otherwise they will leech on you like the parasites they are.

  91. chris

    Men have to be a lot more careful these days, with rape cases on the increase when the woman decides weeks later that she was drunk and didn’t inititate the sex (therefore rape). Hmm, yes sure of course guys want this risk just for a slut fuck. Also, the effort to look like an ‘alpha’ is just too much, like going to the gym, wearing expensive clothes and spending time with the most boring bunch on the planet (self absorbed women), men are passing go and chilling out. Let the alphas have their sluts and unwanted STIs and children.

  92. Austine

    Maybe u should make a video on this article for full understanding. I am a little bit confused

  93. Mike

    This should be mandatory reading for all young men. I didn’t find this article until I was 33. I’ve been married 8 years. The concept of actually fucking my wife “properly” never occurred to me. It was always about “making love” — gentle, milquetoast love. I’ve been moving away from behaving that way (originally ingrained by “act gentlemanly” upbringing) in favor of more unbridled love making — I’m not asking her to do anything different, just changing my own behavior, and the results have been… noticeable. Life changing.

  94. Richard

    Leigh, thank-you, thank-you, thank-you. THANK_YOU !

    I just met a woman who has at times said things like “Why are you talking so much” and “Spank me!” and “What are you doing?”.
    Once she told me to go watch porn to try and learn from it.
    I can easily imagine her saying something like “If you want to fuck me, then fuck me !”
    However my head is full of the ideas of treating women softly, with respect and giving them time to be “ready”.
    Thankfully she likes me for other reasons so she hasn’t dumped me yet.
    I am hopelessly infatuated with her but I know I am on probation.

    I think your article finally has gotten through to me.
    My God, I feel like I see for the first time in my life.

    • Emma

      Fucking her good does not mean not respecting her.
      I see myself as a princess by day/slut by night kind of girl and if a guy fucks me hard, it means he respects my desires!

  95. Brian

    No we won’t “just fuck you” that’s how we end up in court. Cause in the morning you will be feeling guilty and start wanting to blame your actions on others. Stay away from women like this guys, stay far away.

  96. Truth Is

    Nowadays most women want other women to fuck them instead. Then again which that is a completely different topic altogether. Save that one for Jerry Springer.

  97. Emma

    Oh my goodness, thank you! I thought I was crazy! My girl friends all like it smooth and I’ve always felt like the dirty one. Now I know I’m not alone!
    Yes, I love everything you talked about and dirty talk is the trickiest I think for some guys…
    Hummm, After reading this, I definitely need to be fucked good and hard! Thanks

  98. Alex

    I’ve been married to a beautiful woman for 18 years and we’ve been together for over 20. We’re in our mid-40s. If there is one thing I know about her, it’s that she wants to be fucked hard 99 times out of 100. She wants to get pounded. And her desire to get hammered hard has only increased over the years. So, yes, we engage in foreplay. Yes, foreplay often involves mutual oral sex. But when it comes time to fuck, she wants it as hard as I can give it. She wants the cock and she wants it hard and deep anyway she can get it. I think as women go into their 40s that’s what they want.

  99. Clay

    OF course if women follow their hormonal urges to make babies it will be simple. You feminists fucked it it all up. Yes, there are dick head men, but not all of us my God! I give up! I’ll rent a Vagina.. I don’t know how to be a man with women today. If I’m a MAN you don’t like it. If I’m sensitive you don’t like it!. God! just listen to your pussy and let me fuck you!

  100. Eros

    I must say after scrolling through some comments, that this is more spot on than some want to believe. Say how open minded some are.

    As being a dominant male ive always have had great comments and women love having sex with me. I do all the things here and more, yet its important to read the woman, not everyone will like the same things, yet there quite a few common things written here which is true.

    You may think its a load of bollocks, but that means youve never have experienced great sex. I take great pleasure in satisfying a woman and they love the things k do to them. If im not sure i communicate in a manner they appreciate. I always tell them to tell me if its too much because there are girls who are shy and wont. Im not the guru, but this article said all i already knew, just confirmed it even more for myself.


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