Where the woman is won and lost…

Do you know the exact moment when you lose her?

Can you pinpoint the precise second when her radiant smile turns to a scowl and you walk away empty handed?

I can.

No, it’s not when you first make awkward eye contact.

No, it’s not when you nervously walk across the bar.

No, it’s not when you stumble through your opening line.

No, it’s not when you ask the same, polite questions that the last guys asked her.

She’s lost FAR before then.

She’s lost when you wake up in the morning and just follow the same routine you’ve followed for the past 5 years because you’re too stuck in your head to notice just how miserable you really are.

She’s lost when you let the arrogant guy in your office put you down and don’t stand up for yourself because you just don’t have the balls.

She’s lost when you stop trying to be better than you were yesterday and start focussing on not becoming worse tomorrow.

She’s lost when you don’t do the things you truly love because you’re too afraid of what other people will think of you.

She’s lost when you put your dreams and passions on hold to follow the life plan set out by your father.

She’s lost when you stop asking ‘What do I really want to do?’ and start asking ‘What should I be doing?’

She’s lost when you let opportunity after opportunity pass you by because it’s easier than sticking your neck out.

You don’t lose her when you stumble over your lines, you lose her when you live your life in a way that means that the only you have going for you is the series of rehearsed lines you memorised from some internet guru.

You don’t lose her when make awkward eye contact, you lose her when spend so much of your life caring about what other people think that the only eye contact you can make is awkward.

You don’t lose her when you run out of things to say, you lose her when you live the kind of life that gives your nothing to talk about.

You don’t lose her when you fail to approach, you lose her when you care more about what a group of strangers think about how you live your life than you do about creating the life you want.

Your problems with women don’t just happen in the split second when notice the hot blonde in the tight black skirt strut across the bar.

They’re problems that you cultivate in every moment of every day.

You live a boring and routine life and wonder why your conversations are boring and routine.

You let other peoples opinions dictate how you live your life and wonder why you struggle to approach when there’s people around.

You allow fear to dictate the life choices you make and then wonder why your approach anxiety is so crippling.

You spend your life living by other peoples standards and then wonder why you care so much about what she thinks.

If you’re not getting the success with women you want, it’s not because you have a problem with women. It’s because you have a problem with the very specific mechanisms you live your life by.

You’re dependent:

– On approval from strangers
– On your parents vision of a perfect future
– On validation from mates
– On the media for your moral compass
– On permission from you social circle
– On everything and everyone around you

And because they’re not just problems that occur around women, you can’t fix them by just focussing on women.

You’re not going to break your cycle of neediness by standing in a bar and practising your sexual escalation with 20 women.

You’re not going to break your dependence on validation by approaching 16 random shop keepers.

You’re not going to break your desire for social acceptance by memorising quick lines and routines.

You need to look big picture. You need to look holistically.

You need to take a big step back, have a look at how you’re living your life, why you’re living your life, who you’re living your life for, and then take action to change.

That’s the only way you’re going to make a real difference and that’s the only way you’re going to stop the women you want walking out of the club with the guys you envy.

Becoming the kind of Man that women are naturally attract to takes time, effort, commitment, and an ability to keep going when the times are tough.

It also takes the right information to keep you moving in the right direction.

If you’re struggling to find the real core of your limitations with women and the solutions to overcome them, then here’s a good place to start.

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9 Responses

  1. Young-S

    Hey Leigh great article especially for those hard times… actually I’m having some talking about “routine life” what if a routine life consist of doing the things you love like
    weightlifting, creating great connection with beatiful women and spending time with friends. Is it that considered a boring life? I mean you do what you really want as a rutine

    • Leigh (LoGun)

      There’s nothing inherently wrong with a routine. The only time a routine is going to become a problem is when you’re living it because someone else has told you to live it or you’re too afraid to change it to what you really want.

      There is a lot of power in routine but only if it comes from the right place.

  2. ron

    This is so true. Just like someone else said: if you want fundamental change, you gotta change everything!

  3. phil

    Great article, you’re totally right Leigh.
    On the side note, i can’t figure out what my passion is, and i’m struggling to find it/develop it. Any suggestions?

    • Leigh (LoGun)

      It’s a question I’ve been getting asked more and more over the last few months. I started writing out a quick guide but there was so much involved in it that it just seemed inadequate so I’m turing it into a full training program. It’s currently looking really solid and I’m even getting a lot of value out of creating it.

      I’m going to start trials in the next few weeks and once it’s done, I’ll make sure I let you guys know.


  4. AlexV

    This article is amazing, the comments piss me off and is the perpetual reason why most guys will never get out. They have to be told how to find their passion, how to be WALKED through EVERYTHING.

    And you should’ve mentioned the incessant self doubt, even about shit that hasn’t even happened yet– “oh well I won’t even be able to last long enough in bed with her” or “oh she’d probably just cheat on me anyway” or, “she’s too hot to want to talk to me”

    Hopefully you’re smart enough to realize where I’m going with this. Stop worrying, stop thinking, just do the things you want.


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